to hate reins for kids?

[lulamae]

I almost choked on my lentil goulash when dh suggested buying kiddy reins for dd as she's now walking and beginning to enjoy her freedom. I do hope he was trying to wind me up.. Imho they are for lazy parents who could'nt be arsed chasing after naturally exuberant kids.....

I am aware that many parents are afraid of losing their kids.....but surely this is taking things to extremes. Apparently my MIL used them on dh, but she's an overweight control freak. I rest my case.

Actually I must confess I have ds ona wrist strap these days, it gives him the independence of walking by himself but prevents him running of. Lucky you if you have a child you can gaurantee will stay by your side at all times. I know mine isn'tthat child and I prefer not to chance it.

I don't like reins personally but I don't object to anyone else using them.

Yes I am saying that- just as you say that those who do use them are lazy. Why- does it offend you?

Mind you we live in a fairly quiet village and my ds1 is a child that does run off, he's very lively and 3.8, dd is 5.4 and ds2 nearly 6 months and it's only now becoming easier when out with them all. Ds1 is starting to understand that he shouldn't just run away. It used to be much more of a worry when we went somewhere busy or into town.

Bah to you

its only reins that keep my almost 4 year old SN kid (and no you couldnt tell by looking ) safe. Anyway who has an issue with that i bonkers.

He has never run into a road though just runs off, always stops at the kerb.

I don't like reins and I don't like them on other children. It does resemble putting a dog on a lead

Yeah well I don't like reading that a child of 2 was killed runnign out into the road last week in HArrow, but at least he didn't resemnble a dog on a lead while he walked safely down the road with his mother.

Sorry it was Willesden, niot Hrrow -

Child Killed in AccidentJun 14 2007

A TWO-YEAR-OLD boy was killed this morning (Thursday) in Willesden after being hit by a car.

The female driver of a metallic bronze Vauxhall Astra which hit the boy stopped at the scene.

The toddler was taken to St Mary's Hospital in Paddington where he died at 10.30am.

Police are appealing for witnesses to the accident which happened at 9.16am in Donnington Road outside Willesden Sports Centre.

OK you all tell your kids that kids on reins are neglected and look like dogs

Then they can point at muy poor lad and laugh at him

Fab- thanks- teach your kids nto to take individual differences into account

I never used them for sds1 (depsite his SN he never needed them) or DS2, required for ds3.

If you have a problem with that - well- f off rankly (did type the original but couldn't how sad am I?)

kittywits - why do you think it is okay for a dog to go on a lead to keep it safe, but that is it wrong for a child to be kept safe in such a manner?

But kittywits, why does it matter that it resembles a dog on a lead? I don't get why people say this as if it somehow validates their arguments against reins. So what? It would be like my saying I don't give my son bananas because he would resemble a chimpanzee...

Er, no, why would I want to stay indoors? My jumpers are only knitted from the finest Alpaca, and yes, lulamama, you can goulash a lentil. Can you knit with lentils, though, that's the question?

Goodness, there was a lot of angry reaction there. I suppose I deserved it with my less than lovely description of my MIL, which I still stand by, btw.

Big love out to all the mums of 3 who have to juggle their kids as well as their shopping etc but I still don't like reins.

I only have one 1-year-old dd, so can't see myself using them. Car seats are a different story but we don't have a car .

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popcorn anyone???

i would have loved it if dd had taken to reins. she was terrible when she was younger as she was desperate to walk but would walk/run off, try to step in road i used to dread going out.

i tried reins and she hated them and hung off them like a limp rag doll. wrist straps she used to pull off and i never trusted them and

then someone recommended a lindam bag. it was fab, like a rucksack but with a lead and handle attached. it worked like a dream and i used it for a while until she finally got the idea of not getting squashed by a car.

the beauthy of mumsnet is that you would never know, hatrick

lulamae - it only takes a second for your child to be under a car, not worth the risk IMO i use reins by a busy road, take them off when its appropriate. quite anal i think!

I used to think ds1 knew to always stop at the edge of the road. He's always been very good at holding onto ds2's buggy.
Then one day he saw our car and just ran across the road. Luckily no harm done but made me realise that young children often act spontaneously.

I used to love my dds' reins. Brilliant imo, not only for usual purpose, but also had a special attachment so you could fix them safely into supermarket trolley or highchair when out & about and no danger of falling out.

Fan-blimmin-tastico!

We have got the little lindam rucksack/reins thing. From now on I shall make him carry his dog biscuits in it.

Well, my DD has special needs. Her ASD means she knows no sense of danger.

I used reins/wrist rein for her till she was 3 1/2. If I hadn;t she would not be here now in front of me eating her tea. She has had so many near misses.

If you want to spend your time running after your child thats your choice. I chose to keep mine sae on reins till she developed some semblance of road safety. Using the reins for my daughter didn;t make me lazy, it made me sensible.
YABU