To think buying a £52 eyeshadow pallet for 9 year old is just madness?

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I'm talking about the James Charles pallet. £52 for eyeshadow and blusher. My DD9 wants to spend her Christmas money on it but I have said a firm NO! A lot of her friends got it for Christmas (I know this is true as have seen their mothers show it off on Facebook). Each to their own and all that but £52! AIBU?

Jolly - that’s not the JC palette, just a normal Morphe one.

Glad she’s reconsidered OP. They are really difficult to get hold of anyway. Dd is 17 and we are on the mailing list. Both times we’ve had emails today they are in stick they’ve so,d out by the time I clicked the link.

I bought her the Jaclyn Hill one for Christmas and she loves it but I think it’s overpriced.

The actual Morphe shop is hell on earth!

Loving the Outdoor Girl love! Miners and Miss Selfridge 'Kiss and Make Up' were other go to's.

Emily Noel has some Outdoor Girl classic three pan palettes, she does a series called 'Eye remember' on her YouTube channel. She's an amazing woman, she is a Midwest mum and ex anchorwoman who talks like Christian Slater in Night Wolf.

Her channel went nuts recently because her collab palette got dissed by Tati and it all kicked off. I spent an hour last night watching the 'clapback' shizz.

Over... eyelids :)

If you use code James on the website you get 10% off. Ps the palette is £39 not £52!

YANBU. I posted this on one of the threads about Christmas presents but there’s just so many kids these days wanting what adults have and work for the money to spend. My kids are the same by the way so I’m not just criticising others, wanting top of the range phones etc (which they don’t get). They’re in for a shock when they start out on life as young adults and find out they can’t afford the fine things they took for granted when mum was paying!

Sorry to add that said, if she was 12/13 I’d probably let her spend her own money on it but at 9, no chance. I don’t think 9 year olds should be wearing make up anyway but that’s just my opinion.

Just googled the palette jeez it’s horrible. It’s not even nice looking like an Urban Decay one. It’s like the makeup sets they used to sell in the Argos catalogue back in the day

I would have to say no, i have no issue with children playing with make up my dd (4) wears it for ballet shows and asks for a bit of gloss now and again (normally lip balm)

I would look at i heart revolution though at superdrug as its funky colours (macaroon and galactica pallettes) well pigmented and smells lovely oh and its 9.00 a pallette usually with a free gift thrown im for a minimum spend

Oddly I bought dd the Urban Decay palette last Christmas. She doesn’t like it. Says it’s aimedat my age group not hers!

I would say no, too.

9yrs old is too young for “proper” make-up and whilst I think children should be able to spend their money on what they want, that only works within the confines of “appropriate purchases”. Let her buy something from Superdrug to play with.

Agree about 9 year olds and no make up,
My DD has been known to play with make up those cheap sets from Claire’s and will put a little blush and clear lip gloss on for school discos or at sleep overs

There is a girl at DD school who has been coming to school since age 8 with the full face, foundation, contour the lot

You are right that’s not the right one, the morph website directed me to it because the proper one is out of stock.

I checked the link that my sister sent me when I bought them and it definitely says they are £39, just out of stock.

I don’t understand why children are given money and then not allowed to spend it.

It's called parenting.

Not sure where I got £52 from 🤔. Perhaps saw it on amazon or something and the price was different. Still not getting it at £39!
I think it's definitely the name you're paying for.
Actually just now saw an instagram post from one of the mothers proclaiming 'can't believe Sophie (not real name) has better make up than me #jamescharlespalette) In a 'shes so lucky spoilt' kind of way. Ehhh you bought the bloody thing love!

It's not called parenting, it's called controlling.

looks at four year old applying Dispicable Me lip gloss at her own dressing table

If it’s the one I have seen then it’s very pretty and I would have adored to have it at age nine. Not because I wanted to plaster my face with make up but because it was a pretty, colourful thing.

I remember getting make up glitter in a roller ball glass bottle for my 8th birthday. It was just SO pretty and I looked at it every time we went to Boots and wanted it so badly. I wasn’t of course going to plaster myself in it and go and boogie on down at the local roller disco (early eighties) I just loved the look of it and wanted to be able to own it and see it whenever I wanted.

I think you’re making the wrong decision and foisting your wants on your child. If she’s anything like the average nine year old then she wants it because it’s lovely to look more than anything else.

Two pages in. No.

I’ve a 13 year old, we live in a European capital, never heard of this brand, and she hasn’t either.

Even if she had, I would shut it down for the bullshit it is.

In fact, I despair that it is even a debate with a 9 year old.

It's not called parenting, it's called controlling.

No, it's called guidance. Unless you allow your child to cross the road when they want too.

No, it's called guidance. Unless you allow your child to cross the road when they want too.

Eh? How are make up palettes and crossing traffic filled roads in any way the same?

I’m in two minds. I am a make up fan. My four year old already loves make up. She has toy make up and uses it for dressing up purposes only but I could imagine having an issue like this at age 9 or 10.

I genuinely don’t know. I’m inclined to say I’d put my foot down and say no. As parents it is our job to guide them and sometimes this means saying no to a silly decision.

If she was 16 I’d say “well I think that’s daft but it’s up to him”. At 9, no.

I also wouldn’t have bought the palette for her Christmas at age 9.

Up to him? Up to you.

Dd wanted the Naked palette - I talked her out of it, she was happy with a dupe and the extra cash. A lot of her friends had it too - not a reason to get it in my opinion. A lot of her friends don't get a lot of other things dd gets. She's not into flashy stuff though.

Eh? How are make up palettes and crossing traffic filled roads in any way the same?

I wasn't talking about make up palettes, but about allowing children to spend money on what they want.

Still, parents have to make decisions for children and guide them. For some parents it may be to allow and for others not to allow make up palettes, but it's still their decision to make. It really shouldn't be for the child to decide completely freely.

Really glad my dds aren't obsessed with their looks