To eBay rare LOL doll - DH says I'm awful

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Our 4 year old is into LOL dolls and has lots of them (all bought and paid for by me)

I gave her one the other day - it cost £10 but when she opened it we realised it's very rare and going for £50 on eBay

When we realised this, I said to DH I'd sell it, which he said was "awful" etc as our daughter would miss it, blah blah blah. After this conversation I put it away to see if she'd miss it (she didn't as she had 15 others and they all look similar!)

Anyway I didn't take this conversation very seriously as it seemed a bit ridiculous for him
To actually be annoyed with me, and since our daughter hadn't even noticed it had gone I popped it on eBay and now someone's offered £30 and there's 5 days to go

When I mentioned this just now in front of his family, he kicked off and got all cross, whereas they backed me up

I said he was overreacting, joked he could bid for it if he wanted it that much, said I'd paid for it and no one had even realised it had gone etc, but he'd properly annoyed!

I said I could by her give more with the proceeds and they all look the same anyway. He said she knew it was rare (she's only 4!?) and how could i...

AIBU? Sorry for long post, struggling to explain this concisely!! Seems like a bit of a storm in a tea cup

I personally wouldn’t, because it’s not yours. You bought it for your child. I know you said you paid for it, but that’s how kids get stuff when they’re four - it doesn’t give you ownership rights.

I remember once suggesting my then 4-year-old sold an ultra rare Moshi Monster, she went ballistic and still mentions that time I tried to get her to part with something of hers without giving her the choice (which isn’t how it played out AT ALL). But the point is, she remembers it five years later.

Otherwise, where do you draw the line?

Is it Luxe by any chance??

Yes she’s rare and some people will pay stupid money for her.

I couldn’t do it though. It is my daughters lol so it’s what she wants to do with it

It won’t be worth anything in a couple of years, anyone remember Beanie Babies?

@Auntypatricia 🐍

A few years ago I bought DH a Christmas gift in the October, it cost about £250 at the time. By Christmas it was going on EBay for up to £800!

I gave it to DH and he knew what it would raise on EBay... we still have it!

It's a gift, so you either gift it to her, or don't and sell it. It's a bit strange to take someone's present away and sell it when you realise you can get money for it. How would you feel if someone gifts you lets say a ring or necklace, and then a few weeks later they take it away behind your back because they can sell it?
Does not matter if your daughter is 4 or 14 or 44. It will teach her that money is more important than just gifting, you;d be surprised how much kids remember and learn from us.

It's not a great message for your child's sense of self-worth. Because something has a monetary value, it's too good for them so should be sold. Surely the value of the rare/ultra rare ones is in the kids feeling they have something special.

My DD is 4, she absolutely knows which of her LOLs are rare/popular etc. She got an ultra rare this morning and it didn't cross my mind at all to sell it!

YABU

If you’re so excited by the prospect of £40 why are you spending so much on this tat to begin with :o even if it was over a long period (not that long if she’s only just four)

So you want to see a toy your bought your child for a huge profit.

1] will you give the money to your child?
2] How do you feel about exploiting parents who are paying over the odds for a piece of plastic?

I agree with your dh. The moment you gave it to your daughter, you have no say over what she does with it.

*sell

I'd sell it, it's just a piece of plastic....

It is a strange thing to do OP. It is a present that you gave to your daughter. It is pretty naff to take it off her and sell it.

if she doesn’t miss it, why not? how would a 4 year old know about rare dolls????? if you ask her to choose between this one and 3 new ones, what is her answer?

I'd sell it, it's just a piece of plastic.... But it isn't op's piece of plastic.

And kids know stuff. My dd has been in blind bags for years, you often get a details list of the collection with something indicating which items are rare or not. Dd certainly would have been able to tell at 4 if she got a rare item.

She is also very attached to her things, so selling would not even cross my mind.

Quantity above all then yura?

Maybe a 4 year old doesn't necessarily know what 'rare' is, but they certainly know what special is and this is a special doll to her. No amount of money could make me take it away and sell it, especially when you're quite clearly not struggling for money in the first place.

If I find Lol dolls on the floor in my house they go in the bin, wretched things!! At least you’re making a profit from it 🤷‍♀️

After eBay & PayPal fee’s you’ll get less than £40. I think it’s pretty mean tbh. If she’s got too much give it to a child who has less & who will be over the moon.

I find it mad how people are saying she wouldn't know if it's rare or not my DD is 4 and she knows because she collects them, I really don't understand how people sell their children's possessions it's disgusting

AgnesNaismith Why do you buy them then?

Regardless of whether YABU to sell it you are definitely being unreasonable to do it behind your dh back after he said he wasn't happy about it. You should have had a proper discussion and come to a decision together. I would be fuming with you for going ahead and doing it behind my back if I was your dh

Quack....why do you think I buy them?

If I find Lol dolls on the floor in my house they go in the bin, wretched things!!
Why on earth would you do that?

Because they are utter plastic tat, luckily dc doesn’t want to buy them anymore.