To want my partner to contact me ??

[DizzyBeeme]

Ok..I'm in a fairly new relationship..about 3 months. He lives about 40 mins away and we make a n effort to see each other at least twice a week and call/txt every day. The last I heard from him was on Tuesday...then a txt on Thursday to say I'm busy..and then nothing. Am I right to be upset? I've called..messaged..but his phone is either switched off or he won't answer. I'm at my wits end and have a good kind to tell him I'm done !! Should I wait and see if he gets back in touch..or take it that I've been ghosted. Thanks x

It doesn't sound good OP.

If he wanted to be in touch, he would. But he's not.....so......

I'm sorry.

Doesn't sound good OP. Cut your losses before it's too late. He might come back and say so sorry, but at the end of the day he still did it. Somebody who wants to be in your life regularly will always make the effort - and he isn't.

Sounds like he's already made the decision for you

Why are you calling him your partner? You have only been seeing him 3 months!

I wouldn’t jump to conclusions just yet about why he hasn’t been in touch.

I would presume this was his cowardly way of cooling things off, sorry OP. If I were you, I'd not contact him again.

I'd say he's dumped you

If it’s been off but then it rings sorry but id that as ghosted. Man clearly has no balls so you had a lucky escape! Find someone better x

Looks like someone’s about to be ghosted

I feel like I've been dumped..it's horrid though because this is the second time this has happened this year. I clearly attract complete cowards !! I really didn't need this just.before Christmas. It's mean.

It is mean. But you deserve better. Remember that.

he is your boyfriend not partner, its only been 3 months, I would say he is probably “ghosting” you.

If I wanted to call him my partner.. what difference does it make?

No need to be mean Candy. It doesnt bode well OP, if he’s acting like this already cut your losses with this one.

‘Partner’ implies a level of commitment
That, you ain’t got here

Because I do wonder if you are going too fast too soon and he’s panicked? He’s someone you have been seeing casually, not a life partner.

It's just a partner is a term usually used for couples who have been in a long term relationship

It’s best you find out sooner rather than later, sorry
It’s shit tho. Don’t let it ruin your Christmas

It’s fine to call him that.... I can’t see what difference it makes and after a certain age boyfriend can feel a little weird. I don’t think it’s looking very good though.... what legitimate reason would there be for not contacting you after this time? Takes a minute to send a text.

I won't. I have 4.children and have made a real effort for them . I just wish he'd man up !!

Yes we are both in our 40's which is why I find boyfriend off..I prefer partner.

Write him off.
You're attracting dickheads because you are settling for dickheads. It really is better being single.

So..guess who called me today ??!! The elusive other half was very apologetic and explained that he's had a few days of very bad vertigo and felt unwell. He apologised and we are planning to get together next week to see where we are at. He was very upset and apologetic and now realises how worried I was. So there you have it.

He was ill? Poor man, vertigo is horrible. No wonder he wasn't in touch. Have a great Christmas

Oh vertigo is awful. My colleague had it and was off work for weeks... had to crawl on her hands and knees to the toilet because the room was spinning so much. Does he live on his own because that would be really tough?

He's had to move in with his mum as he's bedridden. He just messaged me and he is really not well. I'm glad I didn't give up on him - there are so many negative Nancy's on here I truly thought I'd been dumped !!