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To be embarrassed to tell my parents I’m pregnant?

115 replies

Lolois · 12/01/2019 10:02

It’s so stupid and I know that- I’m 32, married and the baby is planned for and I’m over the moon about me being pregnant but I’m worried about telling my parents. I know they know I have sex, but telling them feels so uncomfortable because it’s like yep we’ve had sex and now there’s proof of that in my stomach. I know that that’s not what they’ll focus on but ah I feel so awkward about telling them. Did anyone else feel like this?

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Shazafied · 12/01/2019 10:03

They will just be happy for you! Nobody thinks “oooh she had sex” when a pregnancy announcement is made !

LoniceraJaponica · 12/01/2019 10:03

Nope. Just tell them. Unless there is some kind of back story they will probably be thrilled.

Congratulations Flowers

Shazafied · 12/01/2019 10:03

Ps - your parents had sex too.

Chinnychinnychinnychib · 12/01/2019 10:06

Oh bless you! you know they had sex to make you, yes? I think they’ve probably worked out that you aren’t a virgin any more - don’t worry, they’ll be so thrilled to be grandparents that the mechanics of the conception won’t be anywhere near their mind! Actually now I think about it, I seem to remember feeling the same - funny, isn’t it?

User12879923378 · 12/01/2019 10:07

Grin I just think this is incredibly sweet.

I'm sure they're prepared for the possibility that you might have tried having sex by now!

Treaclepie19 · 12/01/2019 10:08

I felt exactly the same. Really weird!
I'm sure they'll be really happy for you :)

thinkfast · 12/01/2019 10:09

Wtaf! This is such a weird post. Do you come from a very repressed family? Don't you ever talk about sex? Is this really what you're worried about?

Anotherdayanotherdollar · 12/01/2019 10:09

I felt like this too, I hated telling people! Although when I hear of other peoples' pregnancies I absolutely never think "oh they had sex", I just think that its lovely/exciting news!

Nnnnnineteen · 12/01/2019 10:09

I felt exactly the same!!! It was the first time my dad had confirmation I had had sex and I felt like he would be really disappointed in me. Fwiw he was thrilled he was going to be a grandad. I was 31! Congratulations:)

Justincase87 · 12/01/2019 10:10

Haha me and DH did discussed this - he found it funny that he was basically saying 'yes I've had unprotected sex with your daughter' to my parents - I doubt they'll focus on it at all, but try not to overthink it!

user1539506092 · 12/01/2019 10:11

Congratulations! I felt like this too!! ESP telling DGF & DB! Blush

Quarepants · 12/01/2019 10:12

I was the same! I had been married 4 years and was still embarrassed Blush. I waited til I was 20 weeks. They were thrilled and adore their (now teenaged) grandchild.

They probably won't be surprised Grin

crispysausagerolls · 12/01/2019 10:12

Lollllll I felt this way too!!! Congratulations!!!!

Lopp · 12/01/2019 10:13

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uhtredsonofuhtred · 12/01/2019 10:14

Yes I felt exactly the same,but not so much with my mum just with my dad knowing  I've had 5 kids and each time I've left it to her to tell him I'm pregnant lol

Bananalanacake · 12/01/2019 10:15

I was exactly the same. I was 36 and wasn't going to tell them at all if I had my way. But my dp insisted on calling them when I was staying with my parents. I wanted to run away.

PippaParty · 12/01/2019 10:21

Yeh, I must say, my first baby was a honeymoon baby ( I stopped taking the pill the day we married , so yes a little quicker than we thought) but when we told my parents my mum's first comment, said in a very disgusted way was "Ohhh! So when did that happen then?" Took the shine off our news their disgust at thinking I was pregnant on my wedding day ( times have moved on!)

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 12/01/2019 10:25

Lopp - that's dreadful! Shock
How inhuman of your mother to react like that.

I didn't have any embarrassment about telling my parents I was pg, although I wasn't quite prepared for my mum's reaction ("oh no, then I'll have 6 grandchildren!" yes, and? eh?)
As it turned out though, she died before DS1 was born so she never did get to have 6 grandchildren.

MoaningSickness · 12/01/2019 10:26

We went to visit my parents when I first found out I was pregnant and it famously took me over a day and a half before I managed to get the words out!

I just kept looking for the right moment and bailing!

It did feel weird and embarrassing somehow, despite being 35 and married. It will be fine though, OP. Just get the words out!

crazychemist · 12/01/2019 10:27

Yep, I felt like this. Telling work as well seemed odd somehow. You get used to it, especially as you quickly realise everyone is just excited about the baby and doesn’t give a damn how it got there.

seenna · 12/01/2019 10:27

What?

Huffleypuff · 12/01/2019 10:28

I felt the same way OP Blush just tell them, there won’t be any awkwardness, just genuine joy!

OutPinked · 12/01/2019 10:28

Congratulations. I don’t think anyone thinks of their children having sex when they announce their pregnancy, don’t worry!

diddl · 12/01/2019 10:28

Oh Pippa that's awful.

My first was due 42wks after our wedding.

Was actually born 7months afterGrin

No one cares-just glad that they survived.

They are only mid 20s though-maybe yours is a lot older?

diddl · 12/01/2019 10:30

Congratulations Op-hopefully they'll be too overjoyed for the er implication to sink inGrin