To think a car belongs to the family not the person who drives it?

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That really my DH is unable to drive due to disability and because of this he has decided he will not help me buy a car for our family and I need to do that on my own. He has a lot more money than me and has said he will help out here and there but will not cover that cost of a car we also have DC1 on the way so this is going to be a very expensive year financially and I don't really want to get a loan out for a car when he has enough in the bank to buy one. I just really want to know which one of us is being unreasonable in this situation.

Buy a car yourself. Load it up with half of the stuff in the house and run away. It's only going to get worse when the baby is born. Sorry

^ what pretty much everyone else has said. Did you leave the 'everything I have I give to you' bit out of your vows? Doesn't matter, it's still part of the contract.

Oh god. This place can be depressing. Yet another woman pregnant by a financially abusive man. Tied down and stuck with someone who would see her in debt, and refuses to contribute to joint costs.... why on earth are you having a kid with him? You should have gotten out as soon as this behaviour started.

Poor kid. One parent will have lots of money, but won't spend it on the family. The other parent will be struggling... And they will all be living in the same house.

More red flags than a golf course OP

This ^

Even if each partner paying 50% of all joint expenses were the way forward for a married couple with a small baby - and that is a BIG "if" for me - then, from what you've posted, it seems he isn't standing by his own theory.

By help you 'here and there' with the car = I will slip you the odd fiver 50p for petrol/parking. you'll be his taxi because you're his wife/carer but the purchase, insurance, tax, MOT and maintenance of said car will be yours because it will be your car.

Why are you having a child with this selfish man? That makes no sense.

You always find the man earns more, and it's HIS idea to keep the finances separate
This isn't always the case. From when I was small, my DM always advised me to have and keep my own money. She'd seen too many women stuck in bad relationships because they didn't have funds to just leave. And everyday on here, you will read threads from women who are stuck in exactly that position.

Op you have a baby on the way- this will get a lot worse. Either you'll be on maternity leave and scraping by surviving on thin air or you'll be back at work and paying for all the childcare and costs for the dc. This is 100% abuse

How the fuck can you bring yourself to have sex with this man?

Why are you putting up with his disgusting behaviour,

Words fail me - yet another woman who doesn’t know her worth.

we both own the house but so far I've paid every mortgage payment because and I quote he paid the deposit (which was less than I have paid since we moved here)

And he earns more than you? LTB