This is way too much info but it’s playing on my mind .. did he “ fake it “

[Confusedatlife23]

Hi I name changed 😂

• I’m looking for some advice and I’ve never experienced it before so sorry for the over sharing

Partner and I were having sex and I was slightly confused by the lack of evidence afterwards 🙈
Normally there would be some/ a lot “ leaking “ from me afterwards but nope nothing not a thing ( we are TTC ).
Is this usual ? I didn’t ask as obviously didn’t want to offend him either !
I was ovulating at the time
Is this him backing out of TTC or can this happen ?

Confused - your missing the point. She’s trying to conceive so she actually needs his semen!!!
Op maybe let this on go but if it happens again as you need to check if he actually wants more children.

Yes suppose your right I think it was just me being like oh wait this is confusing 🙈
I know it has been a tough year on us both I think maybe I will subtly speak to him about the TTC and make sure we are ok. I would hate if he felt pressured in anyway.

He might genuinely think he did but it could of just been a drip. He might of faked it because his head was just not into it and he didn’t want to upset you. The other thing is how did he look after sex was he just as normal or where things more upright still or completely vanished when normally there would be something? You need to look at the whole picture not just the fluids.

That last post you made is probably why he did fake it. Lot of pressure on someone to have an orgasm. Most orgasms don’t come from a place of pressure/stress/anxiety do they?

Seriously, he probably already had a wank earlier. They don't refill that fast!

Despite a shower afterwards I sometimes have the leakage when I have gotten to bloody work!!

Same. In my house it's referred to as 'having a crisis'. Usually while we're at brunch on Sunday 🙄

So we don’t make it about TTC at all we still make an effort to have fun in the process.
By stressful time and pressure over the last year was aimed at our loss at the begging of last year in which we obviously both took very badly.

Thankyou for the ones who gave some reassurance and advice I won’t bring it up unless there is more signs and If so will bring it up gently / subtly.
Thankyou.

Mine sometimes thinks he's come or isn't sure and he hasn't. Can always tell tho cos he comes loads when he actually does, and he stays hard after instead of going soft.
It's not supposed to be uncommon for men to fake it tho. Ask him?

I'd wonder why he felt the need to fake it. Are you putting too much pressure on him to perform? Perhaps don't tell him when you're ovulating or discuss it too much.

If it's only a one off I wouldn't worry about it. If it's happening regularly then I'd have a chat about things.

I once thought this but the evidence was more noticeable a while later as I had the leakage.

I hope this is the same for you.

Good luck with your ttc and sorry for your loss.

I recently had a missed miscarriage in October and feel we are ready to try again

Did you lie down for a long time after? Sometimes if you stay lying down and go to sleep, it will leak out the next day. If you got up though and there was absolutely nothing, then he probably didn't ejaculate.

Yep, faked it.
My partner did this once when we were starting to ttc. Said he hadn't made his mind up about it yet when I called him out on it. Fair enough I though & we came back to ttc a few months later once he said he deffo wanted to. It's quite a lot of pressure for them (I guess?)