To refuse to take indirect flights with a toddler

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to destinations where direct flights are readily available but generally more expensive?

That's all really!

i did in direct when i was young and poor. No way now.

His general behaviour is a separate issue and is a known problem

It is indeed OP and (I don't say this lightly), I hope your New Year's Resolution is to LTB.

No toddler but I much prefer splitting the journey with a brief stopover to stretch my legs, use a real lavatory and maybe a shower and change. I would have thought splitting the journey with a toddler would be better with a wander around and freshen up in the lounge.

He sounds appalling. This is much bigger than direct v indirect flights!

My DH's family live in Cape Town and we have to visit every 12-18 months. Before having DC we used to get indirect flights and it used to take up to twice as long depending on which route we took.

Cape Town is 12 hrs of misery direct anyway. There's no way I'm prepared to do this any way other than direct now that we have DC.

I basically said we go direct or not at all.

End of.

Your dh is an utter dickhead, but then you know that.

DH is definitely a dick but he can sometimes be right about something even if he expresses it in a horrible way.

In this case, it appears there is scope to reasonably disagree as a lot of people have said they would/wouldn't spend much more for direct flights. Obviously it does depend on one's overall financial position and the relative difference between the prices.

If it's something that matters a lot to you then you have the right to stand your ground over it (assuming it's something that you can afford and won't cause you financial difficulties).

What I find so odd about (all) your posts about your dh, is that you are constantly second guessing yourself over all sorts of issues: your clothes, food, flights ...etc etc. You seem to feel that his wants and needs carry more weight than yours do, and he obviously couldn't care less about your needs and wants...

Perhaps you need to think carefully about why this is?

Op you know your dh is a passive aggressive controlling arrogant selfish bullying arsehole, you have had many threads about his various charming foibles.

God just had a look at your past posted after reading the last pp. He sounds absolutely appalling. You should definitely LTB as soon as you can. Have you spoken go an immigration solicitor?