To ask what the age gap is between your first and second child...

[jayne310]

Just that really .. I have a 5 year old and been trying for another baby for a while now. But I'm abit worried about the age gap now if I get pregnant say this year ? Is it a big gap ? I dunno. There's two years between all my brothers and sisters.

3 years 1 month

Yep got pregnant very early and was only partially BF, not exclusive. My eldest 2 ended up in the same school year DD1 was the eldest and DS was one of the younger ones.
DD2 & DD3 have 14mths between them

20 months between my 2. Tbh it just keeps getting harder and harder. They are now 4 and 2.5 and it is completely relentless with fighting.

18 months

Took us 9 months to conceive DD1 so we thought it would be the same, it took 9 minutes. I was EBF DD1 too but my periods came back about 4 weeks after the lochis stopped, DD1 slept through the night very early though gaps of 4+ hours between feeds can bring you periods back.

Interestingly didn’t have periods for over a year with the next 3, in fact I had to drop feeds to conceive DS.

Lucky I feel your pain. Mine are just the same- fighting......I’m knackered after Xmas “holiday”.

1 minute between my first two
Then 2 years 10 months before my next one

8 years between 1&2, 2.5 years between 2&3.
The first has a different dad (who she doesn't see, and never took to DCs 2&3s dad).
DC1 doesn't like dcs 2&3 at all. Barely tolerates them now at 13, 5 and 2.
Not guaranteed any age gap will make them close.

I think a gap of 5 years is great. The gap is big enough that your eldest can be talked to reasonably about the baby and so may not be as jealous as a toddler would be... can be a bit helpful with things like entertaining the baby for a few minutes etc..... and you get to focus on each child more as their age difference means they will get to spend time with you in different ways... the baby whilst the eldest is at school and the eldest when the youngest is in bed for example... it's like having the positives of an only child AND the positives of siblings because when they reach adulthood a 5 year gap wont seem as big and they have the opportunity to be friends and support one another.

5 years 11 months. Can’t advise as baby only 3 weeks! But so far it has been very easy. DS understood all through pregnancy, was super helpful, was used to having sleepovers with grandparents, so when time came to be in hospital (for 5 days) he understood and wasn’t thrown. With a newborn he is still super helpful and can entertain himself for ages when I need to feed/change baby.
I would say go for it, DS already really loves the baby and is so gentle and patient because we could talk about it lots during the pregnancy.

2 1/2 years between 1 and 2 and then 15 months between 2 and 3. Much prefer the smaller gap as they get on so well the only down side is neither of them get much one to one time

There were six years between my sister and me, so we were never even at the same school together. With such a gap we had nothing in common and didn’t really get close until we were adults.
My own children are just 16 months apart, and it meant they played well together and were easy to entertain with age appropriate outings. It would be quite difficult to take a teenager and a young primary child out together, I should think, without boring one of them.

5 years between 1&2. They have always got on well but really love each other now they are teenagers... boy & girl but similar interests.
20 months between 2&3 and 3 and1/2 years between 3&4. The only real friction is between 3&4 but that is because 3 can be quite difficult.

26 months and a week.

3y 5m - ds is a fab big brother and they are now 13 and 10 ... enough of a gap not to compete but still be close.

16 months. Similar to a poster above, 11 months to get DC1 then fell immediately with DC2 despite EBF. A bit of a shock really. Next gap was more sensible, 2.5 years.

12 months. Almost to the day.

4 years. Mine are now 27 & 23, they get on fine. When they were at school my dd helped my ds with homework if he didn’t understand it.

14 months but there’s 8 years between my second & 3rd!

21 months but my friend has an 11y/o son and a 1y/o daughter.

Just under 2 years

Dd is end of March 2013
Ds is beginning of March 2015

18 minutes... in fairness though, had we not had twins we would have gone for another round of ivf by now to try and get another baby. Not even for a small age gap but due to infertility and lack of eggs on my part

I have a large gap between me and my brother though

I’m 30 and he’s 6.

However I am all moved out and with my own family so struggle to see him as a brother. More like a nephew

21 months

16 months

6 years - they mostly adore each other, big brother protective of the smaller one, youngest hero worships eldest. Eldest now 15 so not very interested in any of us! I also really enjoyed having to school day to focus on just one when Ds2 a baby & I sometimes look at the sibling rivalry/level of attention required by two young ones close together & think it worked out well! Both small & big age gaps have pros & cons - really no big deal IMO.