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To ask about sweet tables at weddings

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Whereisthecoffee · 09/01/2019 12:55

I love how the sweet section of buffets look at weddings . For anyone that hasn’t seen them it’s a load of jars filled with sweets with tongs and little bags to put them in. I really want one but I’m on a budget and also not wanting waste.

Do you or would you eat them at a wedding party?
If you had one at your own wedding was it eaten ?
Thanks

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GahWhatever · 09/01/2019 14:29

Lots of people do them and sell on the jars afterwards so keep an eue out on wedding FB pages and Ebay. I bought new scoops and tongs but most of my jars were second hand (big old-fashioned sweet shop type). Then I sold the lot on later for more than I'd paid (minus the sweets of course). Think of it as an investment!

Eliza9917 · 09/01/2019 14:31

KC225 Wed 09-Jan-19 13:59:41
Hands up who thinks Eliza9917 was jilted for the woman who runs the sweet shop.

Add message | Report | Message poster Sparklingbrook Wed 09-Jan-19 14:02:15
She does seem a bit angry KC

Grin Grin Grin

I'm planning my wedding so my fb feed is full of brides asking how to scrimp on the rest of the wedding so they can have this shit. Its just tedious.

ChristmasSnow · 09/01/2019 14:34

I was a photographer at a wedding 2 years ago and the sweets went before the bride and groom arrived, i thought it was so rude.
Luvkly i had taken a picture when they was still untouched.

But to answer your question, i believe they are poplar

greenlightredlight · 09/01/2019 14:36

I agree with Eliza as well and don't know why a couple of posters are trying to gang up.

If a couple don't have lots of money to spend, it is skewed priorities to be forking out for unnecessary stuff like chocolate fountains and sweet carts and favours and scrimping on food and wine and a venue that's convenient for guests.

Nobody really cares about the other stuff. If it's there, fine, some guests will enjoy it, some won't bother with it. But if it's not, it usually won't be missed.

DonDrapersOldFashioned · 09/01/2019 14:37

I got married long before ‘sweet tables’, as did most of my friends but i’ve been to a couple of weddings with them. Agree with those saying, fine if you’ve got lots of kids/young people coming but I wouldn’t bother if it is adults only.

mrsk28 · 09/01/2019 14:37

Had one at my wedding. I was worried nobody would touch it, especially because the hotel staff uncovered it right after dinner.

But people went mad for it, everyone was walking around with bags of sweets right after a 5 course dinner. I was shocked!

And you can definitely do it cheap. Pick up jars on sale and buy whatever sweets and bags/tongs you want online, easy Smile

greendale17 · 09/01/2019 14:37

I went to a wedding where it was a sweet and chocolate table. It was empty within two hours

RedemptiveCrocodile · 09/01/2019 14:45

Better than a donut wall imo!

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Whereisthecoffee · 09/01/2019 14:46

Oh mixed reviews! I feel like I should point out other things aren’t being missed by scrimping for this it’s reception only for the majority of guests no meal in between very casual and a family member is doing the buffet as a present

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ShatnersWig · 09/01/2019 14:49

First time I saw this was two years ago. Loved it and it was very well used indeed. Saw it at another wedding last year and that proved equally as popular. Pretty much everyone was was already married said they'd have loved to have had something similar at theirs or would love to have it at theirs if and when they get married. And a very broad section of people they were too.

ShatnersWig · 09/01/2019 14:49

Should add that BOTH weddings were childfree, so it was all scoffed by adults.

Sparklingbrook · 09/01/2019 14:53

Scrimping on the more important stuff to get a sweet table makes absolutely no sense I agree with that.

But if you can afford it all the bits Eliza deemed 'shit' are nice to have IMO. It certainly added to the wedding I went to, as I don't usually enjoy weddings that much at all.

greenlightredlight · 09/01/2019 14:58

I don't enjoy weddings and honestly can't see how a sweet table would make any difference.

nomorearsingmermaids · 09/01/2019 14:59

Why are so many people on MN so snippy about weddings?!

Sparklingbrook · 09/01/2019 15:01

I am not a mad keen dancer so when the disco was on, had a few sweets and went in the photo booth in between chatting to people.

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Whereisthecoffee · 09/01/2019 15:02

I don’t enjoy them either 😀I have family travelling far just to see a twenty minute ceremony so I thought I’d better feed them and provide somewhere to spend their evening 😂

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GahWhatever · 09/01/2019 15:06

It's a fun thing and an opportunity for people to release their inner child (like photo booths and all sort sof other random bonkers stuff you only see at weddings). Of course it isn't an alternative to a wedding ceremony and feeding your guests and giving them something to drink. It's just a fun detail, like buttonholes, table centres, bouquets, chair covers, etc etc. It's all shit technically, but it can still be fun!

rose789 · 09/01/2019 15:07

Ooh I love a sweet table and have been known to take a bag home for the resulting hangover the next day. Nothing cures a champagne hangover like gummy sweets Smile

Strugglingtodomybest · 09/01/2019 16:37

I've never heard of this before, and whilst I love sweets, I wouldn't enjoy it if I had my kids there and it would be a constant battle to stop DS2 eating the whole lot in one go! So honestly, my heart would sink if I saw one at a wedding.

Honeyroar · 09/01/2019 19:09

You have whatever you want, it's your wedding. Have a look for cheap sweets a week after Valentine's Day - there will be lots of heart shaped sweets going cheap.. Ive only been to one wedding that had one, it stood unused for most of the evening, but people did eat them later on (mainly the evening guests, who didn't get any food until 10pm!). To be honest I felt too embarrassed to go and raid it. So I'd go for the individual little favour bags personally.

DaisyDando · 09/01/2019 19:15

I had a pick and mix van at my wedding. A lady with a pretty VW camper van rocks up to your wedding and serves everyone and then goes again. Put empty jars on tables with names on. Was fun! Lots of kids at my wedding though. And I like sweets.

BarbedBloom · 09/01/2019 19:20

We had one as we had lots of children, but I think the adults had more than the kids. Was totally picked clean at the end of the night

WTFdidwedo · 09/01/2019 19:22

We bought 100 Subway cookies for about £40 and out those out instead. That was very popular alongside the bacon sandwiches for our evening reception Grin

TheCraicDealer · 09/01/2019 19:37

She can correct me if I'm wrong but I think Eliza means it's superfluous shit that's being priortised over the key essentials, like venue, day of the week, food and drink. Extras like this are "nice to have" but it's a massive folly thinking your guests will overtook being hungry, bored or resentful at accommodation/travel costs because you have a an ice cream van, flower wall or big cut out lights spelling out your initials. Some couples seem to be quite willing to sacrifice being good hosts in order to have their Pinterest-wedding.

OP if you want it and you think you can afford it, go for it. Think about how much you're prepared to spend on the idea, then cost it up. They're not my bag but you'd still see me with my hand in the jar by the end of the night!

berryhead2013 · 09/01/2019 19:40

I was at a wedding and they had one it was mostly untouched but for the first drink when you entered the reception they had a pump your Prosecco bar where u add a shot of flavoured gin to the Prosecco things went a bit fuzzy after that was lush though

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