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To eBay rare LOL doll - DH says I'm awful

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Pooshy · 24/12/2018 22:22

Our 4 year old is into LOL dolls and has lots of them (all bought and paid for by me)

I gave her one the other day - it cost £10 but when she opened it we realised it's very rare and going for £50 on eBay

When we realised this, I said to DH I'd sell it, which he said was "awful" etc as our daughter would miss it, blah blah blah. After this conversation I put it away to see if she'd miss it (she didn't as she had 15 others and they all look similar!)

Anyway I didn't take this conversation very seriously as it seemed a bit ridiculous for him
To actually be annoyed with me, and since our daughter hadn't even noticed it had gone I popped it on eBay and now someone's offered £30 and there's 5 days to go

When I mentioned this just now in front of his family, he kicked off and got all cross, whereas they backed me up

I said he was overreacting, joked he could bid for it if he wanted it that much, said I'd paid for it and no one had even realised it had gone etc, but he'd properly annoyed!

I said I could by her give more with the proceeds and they all look the same anyway. He said she knew it was rare (she's only 4!?) and how could i...

AIBU? Sorry for long post, struggling to explain this concisely!! Seems like a bit of a storm in a tea cup

OP posts:
PossiblyPFB · 24/12/2018 23:23

I do not understand the craze about LOL dolls at all. It’s after all just plastic tat. Someone gave my dd a load of them once- If we get one from someone it’s out within a fortnight with the recycling as she just doesn’t play with them and doesn’t notice they are gone, has never mentioned it once they are gone . The original prices are artificially high and any ‘rare’ one more than paid for by the multitude of ‘common’ ones one has probably already bought. We don’t go in for that!! Sell it and buy something that adds value to her life - we have no regrets about minimising plastic tat!!!

PerpendicularVincent · 24/12/2018 23:26

My DS would be so upset if he realised I'd done that with one of his toys. I know she's only 4 but it doesn't mean she has any less right to her things.

I think it's pretty mean tbh.

Elphie54 · 24/12/2018 23:26

You gave her a toy and hen took it away (put it away) immediately because you wanted the money for it/sell it?

Yes, this is absolutely awful!!! I am with your DH on this.

babysharkah · 24/12/2018 23:28

I'm with your dh, you can't do that!

allthegoodusernameshavegone · 24/12/2018 23:31

Yep,I’m with you, flog it and don’t buy anymore Of this expensive shite.

MumMumMum1 · 24/12/2018 23:40

What if you sell it then she remembers & asks for it..? Shitty thing to do for the sake of £30. Money money moneyyy blergh 🤮 it’s christmas, give your daughter the damn toy back. Totally agree with your DH.

BoomBoomsCousin · 24/12/2018 23:48

I can see both points of view. I think, given your DH had expressed concern that your default should have been to not do it, certainly not without persuading him first.

Bababoo13 · 24/12/2018 23:50

why did she get one so close Christmas 🙄

Any reason - birthday,well done at school treat after being poorly

Stompythedinosaur · 24/12/2018 23:52

I think it is mean, I wouldn't do this unless I really needed the money. It isn't your to sell!

GunpowderGelatine · 24/12/2018 23:53

I'd do it and get a toy that's actually worth £40 for her! I did it with my Dd's tsum tsums one sold for £15 and I put it towards a baby born doll

Gileswithachainsaw · 24/12/2018 23:55

I think it's mean sorry. What's the point in selling it only to but more dolls? You won't even be up financially the its all gone just like you never had it Confused

Mayhemmumma · 24/12/2018 23:58

Sheesh you can't sell it, it's ULTRA..and a four year old know it.

If it's kitty queen id pay 60.....

BrendasUmbrella · 24/12/2018 23:58

I don't really see the point in selling it. If you were really broke then fair enough, but selling it simply because it's rare seems odd. But you did take it almost immediately and she is four, so she probably won't remember. Especially if it goes for £50 and you can buy her five new dolls.

user1494055864 · 24/12/2018 23:58

I regret not selling my dds fingerling last Christmas. I got one before the mad frenzy, as it was on her list. When they started going for silly money, I was sooo tempted to sell it, but didn't, and she opened it on Christmas day, and hasn't looked at the damn thing since, so personally I would sell the lol doll.

GunpowderGelatine · 25/12/2018 00:00

user I nearly got assaulted over a fucking fingerling and same here DD looked at it on Christmas Day and it's been in her toy box untouched ever since Angry

Excited101 · 25/12/2018 00:01

You know your child, 4 is a funny age- some might be totally into the collecting and know exactly which is which and others wouldn’t have the faintest clue. If you’re 100% sure she wouldn’t then I don’t see the problem as long as it’s replaced straight away, but if there’s the slightest chance then it’s not on. For a middle ground you could have always explained it to her and said if it was sold she could have 2-3 new ones instead with the proceeds.

MrsTommyBanks · 25/12/2018 00:02

I wouldn't have sold it.

cariadlet · 25/12/2018 00:04

I'm with your DH on this one.

It seems logical to sell a £10 toy which isn't a favourite toy if it can make a good profit. But that's beside the point. It wasn't yours to sell. You'd given the toy to your dd so it was hers. You don't have the right to take your child's toy and sell it behind her back (even if you intend to give her the money or use it to buy 5 of these dolls).

It was also out of order to do it behind your DH's back and then announce what you'd done in front of his family. He thought it was an awful thing to do and told you so. If you really felt that selling it was ok then you should have firstly tried to persuade him over to your point of view and then suggested it to your dd.

I'm not surprised that he's pissed off with you.

Racecardriver · 25/12/2018 00:07

It’s not nice to effectively steal her toy over £40. If she agreed to sell it that would be fine but otherwise it’s not a nice thing to do. Not downright awful but not nice.

whinetime89 · 25/12/2018 00:10

I'd sell it. In my house it would be trashed soon enough anyway.... why not make a profit

TheDarkPassenger · 25/12/2018 00:10

I wouldn’t have done it and I’d be fuming if my oh went behind my back and did it.

Money isn’t worth it IMO

NeedAdvice12345 · 25/12/2018 00:10

YABU. It wasn’t yours to sell. The whole point of the lol dolls is to get the full collection your dd is unlikely to get a rare one again. Plus if she can get a full collection it will be worth more than £40. My dd has the completed series 1 and I got told it’s worth approx £500.

Loftyswops988 · 25/12/2018 00:12

If it was thousands I'd understand but for 50 quid i think YABU. Maybe it will be worth more in time and then at least she will be older and can choose whether she wants to sell or not

64ChewsBrains · 25/12/2018 00:13

Yeah, this was wrong of you and sort of horrible.

Your daughter is a person independent of you; if you give her a toy it’s hers. It isn’t still yours. You’ve pinched it to flog. Grim.

POP7777777 · 25/12/2018 00:15

I would sell it!

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