Do you make your Children write thank you cards

[CarolineCJ]

I am just curious as to how many people ask their children to write thank you cards after they have received something say Christmas/Birthday,

No I don’t make my children write thank you cards,they’re fussy and focus on a strangled sense of etiquette
I’d no more make my kids play shove ha’penny than write cards
They do send emails

I don’t write thank you cards,never will

Yes if the giver was not present when the gift was opened.

Usually a card, but maybe a text or an email instead.

Good manners cost nothing and are always appreciated.

It's just a way of keeping in touch. Obviously if it's such an irritation to a few we should all cease social contact immediately

Email,phone call text are modes of communication that are way of keeping in touch
With thank you cards it’s the affectation and stilted writing of a card
The act is generally associated with a heightened sense of manners a nod to a forced etiquette. The cards are about the sender demonstrating what a good sort they are
My mil tried to force my kids to write thank you cards,they weren’t having it
No amount of cajoling etc worked

The cards are about the sender demonstrating what a good sort they are

Totally disagree. My family has always done this and so do all my friends. Good manners tend to be passed down the generations. It may be different in your family but don't knock those of us who choose a different way of life.

What does don’t knock even mean?im not round your house hiding the biros
I don’t consider thank you cards a measure of good manners,they’re stuffy & forced
Not sending thank you cards doesn’t equate a lack of manners,it simply means I don’t send cards
I do phone,text or email to acknowledge a gift
Of course you are completely free to disagree with me,and I suspect you do

'The cards are about the sender demonstrating what a good sort they are'

Ridiculous

Literally just got my 6yo to finish hers. People dont have to buy her presents; the least we/ she can do is write a short Thank You card

The cards are about the sender demonstrating what a good sort they are
Not Ridiculous in the least. It’s an overt action to seek praise or approval
Ooo aren’t the children lovely,so well mannered.what a good sort.wrote a card

Lipstick If you had bothered to read my post, I said that text or email are perfectly OK alternatives. The important thing is that the thanks are communicated effectively.

I did read your post,and I’m in essence agreeing
I don’t need to individually acknowledge your posts and contribution

You were responding directly to what i wrote though!

im not round your house hiding the biros

Yes that’s how online forums work,one directly responds to a post someone else wrote

Nope, waste of paper. I had to write them as a kid though. Now everyone who buys presents for me or DD has a mobile phone or a Facebook account so we can just send them a pic and a text to say thanks. Might do away with Xmas/Bday cards soon too.

I do, certainly older relatives they haven't seen. If they received present and said thank you in Person I don't always bother

We usually don’t send letters. We say thank-you directly and rarely receive gifts that are not in person. Some exceptions; I sent them to older relatives / friends for wedding gifts. And my children have occasionally made a card / short letter when their grandparents have delivered a gift when they’ve travelled here. I don’t think they are necessary when you’ve said thank-you in person. I’ve only ever received them for weddings. Never for a child’s present.

'Not Ridiculous in the least. It’s an overt action to seek praise or approval
Ooo aren’t the children lovely,so well mannered.what a good sort.wrote a card'

Wow, you sound like you have a real issue with other people's behaviour.

Luckily I'm surrounded by friends and family who are....'good sorts' too😲

And that’s just fine Martha,it’s a great joy to have good friends & family
I don’t get why you’re so aghast or make the leap that I have issues

I don’t send thank you cards,I find it a fussy affectation,that’s personak preference, not having issues

I'm confused my this "older generation" thing.
Surely if the older generation are sending gifts to children it's their own GC they are sending to?
Would they not prefer a call (or visit if possible) and chat to their DGC rather than have the kids writting letters?

For what its worth my GF was late 90's and GM late 80's when
they died never did they look for thank-you cards from either GC nor GGC.

Yes. First year was a fag, from then on they've never questioned it.

If a close friend or a relative, will text or call to say thanks. If the gift is received in the post or via someone else, then a card. Usually this isn't many - this year it was a book for each of my kids from their godmother and a present from my best friend that her mum made. So not a huge burden to write 3 cards!