Did they get a night off

[Blueblueyellow]

I'm 32 my eldest sibling is 40,in all those 40 years my parents never had a night out. My OH can't belive this. We were poor and to me this is normal. Aibu or did your parents have a "night off".

Mine went out every Saturday night and brought us lemonade and crisps - quite a treat!

Neither of them ever went to a pub or the cinema , o r a club, or to do anything outside the home on an evening ? Even when you were older children? That is a bit odd and I’m not sure what it has to do with money.

My parents were always out and I was with grandparents, or mum was working in the pub and I would go with dad to collect her where he would then have a pint or two. I would be 6/7/8/9 and in the pub at 1am. I just wanted to be normal like my friends😔

Mine never had a night off / out either

No, my dps didn’t.

I can only remember once being left at home with dB, and we were too excited and stayed up late. My dps used to frequent a club associated with the country they came from. We were usually taken along, and on one occasion we were left at home. I think we were 11 and 13ish.
My uncle used to take us for days out in his car going from pub to pub, I’m sure he was pissed

The only things my parents went out to in the evening were evening classes (mum), and goat club (dad, but not very often). They never went to the cinema, theatre or pub, though between when mum was 55 and 60 she did have a phase of going to the occasional classical music concert at local churches. Dad never went with her.

Mine never did either, at least not until I was around 22 or 23.

I can remember my mother's best friend babysitting me once or twice, but that's the only times. A couple down the road used to go on holiday without the children and that was very much frowned on. The norm in our social group was to do things as a family.

DH and I had probably 3-6 nights out a year when the children were small, once they were at school and DH was a SAHD I don't think we had any. I can remember lots of times where we'd have to decide which one of us did the interesting activity and which one stayed at home. with the children.

They used to go out together now and again and leave us with sitters.
My father went out with his friends every Friday and my mother went out every Wednesday evening.

My DPs used to have a night out once a year, for my Father’s Work Christmas ‘do’. My DSis (12 years older) would babysit.
Wow! Never really thought about that until now so great post Blueblueyellow. My DFather died when I was 18 so they never had a ‘date night’ in all that time.

I'm 32 my eldest sibling is 40,in all those 40 years my parents never had a night out

But why for 40 years? That couldn't have been because they had children because you don't need a babysitter for adult children?

My parents never went out either. I never had a babysitter in my entire childhood. I was never cared for, for even an hour or two, by anyone other than my own parents.

They never ever went to the cinema (or took us to the cinema), or went out for dinner together. I remember going to secondary school and thinking my new best friend's parents were from another planet because they had a social life.

treaclesoda so yes exactly the same as my family. And Shazafied I presume it has to do with money because we had none? Couldn't afford a baby sitter or money to go out anyway?

formerbabe forty years of not going out is a different thread OK so I all our teen years until we moved out, our parents never had a night off.

But if they didn't go out for 40 years, it couldn't have been because of not having a babysitter...you weren't children for forty years!

Mine didn't go out but not because they couldn't afford it. They'd been married 18-19 years before I came along and decided that once they had a child, they'd give up nights out because they'd had plenty over the years. They didn't want to leave me with anyone for an evening - oh I remember one evening when they went to dad's firm's do but that's all.

Which was quite ridiculous because I had one aunt living next door and one just down the road!

Unfortunately my mother's attitude became such that she disapproved of people going out regularly once they had children. She would even think once every four or five weeks was too much. I remember she wouldn't allow me to babysit for someone when I was fifteen because she felt they should stay at home.

Me? I did what I chose to do, was very relaxed. Had some good nights out.

Sorry...cross post!

My parents split when I was 16, up until that point they went out on New Years Eve and that was it and went to the curry restaurant that was a 3 minute walk away.

After the split, my mum went wild and was out every weekend lol.

My parents didn’t until I was 11. My mum put her foot down and told my dad he needed to start taking her out or she would go out on her own. So they started going dancing (ballroom and Latin) - which was something they did as teens in the 1950s. Enjoyed it so much they trained as dance teachers. I barely saw them again as they were out every night by the time I was 15 and my mum was begging my dad to cut back a bit as she wanted a night in.

Sadly by the time I was 20 he developed cancer and died when I was 24.

Nope I do t remember mine having a night off/out either and now we're parents we don't

My parents went to the pub every Thursday and Saturday from my earliest memory, and left the three of us alone, my sister says they went more often when I was younger (she is eight years older than me but remembers having to call my aunt to come once because I wouldn't stop crying, she thinks I was only a few months old).

As I got older they went out to eat a lot, now they eat out nearly every night.

They hate each other but they would rather hate each other in public than at home it seems.

I don't remember them having a night off. My parents split when I was 6 and my mother didn't have a boyfriend for around 10 years though. Presumably because she had to look after us.

I spent weekends up until I was 10 with my father, every sat night I was dragged to the working mans club so he and SM could enjoy themselves. So he def had every sat out.
My mother I have no idea, she never mentioned socialising when I wasn't there at weekends.
During my early teen yrs, I remember going to our next door neighbours for the occasional 'night out the house'. I tagged on as all the kids mixed together while the parents had a few drinks.

The only things my parents went out to in the evening were evening classes (mum), and goat club (dad, but not very often).

Goat club sounds awesome. Not sure why your dad went so infrequently. I'd be there every night of the week!

We have only ever been out once.

Baby sitter refused to return.