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Partner went back to bed!!

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Maccy26 · 25/12/2018 11:49

So Christmas morning....kids really good and don't come into us until 7:30am(bloody amazing as they usually get up between 6-6:30) I get uo leaving dp to get up by 8am. I then go to work for 2 hours (carer) I come home to find Dp has gone back to bed leaving the kids downstairs!!!
I admit this does happen if I have work on a Sunday and the kids (6 and 4) were absolutely fine and happy but aibu to expect better today CHRISTMAS Day??? It just feels so mean!

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MyPoodleisWorthTenofYou · 26/12/2018 22:17

Unless you’ve brought them up to totally helpless wallies or they have additional needs of course it’s not a bloody safeguarding issue to leave them alone in another part of the house. I mean really! Get a grip.

I probably wouldn’t have done what your DH did on Christmas Day as that’s a bit mean, but I wouldn’t have got up in arms about the children being in some randomly mortally dangerous situation like some in this thread.

BottleOfJameson · 26/12/2018 22:21

Don't be silly they're 4 and 6. They might just do something silly or not know how to react to a dangerous situation because they're young children - that's why you're not allowed to leave 4 and 6 year olds alone in a house - it's literally illegal. There's a massive difference between leaving them while you do something in another part of the house and actually falling asleep and not being able to respond at all.

MyPoodleisWorthTenofYou · 26/12/2018 22:22

They weren’t alone in the house.

Do you slip into unconsciousness when you sleep, or go totally deaf?

AtSea1979 · 26/12/2018 22:25

Oh great make a comparison between “helpless wallies” and “additional needs”

keenkaren · 26/12/2018 22:38

it's literally illegal
As opposed to figuratively illegal I take it

MissyCooper · 26/12/2018 22:53

I have a (just) four year old. I am gradually introducing the concept of independence. She plays up in her room alone and every ten mins or so I stick my head in to check she’s ok or shout up to ask her. I think this is about right for her and for me.

I don’t just fuck off to bed and leave her. I’ve never even been tempted. She wouldn’t give me five minutes peace anyway.

ILoveChristmasLights · 26/12/2018 22:56

It’s not illegal in England

Queenofthestress · 26/12/2018 23:01

Its not a random mortally dangerous suitation that you should be worried at, its if one of them fell over and injured themselves

for example - 6 year old falls over, smacks his head, looses concious, 4 year old thinks he's playing a game so leaves him to it, gets distracted and wanders off to play with something else, (we all know 4 year olds have the attention span of a fish)

in the mean time the 6 year old has been knocked out for a fair while and no one in the house has any idea.

How the fuck is a 4 year old meant to know that he needs to go get daddy because his brother isnt playing a game? Nevermind if you need to present take them to the hospital and you dont have any clue of what happened or how?

And your telling me that isnt an issue? How blind can you honestly get?

RedHelenB · 27/12/2018 15:49

That situation could occur at night though when both parents are asleep. 4 year old asleep and 6 year old wakes up and knocks his head.

Morgan12 · 27/12/2018 16:00

All of you who think a 4 and 6 year old can be left to their own devices for two hours are fucking mental.

Queenofthestress · 27/12/2018 18:33

@Morgan12 They really are fucking mental

Difference between it happening at night and in the day when the sole adult in the house has gone back to bed, is that if you presented that same senario at 3am at A&E you wouldnt get a social services inquiry, present it at 3pm and tell them you've not got a clue because you went to bed? Then you get a social services inquiry.

Queenofthestress · 27/12/2018 18:33

I'm actually gobsmacked people think it's okay!!

HomeMadeMadness · 27/12/2018 18:57

Do you slip into unconsciousness when you sleep, or go totally deaf?

Do you understand what sleep is? Yes you are not fully conscious while asleep and no you won't hear things you would hear while awake - especially while deeply asleep.

HomeMadeMadness · 27/12/2018 18:59

As opposed to figuratively illegal I take it

Why are some posters such dickheads all the time and usually the ones who lack basic comprehension. Clearly literally illegal means it's not a grey area it is specifically not allowed.

SchoolPanicTime · 27/12/2018 19:00

Going to sleep and leaving 4 and 6 years unattended while you deliberately go off to the bedroom is clearly not OK, it would be considered neglect by social services and no one normally does it. The minority who do are obviously defensive about it and have come here to voice their defensiveness.

therewillbetime · 27/12/2018 20:15

Homemade madness

That’s the same poster who said that SG had only been in existence recently and only in relation to schools and sexual abuse. If it wasn’t so frighteningly ignorant it would be funny.

Tonkerbea · 27/12/2018 21:41

Exactly SchoolPanicTime.

Handing out grips, because it's easier to think people who wouldn't do this are uptight helicopter parents than admit your own standards are worryingly lax.

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