To rehome my cat?

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I'm not saying I definitely will and I'm not sure I want to but I'm so fed up of him ruining every nice thing I have and of him being an evil little shit.

Sofas, washing baskets, divan beds, carpets.

He has multiple scratching posts. I've tried the plug in from the vet to keep him calm, no change. Tried sprays to get him to scratch only his things and sprays to keep him away from mine.

I just be minding my own business and he goes into attack mode.

I've now got a young baby and he can't be around her.

At my wits end. So AIBU to be thinking of rehoming him.

For additional info he's 6. Had him since 8 weeks and he was neutered at 4 months as advised. All up to date with jabs and flea/worming.

A cat has the same intelligence as a human teenager...

Errr, I have cats and have had them all my life. Not one of them has got above an E or a 1 in their GCSEs.... So far under average... 😂😂

Sorry VampirateQueesn? Where on earth do you get that from?

If the cats so bad that even you don’t like him despite owning and caring for him since it was 8 weeks old why would you think someone else would want him?

Cats are hard to rehome at the best of times, cats with behavioural problems even more so.

Make it’s not brilliant. It’s fatuous and silly. I’m a cat and dog lover, but they aren’t children. The situations are completely different.

God's sake she came on looking for advice no need for sarcasm

No cardibach they AREN'T different. They are both living, breathing, reliant, members of the family.

Can't believe mumsnet at times

"You realise animals don’t feel emotions in the same way as humans"

There is evidence to suggest that actually, animals do experience emotion.

Only idiots think they don’t.

And personally I believe that once you take responsibility for a pet it's for better or worse - in the same way that you wouldn't abandon your child if they displayed undesirable behaviour 🤷‍♀️

Sounds like you are doing the right thing though OP in taking advice and looking into behavioural therapy. I hope you find the way forward for you and DCat.

You realise animals don’t feel emotions in the same way as humans

Probably not cats, no. Dogs though, definitely do require relationships, whether with dogs or humans, because they are pack animals. They are less emotionally intelligent than people, which is why dogs are much more loyal (and nicer than most people I've met). But it does not mean that their feelings are worth less. Toddlers are also less emotionally intelligent than adults, after all.

Cats are different. Not pack animals, generally better able to cope with being in their own. However, they are very territorial and so being uprooted and placed elsewhere would cause considerable stress.

In your position, OP, I think I'd try to keep them apart as far as possible. But, sadly, if the cat attacked the baby or showed signs of aggressive towards it, it would be rehomed.

The poor OP is asking for help. She’s had 6 years of this and now her baby can’t be around the cat in case it attacks. If it were a dog everyone would be saying PTS. I feel for her as my 17 year old cat has suddenly become vicious unlike my darling 19 year old who we lost just before Christmas who never ever hurt me.
She clearly hasn’t just got a cat for fun and decided she’s fed up of it

@katekat383

People like you make me sick!

A cat has the same intelligence as a human teenager. So don't start pulling that bullshit.

😂😂😂 ok then.

I agree if this was a dog that had turned vicious everyone would be saying get rid of the dog, you can't trust a dog blah blah blah. Of it's a cat, the cat extremists come in and say get rid of your child, the cat was there first. It's fucking hillarious. Some people are seriously deluded. Most cats couldn't give 2 shiney shits about their owners. If you died and left them alone they would just wander off and find someone else to feed them and give them a warm home.
OP is suggesting finding a caring home for a cat that is aggressive towards her and she fears the cat will do the same to her baby.

I am the craziest of cat ladies but in this case rehoming seems the sensible thing to do. Along with a decent donation to the shelter.

Unless I missed a post where OP said she was considering putting the cat in a bag with a few bricks and chucking it in the nearest river?

Cat extremists

Lemoneeza

Just to clarify, I do do mean you are am extremist because you love cats, I like cats, had one when I was younger but people coming on and comparing rehoming a cat to putting a baby up for adoption are clearly extremists 😂

@Drogosnextwife I know what you meant don't worry. Just had to acknowledge your hilarious turn of phrase!

I love cats but I love people more.

I have/love cats.

I would rehome a cat if it was unhappy around my children. Cats protection league could do this home to home, for minimal disruption to the cat.

But, it sounds very active. Could it not spend more time outside?

One of my cats used to be feral and lives outside. He sleeps in in our doorway on a blanket. He would hate being anywhere near my children. Some cats just prefer living more or less outdoors.

My personal feeling about pets is that they're like kids, some are easy to deal with and others are much more challenging for various reasons. It's the luck of the draw, some people have it easier than others. But we don't rehome our children, we take responsibility.

Realistically your cat is likely to be pts if you give it to a shelter, as pp say, there are many cats waiting to be rehomed, will anyone take the one who's prone to aggressive attacks and destruction? are you prepared to accept him being pts if you 'love the bones of him'?

I think you need to keep him and let him do his thing outdoors but keep him contained in a small part of the house (eg utility room or kitchen) to minimise risk of attacks and destruction.

Yes he'll miss out on some human interaction but he's a free spirit outdoors and it's still a much better option than him being caged in a rescue centre or pts.

Op amazon do them, have also seen occasionally in b & M. I’m sure pets at home does them too.

Bloody hell, these cat lovers on MN are very defensive aren’t they?!

Defensive isn't the word, Yearinyearout some of them are absolutely batshit!