To think he should have bloody looked??

[CmdrIvanova]

Walked up to the till to pay in a busy crowded cafe. Man at the till waiting to be seated took his jacket off without looking to see if there was anyone else.around him. Removed it in the most overdramatic manspreading way imaginable and walloped me hard in the ear. Its still throbbing an hour later.

Careless. Yanbu. He should have looked.

YANBU.

The sheer amount of people who have almost ended up sitting on my lap this morning at the supermarket because they don't give a shit about anyone surrounding them and can't see a massive, bright yellow electric wheelchair is astounding.

I'm so considerate of those around me and pay such attention to where I move. It doesn't take much, but unfortunately a great deal of people are selfish and entitled.

Yes, I'd be irritated and resentful, accident or not. (And especially when it was an easily preventable accident.) Feeling angry won't make it better, but if you're annoyed, you're annoyed. Not much you can do about it... Hope your ear feels better soon!

are you always so angry? Get over it. And don't stand so close to people in front of you next time - I hate it when people do that to me - perhaps he did it on purpose!!

Trying to figure out where I said I'm 'so angry'

The question is, did he apologise and seem genuinely sorry, or did you get a glare for being in his way?

Former I’d forgive and hope he learns from it, latter I’d wait til he was seated and ‘accidentally’ nudge his table on the way past so his drink spills. (Or at least imagine myself doing that...)

That would have pissed me off as well OPz

jelliebellie I was standing by the till. There was nowhere else to stand. Any further back and I would be joining a table of diners. And if you smack someone on purpose for standing close to them rather than saying 'Excuse me', that's assault, and you must have a real hard time in the supermarket.

You are angry though.

No, really. I'm sore. Really quite sore. Not angry.

I’m very short. I might have whacked you in the boob. I hope your Christmas improves from now on.

Thank you, Christmas is good, ocado came this morning with no substitutions, the kids Santa gifts are already wrapped, and DH will be doing the cooking on Christmas Day :)

Was it a wax jacket?
Fab!

Still sore? I don't see how tbh. Are you prone to be dramatic?

Very very much the opposite, I assure you.

I would never have guessed.

ach, it was an accident. I got rammed really hard by a trolley today. It was a bit unfortunate. But that's probably good pay back for me running through a much deeper puddle thanI expected this morning during park run and creating an enormous tidal wave that got all of those around me.

I hope your ear calms down. It sounds like a well wrapped icepack might help with the throbbing.

Still sore? I don't see how tbh. Are you prone to be dramatic?

I don't see how you can tell whether the OP is sore or not tbh. Are you prone to be psychic?

OP, there was a thread recently about how so many people now go through the world utterly oblivious to the people around them and how their actions might affect them - that's what happened here.

Just surprised it's still hurting that's all.

I commiserate you for your lack of imagination GreatDuck

I gave her a cuddle and told her to be more aware of her surroundings - see OP? It was a learning opportunity. As with that poster's DD, you need to be aware that if you get hurt, you are in some way to blame. This is the way of women.

Of course, if your DCs had done this accidentally it would have been entirely justifiable if the poor man was furious and hurt, in pain etc., and reaction he had would have been entirely reasonable, and he may have had mental health issues (if under 50) and dementia (if over 50). You would have been a bad mother for letting them run riot.

As it is, he's still a poor man and needs our understanding and you are ... well, lets face it ... a WOMAN.

YANBU. I have a jaw disorder so I have to be very careful that this kind of thing doesn’t happen to me. I would be FUMING. Though I’m so aware of my surroundings it probably wouldn’t have happened. But most people wouldn’t be so he should have looked. Unless he thought he was in there alone which he obviously wasn’t he was BU. I hope you feel better.

Man spreading, very sexist remark.

I disagree. Men sit spread out, tsking up more space than required, whereas women cross their legs and make them small as possible. Men walk down the street and subconsciously expect women to move out their way. I know NAMALT but in general men maximise themselves and women minimise. And this man spread. Into my ear.

YANBU. He should have been more careful. If I didn't look where I was going I would accidentally knock over people all the time. Some accidents are more avoidable than others.