NC For this. this is based on IL’s as I am wondering AIBU. Basically when we stay at their house (occurs a few times a year) we (me, Dh and 3 DS’s) obviously live according to their house rules, mealtimes as they normally do and mealtime rules etc.
They have quiet set expectations for behavior (mainly for kids) at the table, they must finish ALL of the meal, and sit between courses (sometimes waiting for a conversation to finish 🙄)
Other things are they have cooked breakfast of some sort every morning, and a pudding with every meal.
In our own house we don’t have cooked breakfast every morning (mostly cereal and toast) nor do we have pudding with every meal. I don’t mind expecting the children to eat quietly and under my rules they must make a substantial attempt at their meal. But I don’t make them sit for a flipping hour after while I finish my conversation🙄
My problem is they came to stay with us over Christmas for a few nights and fully expected us to live according to their rules. I was at the end of my tether as were DS’s because we were asking them to do things they normally don’t have to. AIBU to think at our house means our rules, their house is obvs their rules!!???😫