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I’ve done something incredibly stupid

101 replies

Massivemistake19 · 01/01/2019 15:50

I have name changed for this- partly because I am so ashamed.
In a moment of absolute madness at the age of 45, I tried a line of coke at a New Years party. I don’t know what the hell I was thinking as I have never done anything like it in my life before.
Now I feel devastated and so ashamed of myself - I have 2 kids and the thought that i could be so selfish has made me cry all day.

Aibu to ask for help and advise moving on from this- I feel so remorseful today and am also worried that I might have damaged my health.
I truly feel devastated by my idiocy

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Gnashers · 01/01/2019 15:52

No permanent damage done to yourself or anyone else, just don't do it again and chalk it down to experience. Nothing to be gained by beating yourself up about it.

something2say · 01/01/2019 15:52

Hey calm down. Coke is not my thing but it's not the end of the world. How much had you had to drink? And who gave it to you? Will you be judged do you think?

JaniceBattersby · 01/01/2019 15:53

Honestly, you just made a mistake. Don’t do it again. Worse things happen at sea.

You’ll feel bad today because you took drugs last night but you’ll feel better tomorrow.

CrimpBrunette · 01/01/2019 15:53

Stop being so hard on yourself! What's done is done. Coke is known for being a highly depressive drug so everything will feel 1000x worse. Chill in bed watching a good box set, lots of water. You'll feel better in a few days. And of course don't snort coke again!

SlowlyShrinking · 01/01/2019 15:53

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JacquesHammer · 01/01/2019 15:53

No permanent damage done to yourself or anyone else, just don't do it again and chalk it down to experience. Nothing to be gained by beating yourself up about it

This.

Honestly forget about it.

WomanWithAltitude · 01/01/2019 15:53

Go easy on yourself. It was one line of coke, it didn't kill you, and you won't be doing it again.

You are not going to tarred forever as a reckless, negligent drug-taking mother. You're about a million miles away from being that.

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 01/01/2019 15:54

Pull yourself together is the best I can do.

It’s not going to do anything to you. It’s not going to do anything to your kids. It was a stupid thing to do, you won’t do it again.

Angeladelight · 01/01/2019 15:54

It’s not the end of the world. It doesn’t sound like you’ve suffered any consequences, if it’s upsetting you then you know you won’t take the risk again. Be kind to yourself OP.

RoxanneMonke · 01/01/2019 15:54

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DisplayPurposesOnly · 01/01/2019 15:56

Speaking as someone who's never done any drugs, I think you're over reacting a bit.

OK, kick yourself a bit for doing something stupid, make a note to not do it again.

Maybe reflect on WHY you did it. You obviously wanted to step out of your comfort zone in some way. Is there a better way of doing that?

Original poster
Massivemistake19 · 01/01/2019 15:56

Thanks for your replies- I can’t stop crying about it but it’s made me feel less shit

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Doyoumind · 01/01/2019 15:56

It's not going to have done any damage whatsoever. Forget about it. Being devastated is an overreaction. Your probably just feeling the effects of a slight come down, tiredness and a hangover and it's making you stress.

Doyoumind · 01/01/2019 15:56

*You're

LadyLaSnack · 01/01/2019 15:57

You’ve got the fear. Presumably you maybe had a lot to drink before the coke? What you’re feeling is the comedown from the booze and probably the coke too - it will hopefully pass in the next day or so.

Don’t beat yourself up! You’ve not hurt anyone (including yourself).

Stardustinmyeyes · 01/01/2019 15:57

As others have said don't be so hard on yourself, it's done now and I expect with the feelings you have had today you'll never do it again.
I've never tried it but I'm sure that one line won't have a lasting effect on you

Original poster
Massivemistake19 · 01/01/2019 15:58

@ladyla yes, I had quite a lot to drink before

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semideponent · 01/01/2019 15:59

It sounds as though you feel that you did something you never thought you would do - almost as though an unknown part of you has come to the surface.

Your reaction to trying a line of coke sounds significant for you - perhaps too significant to simply chalk this up to experience and move on. Do you have a good friend or listener you could go to and talk it through?

brizzledrizzle · 01/01/2019 16:00

You know it was stupid, you regret it so now forget it and move on. We've all done stupid things in our time and in my experience everybody else forgets them whilst we beat ourselves up about that. It was last year, today is a fresh year and time to leave behind all the old stuff.

minionsrule · 01/01/2019 16:00

OP i have always been very anti drugs but a few times, at some low moments in my 30's I did a few lines of coke a few times. Never done it since and this is 15 years later. Honestly just put it down to a moment of madness and move on Flowers

LadyLaSnack · 01/01/2019 16:01

What you’re feeling is a short term physical reaction. It will pass I promise. Can you curl up in bed with Netflix and a pizza later?

lucky88 · 01/01/2019 16:02

It's ok. You made a mistake in the heat of the moment, probably while having fun.
You feel bad and are sorry. Say sorry to yourself in the mirror. Put a line under it, put it out of your mind ... move on.

Rarfy · 01/01/2019 16:02

I did this a couple of years ago. Never touxhed anything like that it my life then got involved in it one night.

Didnt even feel much different on the night so complete waste of tome but the next day the guilt and regret was horrendous. I was so ashamed. Never touched it again since and never will.

You will be feeling it today but when its completely worn off just look at it like a stupid mistake and never go near it again. We live and we learn.

LuluJakey1 · 01/01/2019 16:02

Don't make a drama out if it. Just don't do it again.

tinytreefrog · 01/01/2019 16:02

Don't worry about it. So you had a line of coke at a party. It's not like your kids were there, and by the sounds of it, you're certainly not going to developed a coke habit.

Seriously it really doesn't matter, a line of coke here and there is not the end of the world.

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