To eBay rare LOL doll - DH says I'm awful

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Our 4 year old is into LOL dolls and has lots of them (all bought and paid for by me)

I gave her one the other day - it cost £10 but when she opened it we realised it's very rare and going for £50 on eBay

When we realised this, I said to DH I'd sell it, which he said was "awful" etc as our daughter would miss it, blah blah blah. After this conversation I put it away to see if she'd miss it (she didn't as she had 15 others and they all look similar!)

Anyway I didn't take this conversation very seriously as it seemed a bit ridiculous for him
To actually be annoyed with me, and since our daughter hadn't even noticed it had gone I popped it on eBay and now someone's offered £30 and there's 5 days to go

When I mentioned this just now in front of his family, he kicked off and got all cross, whereas they backed me up

I said he was overreacting, joked he could bid for it if he wanted it that much, said I'd paid for it and no one had even realised it had gone etc, but he'd properly annoyed!

I said I could by her give more with the proceeds and they all look the same anyway. He said she knew it was rare (she's only 4!?) and how could i...

AIBU? Sorry for long post, struggling to explain this concisely!! Seems like a bit of a storm in a tea cup

My daughter is mad on LOL dolls too. She is 5 but she started getting them when she was 4. She only has 5. And she recently got one for her birthday and it was an ultra rare one. She was so excited she got an ultra rare one and would go crazy if it went missing. It never even slipped my mind to sell it. Like why ? Why would you want to sell your daughters doll for thirty quid and buy her three more normal ones. With her having so many surely she knows it's a rare one and could image her wanting to keep it. I think it's a selfish thing to do.

She. Is. Four.

She has noooooo idea what rare means! Let alone the value of a particular doll.

My four your old was distraught she'd lost a pretend invitation to her brothers pretend party as she thought that meant she wouldn't be able to go.

Sell it!!

I think it's a really scabby and shity thing to do tbh. She'll know it's rare and when she realizes it's gone she will be really upset with you.

I’m presuming everyone who thinks op was right to sell would be happy if their partner puts something they own or receive tomorrow on eBay stating he\she will make money off it’s it’s alright

I'd sell it in a heartbeat, then put the proceeds in her bank account.

It's not to do with the rarity or the value. It's a gift that you have taken back to .....sell for....money. It's morally wrong.

Shitty thing to do. And I'm laughing at all those who think she wouldn't notice it was gone. Mine have almost had their toys catalogued. They know if a crappy McDonald's toy is missing.

My only question would be, has she realised it's missing but doesn't want to make a fuss as she's worried she's lost it and mum would be upset so she's hoping it turns back up? (My two at 4yrs were pretty on the ball!)

If you gave it to your daughter it's not yours to sell. Would you be ok with her selling your stuff when she's older if she doesn't think you'll miss it?

^^THIS

This reminds me of the recent thread where a little girl had been given a teddy by a terminally ill friend who has since died, and the teddy had become her very special comforter. The friend's daughter asked if she could have the teddy and plenty of people said that the OP should hand her little girl's teddy over.

Doing what you're suggesting is an excellent way of teaching your daughter that children's feelings and possessions don't matter. Adults always know better than them what they should be allowed to enjoy and what things they own they should get to keep.

At what age do children earn the right not to have their own possessions just whisked away from them with not a word spoken? Does this mean that a child over that age can just help him/herself to the belongings of a child under that age?

This is a dreadful betrayal of trust and, as has already been said, how could you then possibly object if the child grows up and does the same with your own possessions? How about you actually talk to her and give her the option? She's plenty able to understand this at 4 if explained to in simple terms and treated like the important individual person she is and not just an extension of you.

sausageroll, that’s beautifully put. Sums up exactly what I was thinking but couldn’t quite put into words.

Yabu, what a low thing to do to your lo. Can you Imagine in years to come your child reminiscing about the time her not so s
Dm gave her a toy that she was obsessed with only to sneakily take it and eBay it for a profit? I'm actually starting to think this thread isn't real and is just because somebody is bored, here have a

OP doesn’t seem to be coming back. Hopefully she’s removing the listing from eBay and apologizing to the bidder.

OP out of interest what rare doll is it?

I think it’s an awful thing to do too I’m afraid.

Wow! I can't believe you would consider this.
My dd got Punk Boi as one of her first LOL dolls and was hysterical. She got in WH Smith and everyone was asking at school where we had found him.
He sits on a shelf on her desk.

I wouldn't dream of selling it.

It's different if you're on the breadline and are selling your own possessions too but it doesn't sound like that from your post.

Shockingly mean spirited

Awwww. She's gonna notice. What will you say? That you don't know where it went, and let her search? Or that you sold it?

The joys of greed and mass consumerism

Think it's a shitty thing to do but also cannot stand the amount of people using LOL's as a money making scheme. I bought a box of the new series last week to make sure I got the couple my little girl wanted, once I had I offered the ones left (including rare and ultra rare!) to other parents of collectors for retail or is return to shop untouched, I could have made money on them but jeez where's your heart?! I even sold for retail one of the ones my daughter had expressed an interest in because I knew another little girl was so desperate for that one and mine wouldn't know and I'm an adult so why wouldn't I want to make a young child happy rather than robbing her parents?!

Things people do for money

It's wrong to gift your daughter something and then sell it because you realised it's worth more than you paid for. What if she gets a rare again? Are you going to sell that one too? Only allowing her to keep the common ones

If you discussed it with your daughter and made clear what selling it meant, then it would be ok. As long as you used the money gained to buy her some more. But, you’ve hidden it in the hope she forgets about it (my four year old wouldn’t) and plan to sell it without her knowing. It just doesn’t sit right.

She. Is. Four.

She has noooooo idea what rare means! Let alone the value of a particular doll.

My four year old would understand what rare means. I’m sure many others would too. Especially if they watch those YouTube videos.

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll Seriously? Was the girl allowed to keep her teddy bear? Your post is spot on by the way!

I understood what rare meant when I was four (it was more in regards to plants and animals, but you get the idea.)

Yep wasn’t yours to sell
The fact you paid for them is irrelevant

@SapphireSeptember

Thank you for your kind words

This was the thread - unfortunately, it didn't really reach a decisive conclusion as there were a number of pertinent details not clarified by the OP:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/3451999-Grieving-family-want-teddy-back