This is my first AIBU so please be gentle.
My son is three and has development delay and currently being assessed for autism. He was potty trained in October but still has the occasional accident. He goes to a childminder during the week whilst I am at work.
Today I arrived to collect him and the childminder opened the door looking very annoyed. She informed me that my son was “having a meltdown”. She stated that she had asked him three times if he needed a wee and he hadn’t responded (he often doesn’t respond when spoken to) he had them wet himself.
She stated that because he had ignored her she was now insisting that he change his own wet clothes. He cannot dress or undress himself. Can’t even take his own shoes off.
I went in the room and my son was sat on the floor in soaking wet clothes completely distraught. I helped him get changed into dry clothes and took him home.
In the car my older son, who also goes to the childminder said that the childminder had “shouted really loud” at my son when he had the accident.
I am really not happy. She knows my sons needs and challenges but still chose to punish him with an impossible task because he had an accident. I am considering finding a new childminder / nursery but don’t no if that’s an overreaction.