AIBU to think that most women over 35..

[thinkingaboutmyage]

Are a size 10 or above?

My friend has suggested that my new year resolution should be to slim down and tone my body - st first I was offended, but I actually think she was genuinely trying to be helpful or perhaps, motivational?

She’s a size 6 having focused on exercise/diet last year and lost 2 stone! I’m a size 10 and eat whatever I like she thinks that once I’m 40 it’ll be hard to maintain my weight unless I join her as a fitness fanatic

AIBU to think that most of us over-35s are a size 10 or above though. She’s the exception not the norm - her lifestyle seems tedious as she lives at the gym.

No healthy woman is a size 4 to 6. The very few I have ever known, who are that small, have a serious eating disorder. And I have certainly never known any woman over 30 who is that size. As a pp said, the sizes are all to cock.

I am 5 ft 4, and was 9 stone and a size 12 at around 15 y.o. (around late 1980's) ... My daughter was a size 6-8 at 15 y.o. (around 2011/12.)

In 2012, I found a dress in the attic that I bought in 1990, and DD tried it on, and it wouldn't fit her. Well it fit, but wouldn't zip up. It had size 10-12 on the label, yet her clothes that she bought in 2011 were a size 6-8.

Conclusive proof that today's size 6-8, are the size 10-12's of 25+ years ago. As has been said, it's vanity sizing...

Marylin Monroe was supposed to be a size 16. Was she fuck?! She was a 12 at the most.

I don't deny that some women are slim, and look after themselves, but I'm sorry, you're not a size 4 to 6. You're just not. You're a 10, possibly even a 12.

My first line should read 'no healthy woman is a GENUINE size 4 to 6.'

You would look like the walking dead if you were.

tree so, pray tell, what is a GENUINE 4 to 6?

Why is a 10 the 'correct' size in your mind, but not a 6? Why is a 10 not a 'fake' size?

I have stuff from when I was 16 that's an 8 and I still fit in it - that's over 20 years ago.

Not denying that the shops all have stupid sizes that don't make much sense, but I've never been anywhere where a 10 is not massive on me. Maybe the sizing has changed too - so what? It doesn't mean that people aren't a 6-8 in today's money.

I do not have an eating disorder, I don't even attempt to diet or stay slim. I eat breakfast, lunch and dinner and plenty of shite I don't need in between. For dinner, I'm having pork ribs, rice, salad and green beans, so a perfectly normal and healthy dinner, which is absolutely typical of what I eat every day. I walk for at least an hour a day, which I assume contributes to me not putting on weight. I never go to the gym.

Some of the skinny shaming on here is batshit, seriously. Just seems like a lot of you really want to put other people down.

Honestly. The walking dead. Eating disorders. Skeletons.

I'm sure you don't go around saying stuff like 'whale' or 'lardarse' about larger women, so calm down on the smaller women too ffs.

And for what it's worth, I couldn't give a shite about vanity sizing. If it so happened that I was 'actually' a 10 or a 12, whatever. I honestly don't care about the sizing. I wouldn't like to be fat, I guess, but more because it would be a sign that I wasn't being active and I don't like that.

A woman who is a GENUINE size 4 does not exist, because any woman who is dressed in a size 4 is actually an 8.

Imagine someone who was a size 4 twenty five years ago? You would have been rushed to the doctor and referred to a specialist.

You may THINK you're a 4-6, but in reality, you're an 8-10.

Nothing to be ashamed of, just stop saying you're a size 4-6, because you're not.

I am not saying you are a skeleton or the walking dead. Only that if you WERE a size 4 (for real,) you would look like that yes.

But as you're not a size 4, you won't look like that.

tree what the actual arse are you talking about?

What are these 'genuine' sizes?

There are no standard sizes.

All I can go on is what they label the clothes as.

You seem to really have a chip on your shoulder about this.

Should I say 'well I'm a 10, but I always buy a 6, but I'm ACTUALLY a 10'. How would I know what a 10 is when there's no standard measurement for that?

Happy enough to call myself whatever the fuck I am, but as I said, I have stuff from 20 years ago that is the same stuff I have now, so for me, I can't see that there's much difference in the sizing - I think a lot of women have just put on weight and can't stand to think of themselves as 'not an 8 any more'.

Plus, a lot of this stuff depends on ethnicity. In Asia, a 4-6 (a GENUINE 4-6, in your mind, I suppose) is totally normal. I am considered a little, not chubby, but let's say chubbier than I am in the west, in Asia. You'd have a field day here, decrying women as skeletons and stick insects and whatnot.

tree I never said I was a size 4, anyway. But since you don't seem to be able to define that, I don't know what the point of even saying it is.

Saying ANYONE looks like the walking dead is pretty rude.

If you're going to get offended and huffy and twist everything I am saying then I can't talk to you.

Bye.

I'm 39 and a size 8.

@Timmytoo

I am a size 8 too.

Funnily enough, in 1990 I was a size 12. And I am exactly the same weight as I was then.

Vanity sizing - that's what it is.

People who say they are a size 4 are deluded. They're not. It's vanity sizing. Hilarious (and sad) that they can't see it.

@Marylin I am also grinning from ear to ear at the women who think they are a size 4. (When they are actually an 8 - possibly a 10.)

Also LOLing at your incoherent post.

I'm 35 and a size 10.
I found it easy, or at least easier to be an 8 in my 20s and early 30s.

I'm finding it much harder in my mid 30s. I know that I could get down to an 8, in a month or so... but it would take a lot of work and feeling hungry

I find that most women over 35 couldn't give a flying fig what anyone else thinks about their appearance.

I certainly stopped caring what anyone else though once I was in my 30's. If my friend said that to me I'd tell her to jog on!

For the record I'm a size 12, having been an 8-10 for most of my life. Now fatter and happy.

Keep convincing yourself you're a size 4-6, you're not.

I'm done.

I’m 6ft tall, 46 and a size 6. No I’m not really I just thought I’d join in with all the boasting. What a horrible thread.

I'm definitely not a size 12. Always since I was 17 I've been an 8 - (32) in South Africa.

I Still same measurements except I have a six pack now. Train for about 45 minutes 3-4 times a week. I minimize "E" number foods and processed meat. But otherwise I eat very well and quite substantially.

Although to be fair, I've never had a baby so that probably counts for a lot. I still wear some clothes I bought at 18/19

@Treehugger13 you are absolutely right imo. My Mum has kept all her best outfits from the 80s and 90s, they are all 12s. I can remember at the time crying over how “big” she was. I’ve tried them on when I was a size 8 four years ago and they just did up. We have the same type of hourglass figure and bone structure. I’ve measured them and the waist is 26. A size 12 today is much bigger.

@Lalliella

I’m 6ft tall, 46 and a size 6. No I’m not really I just thought I’d join in with all the boasting. What a horrible thread.

I know it's ludicrous isn't it? EVERY thread like this goes the same way, with loads of posters jumping in claiming they are a size 4, and 5 ft 10 , and 7 stone. These are the same posters who claim people think they look 20 years younger than they are, and at 46, they are frequently asked for I.D. to buy booze!

In reality, this never happens, and most women (especially over 30) are a size 10-12 or more, and NEVER get asked for ID past the age of 30.

I am 47, and 5 ft 10 inches tall, a size 2, and 5 stone 6, with an 18" waist.

I have had 5 kids too.

I can say anything can't I? Doesn't make it true.

SO many women on here claim to be a size 4, and 6 stone, and 5 foot 9, yet I never ever see women like this in real life. Funny that.