Do you make your Children write thank you cards

[CarolineCJ]

I am just curious as to how many people ask their children to write thank you cards after they have received something say Christmas/Birthday,

It’s a sweet idea but times have moved on, a thank you video message on WhatsApp is what most people I know do these days

Yes I do! Bad manners not to say thanks, and we send them to everyone who got him a present.

My DD wrote a few thank you notes to send.

We don't for close family, we just say the thanks -dc are grateful. If it was anyone further out we would do but I don't know anyone who really does anymore & thankfully our folk don't seem to get annoyed at lack of notes!

Yes, started this year. Have had too many years of them being seemingly ungrateful so now they will be sure they have to know who got them what and say Thankyou very much for it.

Yes, we do. My dd enjoys it more than I did as a child - but I literally get her to write “thank you for x, I have played with it lots/my favourite bit is y/we really enjoyed looking at it.” or something to that effect. I was made to write two sides of note paper detailing the finer points of my Christmas/birthday and it was interminable!

They are well received, spelling errors and all.

I will be doing. Until then I shall be writing them on behalf of my baby

We do other than for immediate family (who we ring). We also do for birthday party presents (which was painful the year we did a class party). I only expect DS1 (6) to write ‘Dear X, thank you for my adjective gift. Love DS1’. DS2 (2) draws a ‘picture’ and I write the card.

My DS7 does. It tends to only be for the older people, grandparents, elderly neighbour ect I find they really appreciate the effort. I usually just text everyone else.

Yes we do. And I think it’s rude when people (looking at you sister) don’t get there children to do likewise. Not even a friggin’ textbthis year

Yes. DS is 8 so for speed I write a few lines and he signs and does a doodle.

Always a thank you which could be phone call or text. What matters is the thanks, not the conveyance method 😊

My mum did it with me as a child and I still do it and I’m 30. I will be doing it when I have children. I like receiving them when my friends do it with their children

My twins (5) have just spent an hour this evening writing very simple thank yous inside cards. It is a bit of a ballache, but it's important, and I think people appreciate it. It's good for kids too to learn about gratitude. They loved doing it to be fair, it was me who was looking at the clock thinking; just get on with it, you're not even bathed yet :-/

My DD always did, up until she was 20, and I made sure she did them.

I now leave it up to her, and I think she tends to text instead.

My mum always made me do it and I still write them as an adult.

It’s nice to send/receive a card rather than just a text or email IMO

I’m happy if there’s a personal thank you, when you are with the person you’ve given a gift to. A text or message otherwise is fine as far as I’m concerned, but I do think it’s rude not to acknowledge receipt of a gift that been sent and you haven’t seen the giver to thank them personally. I’ve stopped sending gifts in the post when I don’t even know whether they’ve been received, let alone any thanks for them.

Yes for DD2, 14.

DD1, 19 I shall be leaving reminding until around this time next week but I will be pretty cross if she hasn't thanked in one way or another.

Yes to the older relatives but mostly text : WhatsApp messages

Is verbal thank you not enough? If I wasn't handed the gifts or they were given to me by a third party,then I would text and say thanks. Maybe the thank you cards is Ann English thing.. the only time I have received a. Thank you card for a gift is after a wedding..normally 12 months later.

It’s nice to send/receive a card rather than just a text or email IMO I disagree, I find receiving cards annoying, no where really to put them and then the whole question of when to take them down (from the kitchen side or dining table) and throw them away

Of course. I did it on his behalf when he was a baby/ toddler. Last year age 5 I bought ones where he just had to fill in the blanks- names etc.
This year age 6 he had to write Dear X, thank you for the lovely Y, love Z.
He didn’t have to do grandparents as he thanked them in person. He FaceTimed his Auntie to say thank you. He had 10 to do in all.

Just a Thankyou CARD! That does not sound too difficult for children. When I was little, my mum made me write Thankyou LETTERS!
They all began "Dear Auntie Whoever, I hope you are keeping well. Thankyou very much for the thing." Then I ran out of ideas. They were torture.
I am glad those days are over. In the modern world of Social Media, I wonder if written thank-you's are necessary at all.
And if the child has been given the gift personally, and given a face-to-face response (a nice one of course), I wonder if anything else is required?

We do thank you cards when gifts are not opened with the person who gave them iyswim. If someone takes the time to buy and give a gift I think it's common courtesy to write to say thank you.

One of the few occasions that a text, call, message etc is not enough.

Always have, always will. It’s our task for tomorrow before they go back to school. A thank you letter/card is lovely to receive so we should send them too.