Ok. Here goes.
I am a father of 4. With 3 baby mums. Not ideal, and not how I see things. But that doesn’t make me a bad father. I am very active in my children’s lives. I see them all every week. But not everyday. I am currently with my youngest mum. But we live apart. My place is too far for her and hers is too small for when I have my other children.
We both earn earn well and and the same amount annually.
So the issue is the aged old thing. Money.
As we live apart we have separate everything.
Mortgage bill etc.
Before my DS was born we spoke and I insisted we move in together. She refused and wanted to live separate until both debts were paid. 2.5 years later it’s still like this.
I said at the time. If we do not live together i would not be able to pay half any child care fees£1200pm . Most months I make just enough to cover all my bills (mortgage£1100pm Csa£500, + everything else all essentials etc.) I do pay a towards nursery £260pm My mrs on the other pays the rest. But bare in mind her mortgage is only £500pm.
Right so. She says I need to pay Half. She doesn’t care where the money comes from, it’s not her issue. Even though I said before my DS was born I couldn’t contribute if she returned to work. I have even suggested we put both out wages in a pot. Pay all bills and work our what we have left to live off. And the answer was no. Her finances are not my issue. I just need to pay half.
Am I in the wrong ? Because honestly I do not know how I would get that extra money month in month out. I don’t have sky or anything like that. I don’t drink(often) or smoke. I do go gym. But one of the cheap ones. Most of my money is spent on my children.
Help! If I am bang out of order say so. I’ve asked FF but they can be biased.
R