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Original poster

This is way too much info but it’s playing on my mind .. did he “ fake it “

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Confusedatlife23 · 28/12/2018 11:43

Hi I name changed 😂

  • I’m looking for some advice and I’ve never experienced it before so sorry for the over sharing

Partner and I were having sex and I was slightly confused by the lack of evidence afterwards 🙈
Normally there would be some/ a lot “ leaking “ from me afterwards but nope nothing not a thing ( we are TTC ).
Is this usual ? I didn’t ask as obviously didn’t want to offend him either !
I was ovulating at the time
Is this him backing out of TTC or can this happen ?

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Santaisonthesherry · 28/12/2018 11:45

Despite a shower afterwards I sometimes have the leakage when I have gotten to bloody work!!

MissSmiley · 28/12/2018 11:47

Men can release varying amounts of "liquid" during an orgasm, maybe he had been wanking a lot earlier on the day or the day before?

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Confusedatlife23 · 28/12/2018 11:48

I don’t know it’s just never happened before 😂🤣and had had me so confused !!

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PaintingOwls · 28/12/2018 11:49

That's very unusual. I would be suspicious too.

ThePinkOcelot · 28/12/2018 11:50

Mmmmm. Did he sneak a condom on?

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Confusedatlife23 · 28/12/2018 11:51

There was defo no condom, know that much.

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homegrownmumma · 28/12/2018 11:53

How convincing was his 'finish' ? 😂

clockworklime · 28/12/2018 11:53

I think you‘re asking the wrong people

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Confusedatlife23 · 28/12/2018 11:55

Haha home tbh very very subtle
I’m so confused right now 🙈
It’s a site full of women who have had all probably had sex so why is it the wrong people ?

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lillylollylandy · 28/12/2018 11:56

The right person to ask is your partner - none of us can tell you what he did.

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Confusedatlife23 · 28/12/2018 11:57

The thing is he is hardly going to be like yeh I did fake it otherwise he would of just been honest at the time.
I was just curious if anyone had ever had similar.

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Thewifipasswordis · 28/12/2018 11:58

He faked it. My soon to be ex husband did it once years ago when he was tired. I found it hilarious.

Shivs123 · 28/12/2018 12:02

Maybe he was feeling the pressure and couldn't perform as he normally would? TTC can be hard on both parties, especially if he knows you are ovulating.
It is weird if he didn't just say that though

WhendoIgetadayoff · 28/12/2018 12:03

Clockwork means ‘It’s the wrong people’ as you’re making it up.

steff13 · 28/12/2018 12:04

Didn't we have this same there's last week?

steff13 · 28/12/2018 12:05

Thread. 🙄

Original poster
Confusedatlife23 · 28/12/2018 12:05

I’m genuinely not
Quite a normal person ! Name changed for the post
Have DD age. Bit random to make up 😂

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Confusedatlife23 · 28/12/2018 12:06

Ah ok I didn’t seem the last thread.
We have just been TTC for a while, had a loss early last year that effected us both and then a few months ago we got to the point where we were ready to try again. I wasn’t just confused

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Confusedatlife23 · 28/12/2018 12:07
  • was
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NutElla5x · 28/12/2018 12:07

Sounds like he probably was faking it. Maybe you ovulating was putting pressure on him to perform,even though he was tired or just not really up for it? I'd probably just ignore it this time,but def talk to him if he does it again.

Dimsumlosesum · 28/12/2018 12:08

Depends if they've already emptied themselves earlier in the day/day before.

Confusedbeetle · 28/12/2018 12:08

Does it really matter? Have you never faked it?

Original poster
Confusedatlife23 · 28/12/2018 12:09

Yes Thankyou for those who gave advice. I will just see what happens I suppose.
I wouldn’t mind if he spoke to me about it or had worries :(

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Confusedatlife23 · 28/12/2018 12:10

Yes it does matter because when you want something so bad, and thought the other person did to then you would hope
If there was an issue they would be open with you about it ?
My orgasm doesn’t take away all chances of TTC.

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Branleuse · 28/12/2018 12:10

He might have been faking it, or he might have wanked earlier so not as much ejaculate.
I wouldnt worry that he was deliberatly trying to sabotage ttc, otherwise hed refuse to have sex rather than refuse to orgasm surely