Dp hasn't bought me anything.

[Mummymumm]

I feel like I'm being spoilt maybe. Dp couldn't be bothered to get me a present (his words)

He earns a lot more than me so he pays more bills and things, so I feel like I can't be sad that he didn't get me anything but at the same time I can't help but feel annoyed and a little underappreciated.

I'm on SMP and had to buy dd her stuff and even a little for him.

Aibu to feel a little sad. 😥

Your DP is an arse. "Couldn't be bothered" just says it all, I think. Get yourself a partner that doesn't just "bother" but actually cares to make you happy.

Typical mumset, encouraging leaving him just because he didn't get a present.

But it's shit and not on. Tell him. Tell him he should make an effort and get something with thought. A book, a candle, a surprise meal at a restaurant. Give him some ideas of what you'd like and make it clear it's upsetting when he doesn't make the effort.

Communication!

Typical mumset, encouraging leaving him just because he didn't get a present.

But it's not just that. It's obvious that finances aren't equal in this relationship, as OP said she's on SMP and had to buy DDs presents out of that, yet he earns a lot.

So, it's a financially abusive relationship, and that alone is reason enough to leave him (and she should). But added to that, he told her he "couldn't be bothered", he's also telling her that he doesn't give a shit about her.

Nobody should put up with that kind of relationship. I hope OP starts to see things clearly, for what they really are, and leaves this sorry excuse of a man, because she deserves a partner who really cares for her, and loves her.

You shouldn't have to tell a partner to buy something for Christmas. Unless they have been sleeping under a rock tbh can't have missed that it is the done thing. He said himself he 'couldn't be bothered'. There's no communicating out of that one.

Did he buy gifts for anyone at all?

Has he always been financially abusive and a prick to boot?

I got nothing too.

You know what I would do OP?

I would publicly announce to everybody (dm, df, aunts, uncles, cousins, on facebook etc)that you are seeing today or tomorrow telling them that your DP has bought you a trip to PARIS! NEW YORK! MALDIVES*! etc

*choose based on where you would love to go!

Isn't he just wonderful!?!

Why did you have to buy all your child's presents? Why wouldn't he at least do that?

Communication!

Yes, he communicated he couldn't be bothered. 'Nough said.

Miiaaoow

What would that achieve? Her DP is still abusing her financially.