WIBU to get pizza delivered to DD's school for her birthday lunch?

[PizzaMom]

I apparently am known as 'that' parent and have been given the side eye the few times I've gone in since!

It was DD's 16th last month on a school day. I ordered a few pizzas to be sent to school at lunchtime so she could share them with her mates in the common room. Teachers were not going to let her have them and when they relented (by the time they got cold) made her and a few friends eat them in a separate meeting room when she had planned to share them as there was enough for about 20 people!

I don't see it as being that different from me bringing in a forgotten lunch box?

I also ordered flowers and a balloon to be delivered and school refused to let her have them until after school had finished.

I was trying to make DD's day special. I really didn't think would have been that much of an issue which ruined it a bit for DD.

WIBU?

Well!

What a tool

I think this is a wind-up.
Sending flowers to school is fucking ridiculous.
Embarrassing and attention-seeking behaviour.
I don't know why you ask if you were BU because you're not listening to everyone who says you were.
Did you send a stretch limo to pick her up too?

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At all the secondary schools in my area including ds’s school year 11 are not allowed off site at lunchtime and are not allowed to go to where the school gate is unless they have a pass (medical appointment etc).

They can take whatever they like (within reason) into school with them, balloons, teddies, whatever but can’t accept deliveries.

Schools are prepared to send runners for forgotten PE kits etc because they recognise that occasionally someone makes a mistake and forgets something.

Your daughter deserved the attention !? Jesus, imagine if everyone thought their child deserved special attention on their birthday at school. Save it for your own time. Love how you are making the teachers the unreasonable ones. Fuck wit.

Chapeau, OP.

I’m looking forward to the AIBU next January... ‘I had a brand new Mini delivered to my daughter’s school by Jeremy Clarkson and a rainbow-shitting unicorn for her 17th birthday. The school wouldn’t interrupt her lessons so she could have her special surprise that she asked for... AIBU?’

Also gagging to hear the period story.

Mathanxiety - I can indeed control my classes. This is still ridiculous. While those 20 were in the common room where was every one else meant to go? School staff have much better things to do with their time than go running around after birthday princesses with their deliveries! This was done to show off and exclude those people who aren't part of her group.

You were vu schools can't be delivery receivers. And pizza, just no, the kids would start doing it every day. The exception is kids at boarding school, we can send gifts there for birthdays for obvious reasons but they don't get them until school ends for the day

There delivery driver would never have got through the gates at my kids school. He'd have buzzed the buzzer, said what he was there for and been sent on his way. (Pupils aren't allowed to leave the school grounds for lunch either, even in sixth form).

I'm aware the school is stricter than many, but in this case it certainly would have solved the problem!

I've worked in schools and have teenagers. In my experience at least 95% would be absolutely horrified if a parent did this "for them."

Those who would like it - are the ones who like being the centre of attention, and really like disrupting the school day.

To be honest my DC's school would have refused delivery - unless it had been previously notified by a teacher. They would certainly not allowed her to have any of her "gifts" until the end of the school day. The Pizza does not meet the school food requirements.

And if you can't see a problem... Well my DC's school has 2000 pupils, assuming their birthdays are spread out evenly over the year. That would be 3 pupils a day receiving balloons.

Thing is with the best will in the world it will cause chaos. Staff trying to find the child, interruptions, balloons and flowers in the way........ then some kids might argue / feel upset that they wasn’t included etc. Times all that by 150 which is how many kids there are in my sons year but then think about other years getting involved as well, it would be ridiculous.

However I think you was trying to do a nice thing. I’d have probably stuck a badge on her and given her some chocolates / Krispy Kremes to give out at lunch or break and then had the house decorated with flowers and balloons for when she got home.

My son who is in year 7 wants me to send him pizzas on his birthday now 😂

Although I am also not very familiar with the whole concept of making a big fuss of someone for their birthday. A present and a cake is the norm in my family and friends.

This is a wind up account, right? Surely no one would actually be that stupid?

Wrt allergies: you are saying that handing around unsupervised food may "offend". Only offend? You just cannot be serious.

GladAllOver
The OP's Dd wasn't handing out bags of peanuts. Get a grip.

How do children with allergies get over the fact that other children can even neat a cheese sandwich?

Both OP and Her DD sound attention seeking and high maintenance.

...then some kids might argue / feel upset that they wasn’t included etc. Times all that by 150 which is how many kids there are in my sons year but then think about other years getting involved as well, it would be ridiculous.

Oh yes, that would be ridiculous all right.

Are you really saying that 16 year olds would feel put out that someone else got something and they didn't? If so, then you are raising monsters.

And yet people here have used the term 'entitled' to describe the OP and her DD...

*eat, not neat.

Bekabeech - My DCs' high school has 3,500 students and they cope with several mass pizza/sandwich/cake deliveries per month as well as daily deliveries of lunch that students order for themselves.

It's honestly not a big deal.

@mathanxiety I’m saying right or wrong it could happen and teachers don’t need the extra stress. I can tell you’re very invested in this, I’m not and my message was kind and polite. I’m pointing out that teachers don’t need extra work / distractions. They have enough on their plate, excuse the pun 😉

I don't really see the problem to be honest. Couldn't they just order it to the school themselves anyway?

Grammar, could they all not sit in the common room and accept the fact that other people have the right to have friends and to share with them, and that not everyone has to be catered to on a special occasion for one particular student?

Even back in my own school days in Dublin we had a common room in 6th year (aged 17) and could accept that groups of friends would sit together, share lunches or something special for a birthday, and it wasn't the end of the world if all four classfulls of people in the year weren't included. Just because one group used to head out to the lane at the back of the common room to smoke at lunchtime it didn't mean everyone else had to be included either...

I wonder what the male equivalent of harridan is? Such a horrible misogynistic term.

In my old school the only year that had a common room was the sixth formers. So this wouldn't have worked. Obviously every school had a different set up.
Not that the reception staff would have come around with flowers and that anyway . Sure they had better things to do.

Odd!
You are taking unreasonableness to a whole new level.

I'm shocked that you even contemplated doing any of those things.

You are definitely the most embarrassing parent EVER

I work in education and I thought I'd seen/heard most things but this takes the biscuit!