To rehome my cat?

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I'm not saying I definitely will and I'm not sure I want to but I'm so fed up of him ruining every nice thing I have and of him being an evil little shit.

Sofas, washing baskets, divan beds, carpets.

He has multiple scratching posts. I've tried the plug in from the vet to keep him calm, no change. Tried sprays to get him to scratch only his things and sprays to keep him away from mine.

I just be minding my own business and he goes into attack mode.

I've now got a young baby and he can't be around her.

At my wits end. So AIBU to be thinking of rehoming him.

For additional info he's 6. Had him since 8 weeks and he was neutered at 4 months as advised. All up to date with jabs and flea/worming.

God these threads piss me off. Yes rehome your cat since you aren’t committed to dealing with it but don’t get another pet. So many people take on animals thinking only of what THEY want and not considering how they will manage over the long span of the animals life. It’s so selfish.

It sounds like you’re fed up with your cat. If it’s that bad then you need to do your best to find him a new home where he will be loved and treasured and that could take you some time. It’s worth doing this for his sake though and if you really care about him as you say then you’ll take the time to do this.

If you take him to a cat shelter there is a possibility that he never finds a new home and is eventually put to sleep as space becomes scarce. A sad reality.

Don’t get any new animals though. It sounds like you’re not prepared to see out the bad times. Not judging, just saying how I see it from your post.

Are you sure the switch in behaviour isn't over stimulation? Just a guess but I've had my kitten since she was 9 weeks officially but I suspect she was 6 weeks when she came because her claws hadn't retracted. Of course she'd pounce but it was in play but she was socialised well and continued to be okay with learning not to pounce or play too rough with our family. Maybe he still has the bad cat manners but it'd need work to stop it? Have you tried a cat behaviourist?
Is he an only cat?

The shelter where I got my cat from had about 30 cats waiting to be rehomed. Some had been there for a year. Why do people assume it’s easy to regime a cat? It isn’t. It could very well be Pts. Please do not have a pet ever again. Cats are animals. They scratch.

Rehome not regime

I'm a cat lover. We adopted a rescue cat that completely refused to be house trained. We tried so hard. After eight months I just couldn't deal with it any more and he went back to the animal shelter. Que lots of lies about having told us he wasn't trained, lots of emotional blackmail about him being put to sleep.

There comes a time when enough is enough. Time to stop. I think you're there, OP.

It's not something I'd rush in to. I'd want him to go somewhere where he will be cared for. I wasn't suggesting taking him to cats protection as I know they are under a lot of pressure.

I will look into a behaviour therapist too and see if there is anything else I could try.

My ex got him when we were together back then. Then when we actually got him he didn't look after him it was all me and so I took him with me as I didn't think he'd be looked after with him. Not an excuse but I hadn't really planned to have a cat. And I do really love the bones of him but I have honestly never known a cat like it and neither has anyone else I know.

It could just be his personality. Although I agree it will mostly be from being removed from his mother too young. They should be with their mother until they are 12 weeks. My cat was 7 weeks when we got him, I wasn't happy, but the woman we got him off would have just given him to someone else as she wanted rid. The thing is with getting him so young, he will see you as his replacement mother, the random attacking could be a dominance thing, or just how he plays with you. My cat does it sometimes, he is getting better now, I just turn my back on him like another cat would do. Try reading up on cat behaviour, they use a lot of body language to communicate.

These threads annoy me so much.

Yes, rehoming isn’t ideal. But it’s an animal. Why are people comparing it with putting your child up for adoption?

You realise animals don’t feel emotions in the same way as humans.

As a human, a mother, and a pet owner you have to make the decision that is best for you. If an animal is destroying your home and hurting you and potentially your child it does t make you a monster to rehome it.

cant believe how ridiculous some of the replies are.

You realise animals don’t feel emotions in the same way as humans

What an absolute crock of shit.

Does he get time outside? Catflap? Do you have a shed or room to put some sort of shelter with bedding etc so he has an additional safe space that's just his. Dsis has a feral type cat like this (looked after him once - never again and I have cats and love cats and have looked after aggressive males before but this cat was something else!)
It does look like the arrival of your baby has upset him

I agree Spiteful.

Poor cat 😢 it sounds so unhappy

Bugger that. If he was a staffy people would be baying for its blood. I would imagine that a cat scratch on a baby face/ eye could be pretty serious

He's like a Jekyll and Hyde. When he's happy he's purring away on me and chilling sleeping on the bed. When he turns he is a monster.

It's not the baby he was exactly the same before and had been since a kitten.

He is out overnight most nights unless it's too cold or wet he doesn't like it. He also has a cat flap in the shed with a bed etc in to go when he wants. He only uses this overnight, he doesn't like going out in the day time.

It’s not a crock of shit. A cat definitely doesn’t have the same level of emotional intelligence as a human. Fact

I would hardly call the op spiteful. Some people are so irrational

OP, I don't think you're unreasonable to think about rehoming him. He's making you miserable is not a good fit. And you feel you can't leave him in same room as LO.

I have 4 cats, love them deeply. Someone else out there may/will love him more which he deserves, as cats know when you're not feeling the love towards them. You'll get pilloried on here, it's such but you know in your heart if rehoming him is doing right by him.

I meant to type "it's aibu", not "it's such"

Have you tried pinning the scratching posts under the furniture he scratches such as corner of a sofa! It may be that the post isn’t weighed down enough so he prefers furniture as he can pull at it harder. My cat responded really well when I pinned it under the sofa. How do you react when he bites you?

He could be mindlessly chilling on me and the next he's got his jaw clamped on me.

Is he not just playing??

A cat has the same intelligence as a human teenager. So don't start pulling that bullshit.

No it doesn't.

@goodadvice1980 brilliant poto. Stealing it.

Get rid of the baby. Cat was there first and you took the responsibility on to look after him for life.