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Original poster

WIBU to get pizza delivered to DD's school for her birthday lunch?

708 replies

PizzaMom · 12/01/2019 19:51

I apparently am known as 'that' parent and have been given the side eye the few times I've gone in since!

It was DD's 16th last month on a school day. I ordered a few pizzas to be sent to school at lunchtime so she could share them with her mates in the common room. Teachers were not going to let her have themHmm and when they relented (by the time they got cold) made her and a few friends eat them in a separate meeting room when she had planned to share them as there was enough for about 20 people!

I don't see it as being that different from me bringing in a forgotten lunch box?

I also ordered flowers and a balloon to be delivered and school refused to let her have them until after school had finished.

I was trying to make DD's day special. I really didn't think would have been that much of an issue which ruined it a bit for DD.

WIBU?

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MaisyPops · 12/01/2019 21:06

AhoyAhoy
No lessons. I've heard that when it's someone's birthday we cancel the lessons, put on party tunes and Instagram the whole celebration #teacherswhocare #sweet16

3luckystars · 12/01/2019 21:06

I think tbe teachers just reacted like this because they were surprised.
Maybe just give them a heads up the next time, they would probably do a flash mob dance for her if they had notice. It doesnt even need to be a birthday, then she would definitely be surprised.

ShortandSweet96 · 12/01/2019 21:06

Or OP is making an attempt to get onto mumsnet madness on Twitter for some more attention.

BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou · 12/01/2019 21:06

will happily send runners to tell DC that their mums sent in forgotten PE kits

Because PE kit is to do with SCHOOL!

My DD had both her 16th and 18th birthdays at school. Her friend DS gave her cards it presents surprises, special,food etc. All happened AT HOME.

fruityb · 12/01/2019 21:07

And if my lesson had to stop because someone was getting flowers and balloons delivered I’d be massively pissed off. Like I say - do it on your time not other peoples!

Eminybob · 12/01/2019 21:08

Are you Beverley Goldberg?

Chickychoccyegg · 12/01/2019 21:09

at high school kids are more than responsible for their own food intake and lunches are not monitored, and they serve completely unhealthy options,so the pizza doesn't seem bad for that reason, although If this did actually happen, you were being a complete attention seeker, and i bet a few eye rolls were given, also flowers and balloons to school is ridiculous, did you expect dd to carry everything around all day?

skunkatanka · 12/01/2019 21:09

Dear God. Strange, OTT, ridiculous, embarrassing all spring to mind OP. I've taught teenagers in schools for 20 years and have never seen this happen before. I think if you were going to do it, the least you could have done would have been to check with the school first. Funnily enough, teachers and reception staff have got bigger things to be dealing with than pizza takeaways during the school day.

ILiveForNachos · 12/01/2019 21:09

Deffo a thread of someone wanting it to get in the paper......

Shockers · 12/01/2019 21:09

I think when I was 16, we might have thought anyone who had such a fuss made at school was a bit of an attention seeker. Fine to have a fuss made at home though!

Having said that, when it was DD’s 18th, on the last day of term, we booked a dj for a whole school disco. DD attended a special school and her friends were far flung, and many had health and mobility issues.

We talked it through with the headteacher and got permission in advance though!

mathanxiety · 12/01/2019 21:09

This thread has been a huge eye-opener.

I can't believe the flak the OP has been given.

I am in the US and students themselves order delivered food for lunch, parents send food deliveries too, and for a birthday it would not be unusual at all to have cakes, bouquets, balloons, etc. delivered.

Staff are not required to do anything wrt said food, bouquets, balloons, whatever... Students are expected to manage their own stuff themselves, share pizza or cupcakes or a cake with classmates, manage their flowers or balloons. Why would any of this be something staff would have to get involved with?
How silly.

Loving the sniff of 'very American' Hmm.
What a joyless existence you all lead.

Piggywaspushed · 12/01/2019 21:10

It upsets dinner ladies who spend a lot of time cooking and preparing food. The canteen directly loses money when students do this.

Mummylife2018 · 12/01/2019 21:11

You sent the delivery guy onto school premises?

multiplemum3 · 12/01/2019 21:11

Wow, is your daughter as much of an attention seeker as you?

Yulebealrite · 12/01/2019 21:14

This has made me laugh. It's so bonkers it's hilarious. And the ops indignation. Grin

wineandcheeseplease · 12/01/2019 21:14

This is amazing. The daily mail will love this one

Original poster
PizzaMom · 12/01/2019 21:15

No the runners take messages to the DC to tell them x has been left at Reception. That's all. There are at two at a desk in reception, always there.

There was no party. It was just pizza instead of school dinner or packed lunch.

Shit I should have asked for the school orchestra to be made available to take the flowers to her classroom when they arrived whilst playing Happy Birthday. Missed a trick there obviously.

I am offended anyone would accuse me of wearing JuicyShock. I only wear Pineapple for leisure wear thank you.

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NameChangeOhNameChange1 · 12/01/2019 21:15

Oh God, I'm absolutely cringing for you

BrilliantDarling · 12/01/2019 21:16

Maybe just give them a heads up the next time, they would probably do a flash mob dance for her if they had notice.

😂 😂 😂

beansontoastfortea · 12/01/2019 21:16

LOVE IT OP!! Wish my mum had sent me in a pizza at school.

What killjoys

MintyCedric · 12/01/2019 21:18

You are absolutely that parent.

I feel really sorry for the staff that had to deal with the mayhem you no doubt caused and I'm amazed your daughter wasn't mortified.

AlexanderHamilton · 12/01/2019 21:19

Totally unreasonable and disruptive in the middle of the school day.

I’ve done it (bought dominoes for 40 kids) but it was for the cast of the school show where ds had the lead role and they were all staying behind school on the opening night as there wasn’t time to go home. The point being the majority of the school had gone home and delivery could be made directly to someone waiting at reception.

Pieceofpurplesky · 12/01/2019 21:20

Wow I bet your daughter was the highlight of social media in school - with most saying was a spoilt brat she was.
My school would have sent the pizza delivery away. Plenty of time for that after school.

The fact you are annoyed makes it even worse - you can't even see it's wrong. I hope every day from now on every parent does this ConfusedHmm

squiglet111 · 12/01/2019 21:20

Wow op! Let me just explain to you why this was so wrong. Not sure how big your daughters school is, but let's say there are around 150 students in each year group. If your daughter was allowed to have her pizza in the common room and was able to walk it through the school with all the balloons etc, then this would have caused up roar by every student that witnessed this. So little Bobby and every other student goes home and tells their parents that for their bday they want a special bday lunch. 150 in year 11, plus the rest of the kids in the school that totalling around 750 special bday lunches at school... 365 days in a year.... So everyday would be pizza day or multiples! Can you not see how that would be inappropriate?

School are probably already going to have trouble when your daughters friends start wanting pizza lunches and their parents kick up a stink about it if school say no! Can't believe you couldn't see beyond your own child's bday and the problem this would cause for the school. You r lucky they didn't bin it all

PositivelyPERF · 12/01/2019 21:20

Obviously none of your mums thought to do this for you or them

Nope, mine was a cunt and I’ve never been glad until now. 😁