To want my partner to contact me ??

[DizzyBeeme]

Ok..I'm in a fairly new relationship..about 3 months. He lives about 40 mins away and we make a n effort to see each other at least twice a week and call/txt every day. The last I heard from him was on Tuesday...then a txt on Thursday to say I'm busy..and then nothing. Am I right to be upset? I've called..messaged..but his phone is either switched off or he won't answer. I'm at my wits end and have a good kind to tell him I'm done !! Should I wait and see if he gets back in touch..or take it that I've been ghosted. Thanks x

Not at the same time. Guy ghosted her in October and she started seeing this one in November.

You really need to slow it down, OP. You're barely split from your husband. There's nothing wrong with being single.

Me and my husband divorced nearly 3 years ago now..

Yes, but then you took him back and he only moved out in June.

I don't know why people are finding this hard to believe.

I'm having difficulty understanding,

In October the OP posted about her BF not getting in contact. Then at the beginning of this month she says she has known him three months and they are getting married at the end of this month.

I assume this man has already met the OP's four children so she obviously doesn't agree with the usual advice that children should not be introduced to new men until after 6 - 12 months.

Then BF goes awol again over Christmas. Now he's sort of back albeit ill and obviously the wedding at end of this month is off as OP has said give it a year.

Clear as mud.

Has the current man you're dating met all your children yet?

He has not met any of.my children yet.

And he proposed ? 😂😂 although I'm so glad he hasn't met your children !

@SilverySurfer it's two different men. The one in October disappeared, never heard from again. The new relationship started end of Nov.

@Giesabreak I never took my husband back...he moved out in September 2016 and has since remarried..

Also my new relationship started at the beginning of November. I'm sorry if I've confused anyone.

You know all your old threads are still on here, right??

You posted in June saying you'd had your husband move back in, but had asked him to leave again that evening

You updated your last ghosting thread on 17th Nov saying you were going on a first date that weekend

We first went out that weekend. I thought it was earlier in November.

And you just forgot about your husband living with you again?

And that you were due to get married at the end of this month?

Easy done, I guess.

Yes I took him.bacl as I was suffering from a depressive episode..but he insulted me in front of the children and made me feel worse so I asked him to leave.

Completely understandable.

What I don't understand is why you've lied on this, and other threads.

What sort of man proposes to a woman with four children after three months, none of whom he has met?

@SilverySurfer we are both Muslim. There is not much point in dating if you are not thinking about marriage. He was really smitten and said look. Let's.get to know one another but.ultimately I want to get married. Which is normal in my culture. It's a step fwd from an arranged marriage.

Ooh wow, that took a turn Op!

So what happened to the wedding you said was happening at the end of January?

And why lie about your husband?

I assume you didn't do the Freedom Programme as suggested toy your previously?

As mentioned..I told him to wait with the wedding. I'm in no rush to get married again.

But OP in March 2018 you have a thread about buying a new house.

In it you say you are married, you are in your 40s your husband mid 30s, you have 4 children and 6 of you are living in a 3 bed house.

But now on here you say you've been divorced since 2016 and your husband has re married?

What have you done with the 35 year old husband that you were married to in March 2018?

So within less than a month, this guy disappeared on you, reappeared, proposed, which you accepted, then you put the brakes on it and told him to wait another year?

And this all started one month after your last 6 week BF ghosted you, with that relationship starting about two months after your abusive Ex moved out (whom you had taken back after divorcing)

Seriously. Take some time out and do the Freedom Programme.

He remarried back in 2012. He took the I'm a Muslim I can have more than 1 wife..she is in Pakistan. He moved out in 2016 as I was ill up Till then. He moved back in just to help with the kids as their father only as I had a major depressive episode. He moved out shortly after.