Partner went back to bed!!

[Maccy26]

So Christmas morning....kids really good and don't come into us until 7:30am(bloody amazing as they usually get up between 6-6:30) I get uo leaving dp to get up by 8am. I then go to work for 2 hours (carer) I come home to find Dp has gone back to bed leaving the kids downstairs!!!
I admit this does happen if I have work on a Sunday and the kids (6 and 4) were absolutely fine and happy but aibu to expect better today CHRISTMAS Day??? It just feels so mean!

I'd have tipped a bucket of ice water over his head ff's.

We were up at 5 as usual 😫
Nobody went back to bed 😫
Eat his favourite Christmas meal treats

He does it normally - why you leave after 8 and they are his children he should be able to look after them rather than sleep

Um...I dunno. We're they happy and watching tv/playing with new toys? Is the 6 year old fairly responsible and we're all sharp objects safely put away?
Today is a long day..

I'd be fucking apocalyptic.

I'd be unimpressed (to say the least) with this on an average weekend My 6yo would be fine but my 4yo is a naughty wee fecker but on Christmas day it's completley unacceptable.

I'm guessing your DP is pretty useless in general OP?

I want to go back to bed now! If I don't I'll be forced to play Fifa 19..

Left alone every sunday at the age of 6 & 4? That is a huge safeguarding red flag, and I have no idea why no one has told you that?!

If the DC were fine and happy (and could have come and got him if needed), can't see the issue really.

It's a bit shit, really, but if you're happy for him to do it otherwise, I don't see why today is any different logistically?

I remember playing with my toys as a child on Christmas Day and not being especially bothered what my parents were doing! My dad often went out for a couple of hours (long distance runner) or had to work and I was left to my own devices while mum cooked or tidied up or whatever - it didn't scar me for life!

@queen totally not a safeguarding risk , there is someone in the house?!

You routinely leave your 4 and 6 year olds unattended for hours on a regular basis? Seriously???

Mondaytired

It absolutely is a safequarding risk. The person in the house is asleep in bed.

Some of you are ridiculous. It isn’t a safeguarding issue- they’re not home alone he’s in the house and there to wake up if something goes wrong. Have you never had a nap on an afternoon and left your children to play? Do they not spend time in there room playing alone? It’s the same thing, just in a different room.

*their- oops too many glasses of Buck’s Fizz apparently

When i had a six year old he used to get up and get his own cereal on a weekend. It was a flat, so I was near, but I was most definitely in bed.
He knew to come get me if anything was on fire.

My view is that he could have come downstairs with the children and dozed on the sofa. At least then he'd have been in immediate earshot.

Sounds like he doesn't feel parenting should be an equal thing! Very old fashioned.

Hope you enjoy today though, regardless of your infantile, selfish husband.

You routinely leave your 4 and 6 year olds unattended for hours on a regular basis?

They're not alone though, are they? Their dad is upstairs. Six year olds are more than capable of being left to play alone for a while, or are you in the same room as your DC 24/7?

Plenty of children are left to play in their rooms or in the living room while parents get on with cooking or housework or similar. They can go and wake their dad if they need anything - what's the problem?

It’s absolutely not a safeguarding risk, they’d laugh at you if you phoned that in! However it is a bit mean on Christmas Day.

You can't leave a four year old unattended whilst you sleep- that's just ridiculously shit parenting!

Seriously you guys.... kids are alone in their rooms at night and you are downstairs. Huge safeguarding risk?!!
Unless you are leaving knives out for them to play with then come on!

YANBU
I would of been pissed off!
I could understand coming downstairs and slobbing on the sofa but leaving them and goin to bed!
No

Don't let it ruin ur day tho

Presuming you all take your kids when you go for a shower as well?!

Apocalyptic? Autocorrect for apoplectic?

Surely he could just have had a nap on the couch if he was tired, at least that way he's still around?

Yeah, wouldn't be too impressed either.

Not a safeguarding issue.

Napping on the sofa is one thing but going back to bed is a bit much given it'll be a deeper sleep