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Husband ate my supper.

226 replies

xmaspresent · 11/01/2019 21:23

It was my first day back at work today and my sons first day at nursery today. It's been a bit emotionally taxing and so I was looking forward to a relaxing Friday night treat of a glass of wine and a pizza in front of the TV with my DH. It took a while to nurse my baby son to sleep(after a big day), so after having lovely pizza-y aromas wafting up the stairs, I was pretty hungry. I arrived downstairs to find that my husband had already tucked in to the wine and pizza leaving only three small slices (one of those long gourmet pizza platter things). I was already a bit pissed off at the point. I literally only managed a slurp of wine and one slice of pizza before having to go up resettle my son. When I re-emerged downstairs, DH had scoffed the lot. Cupboards otherwise bare, not even toast. When challenged, I only got an 'ohh...sorry' and just went back to reading his paper. I'm so pissed off that I've gone to bed early on an empty stomach rather than sit in the same room as him.

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ToPlanZ · 11/01/2019 21:42

Violence isn't the answer.

Except in this case.

ResistanceIsNecessary · 11/01/2019 21:43

That's incredibly selfish of him. You need to say something - does he think that it's acceptable to eat the lot whilst you go hungry?

Crunchymum · 11/01/2019 21:43

He's a dick (I am like Joey from Friends when it comes to food and it shows!!)

BUT you don't even have bread in for toast????? Shock

If money isn't the reason your cupboards are bare, then order yourself something amazing.

I'll hazard a guess that the bloke who eats all the food probably doesn't give a fuck about your needs though.

3luckystars · 11/01/2019 21:43

What are you going to do now?

xmaspresent · 11/01/2019 21:44

Thanks-thought my volcanic rage at the situation was perhaps a tad unreasonable hence taking myself off before blowing my load. I’ve just challenged him on it. His response: I’m selfish/don’t take care of him too. Yesterday, when I was chatting to him on the phone whilst he was driving home I said that there was some pesto-y pasta left over in the fridge for our supper, however when he got home there was none (this is true- my baby and i had it for supper before he got back) although I did offer to make a different meal when he got home. This is clearly a load of nonsense & him backtracking.

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TheFlis12345 · 11/01/2019 21:45

Why didn't he go and re-settle the baby so you could finish eating what was left of the pizza?!?

IncomingCannonFire · 11/01/2019 21:45

Well that's unbelievably selfish and mean of him. No idea why he would even do this. But why on earth are you being a martyr upstairs?
Give him hell and send him out to get you a meal.

Screamish · 11/01/2019 21:46

This makes me really sad. What a selfish fucker

Ljlsmum · 11/01/2019 21:46

Get the twat told- you’re not even an afterthought. He barely said sorry and did nothing to help you when you pointed it out that he’s finished your share. You’ve got your child settled twice at least and he’s just eating and reading the paper.

IncomingCannonFire · 11/01/2019 21:47

Ah, cross post. So you've both decended into childish tit for tat behavior. Well I think you both need to grow up and talk to each other properly.

NotANotMan · 11/01/2019 21:47

Leftover pesto pasta isn't a meal for an adult anyway Confused
What a twat

echt · 11/01/2019 21:48

What an unpleasant man.

3luckystars · 11/01/2019 21:49

I cant continue reading because you keep saying supper and I cannot stand the word.

So, I would probably not stay with a person who ate everything and left me hungry, that is just mean. Best of luck x

MummBraTheEverLeaking · 11/01/2019 21:49

Yep you going off upstairs hungry you think he'll be downstairs feeling guilty - he won't! He'll be thinking "wow I got away with that scot free didn't I? Good to know what she'll put up with. Ahhh time to relax with the paper..."

Selfish prick. My DH would have made sure my half was saved and kept warm in the oven for when I could eat. Get back down there and tear him a new one! Order yourself whatever you fancy, and if he even looks at it when it arrives you'll be sporting some new bollock shaped earrings. Cause he will, probably with some puppy dog eyes thrown in!

Gah, if I had any leftovers spare after what he did, they'd be going in the bin!

RJnomore1 · 11/01/2019 21:50

So what's his solution ?

PlumpSyrianHamster · 11/01/2019 21:50

Why the fuck didn't you tell him to get you another pizza and bottle of wine? What a selfish cunt.

coppercolouredtop · 11/01/2019 21:51

i can hardly talk because i am the worlds worst for shopping but i always have bread in the freezer and cheese etc in for cheese on toast or an emergency bacon butty....

id go and order pizza and while waiting for it to arrive id do a tesco online shop to come first thing tomorrow so you have food in!

half a pizza and a couple of glasses of wine when nothing else is in the house probably isnt going to fill either of you

Tartyflette · 11/01/2019 21:51

Well.... He did it, but you let him get away with it. It's a no brainer that he'll continue to behave like this.
He doesn't give a flying fuck that you've gone to bed hungry, there has been no downside at all for him.
Selfish doesn't begin to cover it. He's a totally self-centred arsehole. But you're allowing him to be one.

MyKingdomForBrie · 11/01/2019 21:51

Sounds like this isn't really a one off incident..? Sounds like he doesn't like you or care about you - how do you feel about him?

PlumpSyrianHamster · 11/01/2019 21:52

His response: I’m selfish/don’t take care of him too. Yesterday, when I was chatting to him on the phone whilst he was driving home I said that there was some pesto-y pasta left over in the fridge for our supper, however when he got home there was none (this is true- my baby and i had it for supper before he got back) although I did offer to make a different meal when he got home. This is clearly a load of nonsense & him backtracking.

I'd tell him I'm not sure I could be with someone so petty.

xmaspresent · 11/01/2019 21:53

Perhaps incomingcannon fire. We do normally eat slightly more sophisticated than pizza & pesto pasta and normally do have food in the house but I’ve been pre-occupied preparing for today! He’s not normally someone who behaves like a twat, although he has tonight!

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adaisy1394 · 11/01/2019 21:53

Ok sorry but why did you only have one pizza anyway. That’s not enough for 2 grown adults and leftovers make perfect Saturday breakfast. Order a takeaway and buy 2 next time, chalk it up to poor planning.

Also he sounds like a prick.

LEMtheoriginal · 11/01/2019 21:53

YOU'RE selfish?? Hmm

I agree with the poster whosaid to set fire to him! Angry

MummBraTheEverLeaking · 11/01/2019 21:53

Oh right, no pesto pasta for him, no pizza for you. Even though you offered to cook. Childish petty revenge - so he's a selfish AND spiteful prick then. And gaslighting, throwing his shit behaviour back on you and none of it his fault!

AWishForWingsThatWork · 11/01/2019 21:54

Wait. You are NURSING HIS BABY AND HE ATE YOUR DINNER!

there's no excuse.

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