Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

DP left in a huff

123 replies

CatAnnoyance · 23/12/2018 22:13

Am I going mad here or what?

DP is 40 today. For weeks I've been asking if he'd like a doo or a party or anything like that and he's said no, anything like that is his worst nightmare.

He did say he wanted a game for the Xbox. So I got him that. And tonight we went out for a nice meal with champagne etc.

I've been ill with a cold the last few days and can't seem to shake this tension headache. Probably as our DC (2) has been poorly too, and I've had to do the Christmas shop on my own whilst feeling like shit and also working full time. All of which has resulted in not many hours sleep the past week.

We get home from the restaurant tonight and he's sulky. I think maybe he's tired as he's been up with DC too the last few nights. Then out of nowhere he asks me if I've bought any sexy outfits for tonight?! I'm like what are you on about?

Apparently whilst shopping a couple of months ago we walked past Ann Summers and he said jokingly 'now that's what you can get me for my birthday' and I joked back the usual 'don't think it's suit you har-de-har'. Thought nowt more of it.

Until tonight. He'd thought I had this slutty surprise planned for him when we got home from dinner. When he realised I hadn't and even if I had I feel way too ill to even contemplate it, he said 'so the only thing you've got me for my 40th was a 25 quid game??' Proper incredulous. I'd been asking for months what he wanted and that's what he said.

Anyway he's walked out of the house. Dunno where he's gone. I'm in bed now on pins till he comes back. I just feel like shit now. Guilty that I only got him a game. Happy to be told IABU but it's pissed me off none the less.

OP posts:
SimplySteve · 23/12/2018 22:40

Oh, and I got a lot less than an Xbox game for my 40th and didn't sulk!!!

HolgerLowCarbingLoser · 23/12/2018 22:41

I think you should tell him that for your next birthday you expect to be treated to a bigger, shinier, harder cock.

Seriously annoys me, that entitled male entitlement.

DavetheCat2001 · 23/12/2018 22:42

Lock the door. Go to sleep.

CatAnnoyance · 23/12/2018 22:42

The cheeky bastard has just come back. I'm in bed and I had my eye mask on (to help with the headache) and he walked in the bedroom and nudged me awake. Said are you going to talk to me? I said no. I'm falling asleep. Go back to wherever you've been. He said you need to talk to me. I said goodnight. He said fine.

He's now downstairs on the fucking Xbox game that I feel like using as a frisbee and slinging it over the garden fence.

Twat.

OP posts:
HolgerLowCarbingLoser · 23/12/2018 22:43

Hmmm meant to say egotistical male entitlement.

Aquamarine1029 · 23/12/2018 22:43

What an absolute pathetic wanker. I'd lock him out.

Aquamarine1029 · 23/12/2018 22:44

I would be raging if I were you. As though you're some sleazy sex doll to stroke his ego. FUCKING IDIOT.

CatAnnoyance · 23/12/2018 22:46

I am silently fuming up here. It's not worth arguing with him, he's got this knack of twisting arguments back around on me so I end up forgetting what we even started arguing about and somehow it's all my fault and he's a poor lamb.

Can't be arsed with all that tonight. It's tedious at the best of times.

OP posts:
Nothininmenoggin · 23/12/2018 22:47

Jesus hope he likes the selection box you got him for Xmas then cos that's all I'd get him. What a knob.

CatAnnoyance · 23/12/2018 22:48

Xmas Grin loving some of these responses, you lot are good!

OP posts:
Nodnol · 23/12/2018 22:49

What a prick.

HolgerLowCarbingLoser · 23/12/2018 22:50

I’d be remembering this for a long, long time if I were you.

He’d be getting absolutely no respect, no intimacy (in any form) and no thoughtfulness from me.

But I’m a bit of a bitch, really.

Maelstrop · 23/12/2018 22:50

The whole seriously thinking you buy him a sexy outfit so you can what? Service him on his birthday? This would make me query what he really thought of me and walking out- a child, I don't do sulking since I got out of my teens!

Hope you get some sleep, OP and that the headache goes.

BlancheM · 23/12/2018 22:52

What an absolute prat. Really unattractive qualities he has: sulky and a worrying attitude towards sex with his DP equating to a 'gift' of monetary value. Just grim.

SimplySteve · 23/12/2018 22:54

he's got this knack of twisting arguments back around on me

Sorry, is this an ongoing trend? If so, there's a bigger problem then his sexual birthday undertones.

I think you should tell him that for your next birthday you expect to be treated to a bigger, shinier, harder cock.

Viagra is now available without a prescription....

FestiveGanesh · 23/12/2018 22:55
  1. He's an arse
  2. Being 40 has nothing to do with anything. It's just another birthday.
  3. Let him get on with sulking
  4. I hope you can get some sleep and feel better soon Flowers
DavetheCat2001 · 23/12/2018 22:55

He sounds repulsive OP

youarenotkiddingme · 23/12/2018 22:56

I'd tell him he's 4 not 40 and doesn't deserve anymore if he's going to storm off because he didn't get the "toy" he wanted for his birthday.

youarenotkiddingme · 23/12/2018 22:56

40 not 4 🤦🏼‍♀️

SimplySteve · 23/12/2018 22:57

Preferred your original age tbh, @youarenotkiddingme

Giraffey1 · 23/12/2018 23:02

He sounds rather childish. Maybe say to him in the morining ... look, I asked you mmteen times what you wanted and all you came up with was an x box game. I gladly bought this for you. We went for a lovely meal with fizz.
Oh,and I’ve been feeling like shit yet have managed to look after our poorly DC, do all the shopping and hold down a full time job which you seem able not to notice. Did you help me with any of this? No.
Yet you still manage to whinge and behave like a spoilt child when I won’t dress up in a crappy Anne Summers outfit? It’s time you started acting your age and not your shoe size.

WilburforceRaven · 23/12/2018 23:03

Oh, FFS! What a little brat. I can't abide all that 'sexy' lingerie. He stormed off? Let him. What an arsehole. I'd take Night Nurse and crash out.

SnowyPaws5 · 23/12/2018 23:09

OP, let him apologise to you now. Leave him to sulk till he acts like a 40 year old.

itsalmostfriday · 23/12/2018 23:11

, he's got this knack of twisting arguments back around on me so I end up forgetting what we even started arguing about and somehow it's all my fault and he's a poor lamb.

This is emotional abuse. Narcissistic behaviour, sulking like a child when he doesn't get sex... alarm bells are ringing beryls loud here

nocoolnamesleft · 23/12/2018 23:14

Hang on, if you've been together 13 years, you must have had a significant birthday in that time....

A fiver says you made more fuss of his than he did of yours.

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

This thread is closed and is no longer accepting replies. Click here to start a new thread.