Husband ate my supper.

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It was my first day back at work today and my sons first day at nursery today. It's been a bit emotionally taxing and so I was looking forward to a relaxing Friday night treat of a glass of wine and a pizza in front of the TV with my DH. It took a while to nurse my baby son to sleep(after a big day), so after having lovely pizza-y aromas wafting up the stairs, I was pretty hungry. I arrived downstairs to find that my husband had already tucked in to the wine and pizza leaving only three small slices (one of those long gourmet pizza platter things). I was already a bit pissed off at the point. I literally only managed a slurp of wine and one slice of pizza before having to go up resettle my son. When I re-emerged downstairs, DH had scoffed the lot. Cupboards otherwise bare, not even toast. When challenged, I only got an 'ohh...sorry' and just went back to reading his paper. I'm so pissed off that I've gone to bed early on an empty stomach rather than sit in the same room as him.

I don't understand why he didn't go and settle the child so you could eat. Eating is a basic need and he would have known there was nothing else in the house.

What's your relationship like in general? Because a partner who loves you and cares for you would think of your needs not just their own. I rarely use the word greedy because of negative connotations but feel it's appropriate in this case.

Did he do it out of spite then because he was expecting pasta & pesto the yesterday?

Why didn't he settle the baby so that you could carry on eating?

Sounds a bloody awful way to live!

Off topic but why do you say "my baby" instead of "our baby"? Does he do much to settle the baby whilst you have a rest and a chance to eat your tea?

Why did you tell him there was pesto pasta for him yesterday, and then eat it all yourself? Without at least warning him that there was none left for him?

Also if you were going to cook last night surely there is something he can cook for you tonight??

And if you could have made him a different supper last night, why did you have nothing else in tonight? Where did it go?

How bloody dare he. Don’t give him any food tomorrow.

YABU only buying one pizza! But in seriousness I too would’ve been fuming so my sympathies.

I'm not sure if this is meant to be lighthearted but I actually find that appallingly selfish. My OH did something similar once with a nice box of chocolates and I tore so many shreds off him it's a miracle he survived. If he'd done it with my entire dinner I honestly would have cried.

I would go fucking mental.

Hiding in sight. It was a genuine mistake. There was less left over than I thought so I gave it to our son and hoovered up the spare! I didn’t think that would be particularly big deal! I often eat a little food with my son and then have a proper meal with DH later on.

Ok sorry but why did you only have one pizza anyway. That’s not enough for 2 grown adults and leftovers make perfect Saturday breakfast. Order a takeaway and buy 2 next time, chalk it up to poor planning.

How do you know it's not enough for 2 adults?

Besides, 'supper' (also irrationally hate that word), is a light evening meal.

Some people have it as well as breakfast, lunch and dinner.

Ask him if he can go to the shop. So impolite and heartless. If my partner did that kind of stunt he would be paying for a takeaway dinner for one person.

Are you always so submissive? Why would you not challenge that kind of selfish behaviour?

So he revenge ate the pizza 😲

It was one of those extra long gourmet rectangular pizzas, which we normally share with a bit of rocket. Clearly two well demarcated pizzas in future is the answer though!

I probably am exaggerating when I say the cupboards are bare. We do have a couple of tinned tomatoes etc and I probably could knock up a spag Bol (or even pasta pesto again) but at 9pm + after a quite emotional day I decided to rant on here instead!

I also always interchange the words supper & dinner and dinner & lunch

That sounds quite selfish. If he was annoyed about the pasta he should have said something at the time instead of eating your pizza.....

Also why were you the only one settling the baby? When my little ones were at that stage of being unsettled at dinner time, DH and I would take it in turns to do the settling in between eating dinner - really not fair if one person is doing it all.

He’s a greedy twat. And two wrongs don’t make a right! Make him pay for a takeaway and stop being so passive.

Pure, unadulterated selfishness - while you are being a parent to your child, he was thinking “oh good, I can quickly stuff more of HER pizza into my fat gob”...and his response was “oh...sorry” ....sorry for what exactly??? PRICK

DS still nurses to sleep so I’ve always done all of the night/evening wakings as he doesn’t settle with DH.

He actually did it to spite you!! That’s so awful. Don’t lie down and take that shit!! He sounds like a childish asshole. Hope you manage to get some more food

I cant continue reading because you keep saying supper and I cannot stand the word. My exact thoughts

" I often eat a little food with my son and then have a proper meal with DH later on."

So at least he would have had a meal-just not what he was thinking it would be?

Sounds like my 21 year old selfish, thoughtless son. Your husband is a dick of the highest standard.