To think my friend is wrong?

[ConcernedAboutFriend]

My friend is in a relationship with a new man. Him & her still live with their respective parents so they don't get much opportunity to see each other alone. They've been to a hotel once and while they had a good time, he couldn't manage to perform. He said this was due to nerves.

She is considering spiking his drink with Viagara when they go to a hotel again next week. We are in conflict because I think this is wrong. Who IBU?

@absolutelyfuminG1
Mate do not drug your boyfriend

I think she's decided not to even try.

Thank god.

Watch your own drink around her OP!

It is wrong to spike someone's drink. It's an appalling idea!

Might be better for them to go away for a long weekend with no expectations and take it slow. When it is one night a lot of tension can build up with anticipation.

So obviously she couldn't only do it once. Was she planning to drug him from now until forever? Absolutely disgusting

My friend's parents frequently drugged their son-in-law with sleeping tablets (so he was too tired to drive them home) as they wanted their grandchildren to stay extra days.

My friend told me this with no idea how wrong it was. She also wanted to stay longer. Her parents did some strange stuff that she didn't recognise as being morally wrong.

No you can't drug him ffs. Glad she sees sense but is highly worrying she thought this.

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Thank fuck your friend has seen sense.
OPs friend, WTAF?????
At worst that’s prison sentence territory when he has a reaction, at best he dumps her when he finds out what she did.

Why cant she (or is it really you) just ask him if he wants some viagra FFS?

RusselSprout it is firmly not me, and I've said that to her. She says she doesn't want to make things awkward.

Jesus Christ. Reverse the sexes here and you've basically got date rape!
Never mind that he may have other medications or allergies that she doesn't know about and slipping him viagra could kill him! Spiking someone's drink is not okay. I would seriously be rethinking my friendship with this person.

As others have said it is totally wrong but also she doesn't want to make things awkward. coz spiking him wouldn't make it awkward? She realises he'd notice, right? Apparently it feels different for the man than a natural hard on, he's not just going to think 'wahey its working again.'

Plus what if he's thinking along the same lines and plans to take some himself? then he might overdose.

Best ever, it’s Christmas and we are still on holiday and I’m bored as fuck thread

Travis, I don't know how many ways I can express that I totally agree with those who think she's wrong. I said this in the original post.

So she's into date rape. Nice. I can see they will have a long, healthy life together. Maybe she would like to put a few pin picks in his condom or lie about her own contraception. Despicable.

It is horrible and reprehensible but it isn't date rape. Viagra gives an erection not a diminished ability to consent. He can still say no to sex even with a hard-on.

Premeditated pharmaceutical manipulation of someone's bodily functions without their consent and to expressly to cause and sustain an artificial physical sexual response from a partner is sexual assault in my book. Also against the law to medicate someone by deception. Basically trying to turn someone into a sex aid chemically. But hey ho once he's artificially hard he can "just say no".

Your friend is that desperate for a shag she would drug him?

When my DH told my DM that we were not TTC because I didn’t want children she suggested he swap my contraceptive pills with sugar pills! We both think my DM is deranged.