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School pick up, child not there!

106 replies

Russell19 · 22/12/2018 16:21

My friends DD (reception aged 5) finishes school at 3.15. My friend finishes work at 3pm and rushes straight to school to pick her child up. She has to park quite far away, as there is no school car park, on a community centre car park that is used by the school and parents.

She normally arrives around 3.30. Yesterday she arrived just after 3.30 and went to the classroom door and her DD was not there, the teacher said she had taken her to the main office. When asked why she said school pick up time was 3.15 and beyond 3.30 all remaining children get taken to the office for supervision and the office ladies call parents to see where they are. (The issue is that the office is a 5 min walk around the other side of the school)

My friend was very annoyed and was rude to the teacher. Who is being unreasonable? The teacher or my friend?

OP posts:
Fattymcfaterson · 22/12/2018 16:23

do you seriously need to ask?

SillySallySingsSongs · 22/12/2018 16:23

Your friend

MissCalamity · 22/12/2018 16:23

Your friend

abbsisspartacus · 22/12/2018 16:23

Your friend is she needs to finish work earlier or get after school care

PotteringAlong · 22/12/2018 16:24

Your friend. If she can’t get there for 3.15 she arranges for after school care. The teacher has done 15 mins unpaid childcare a day for 15 weeks and has understandably had enough.

masterandmargarita · 22/12/2018 16:24

Your friend

Walkerbean16 · 22/12/2018 16:24

So your friend is 15 minutes late every single day?

Sirzy · 22/12/2018 16:24

Your friend is being exceptionally unreasonable.

She can’t just rock up at school when she pleases. She needs to arrange after school childcare if she can’t be there for the end of the day

petalsandstars · 22/12/2018 16:24

School finishes at 3.15 - your friend is BU! She is always late and needs to arrange for someone else to be there on time or finish work earlier.

loubluee · 22/12/2018 16:24

Ummmm let me see??? Oh that would be your friend of course. Seriously you had to ask??

GreenTulips · 22/12/2018 16:24

Errr your friend by miles

Collect in time or arrange childcare

No question

YouTheCat · 22/12/2018 16:24

Your friend is hugely unreasonable. If she knows she can't make 3.15 on a regular basis then she needs to sort out her childcare/after school club.

People who pick up late, with no decent reason, boil my piss.

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea · 22/12/2018 16:24

She's 15 minutes late every day? She's BU and needs to sort herself out!

QueenNovo · 22/12/2018 16:24

Your friend is very unreasonable to be constantly 15 minutes late for pick up, and an absolute arsehole for being rude to the poor teacher.

PathOfLeastResitance · 22/12/2018 16:24

Clearly your friend is unreasonable. She should be there at 3.15 and the teacher should’ve been delivering her daughter to the office way before this point. If your friend can’t be there then she needs to .org use childcare.

DeeStopia · 22/12/2018 16:24

WTF. The child needs picking up at the end of school, not when it suits her parents.

weebarra · 22/12/2018 16:24

Your friend. School is not childcare. It's really tough trying to work and make it for pick up but the finish time isn't optional. She'll need to negotiate something which allows her to pick up het child on time.

CripsSandwiches · 22/12/2018 16:24

Your friend is obviously being unreasonable. 15 minutes is an acceptable window for the teacher to hang around waiting for stragglers. Beyond that of course the child is taken elsewhere. It's your friend's responsibility to pick her daughter up on time, taking into account traffic, parking, delays at work etc.

DartmoorDoughnut · 22/12/2018 16:25

Seriously?

jellyelly · 22/12/2018 16:25

Your friend. I doubt you’ll get any other response, as it’s pretty obvious.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 22/12/2018 16:25

Shock she normally gets there at 3:30? So every day she knows she will be 15 minutes late? That’s appalling behaviour.

DishranawaywiththeSpoon · 22/12/2018 16:26

She was 20 minutes late to pick up her child! Of course she WIBU! School ends at 3.15, she should be there at 3.15, if she can't make it she needs to sort something else out.

I know it's a MN classic but teachers aren't babysitters ffs! How long are they expected to look after the children for?

Fridaydreamer · 22/12/2018 16:26

Surely you don’t have to ask.

Your friend is bang out of order if she’s up to 15 mins late every day.

She needs to either change her hours, arrange someone else to pick up or put her DD in after school care.

MrsLJ2014 · 22/12/2018 16:26

We finish school at 3:15. Any uncollected children from my class are taken to the office as soon as all the others are gone so by 3:23ish. I have to pay for childcare for my own child as I can't be there at 3:15, perhaps your friend should do the same.

BookwormMe · 22/12/2018 16:26

Why does your friend think a different home-time should apply to her? [hmmm] I'm amazed the school haven't pulled her up already on her consistent and arrogant lateness.

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