To have a word? (Parent and child parking).

[OptimisticIntrovert]

I've just pulled into a parent and child space (with my baby who is sleeping so waiting for him to wake up before i go into the supermarket).

A woman pulled into the space next to me- no kids in the car- and went in to the shop. She's not back yet.

AIBU to accost her when she comes back and tell her that it's not fair?

Most answers wins!

Ds has only qualified for a blue badge in the last 6 months. He was very much disabled for the 8.5 years of his life before that but the system is shit in many ways the hoops to jump through for a badge is just one of them

Iwoukdnt apologise of someone challenged me. I’d either go ffs or more likely cry and hobble off. Don’t you understand that it is HARD to get a blue badge? I use parent and child spaces when I’m having. A bad day and I can’t walk or manoevre.

bourbonbiccy - I love your comment, my sentiments entirely 🤗
Merry Christmas to you 🎄

Nothing surreptitious about it, Persephone. It's a general 'you're a dick'....these threads always have a good sprinkling of people who pat themselves on the back at their Nancy Drew endeavours in taking down the 'bad guys' (ie confronting/making passive aggressive comments/looking crossly at....people who have broken an unwritten law by parking in a p&c space with no child.....hang your head in shame). It's a big dick umbrella.

I suppose I have been brought up to have manners and consideration.

It's funny, because that is exactly why I think it's pretty awful to act like the car park police!

For various boring reasons, at weekends I have to sometimes transport DS around in DH's work van. THE LOOKS I get as I pull into a P&C space are fucking brilliant...surpassed only by the hurried withering when I get DS out of his car seat and give the parking police (nee naawwwww) my best passive aggressive death stare.

Is this thread a competition as to who has the most entitlement to a P&C space?!

This is hilarious, anyone bar AIBU Mumsnet would be a bit miffed seeing an able bodied person park in such a space and jog to the supermarket.

[grin]@Persephone70 denying stalking the woman round the store.

hazeyjane at no point am I rude or ill mannered, I simply point out that " I think it is a space for parent and children". So I still uphold my manners.

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Blimey, you wouldn't think this is a mums chat thread, no solidarity here!
Has no one ever had a baby that has fallen asleep on the way somewhere totally unplanned?! What was OP supposed to do, park in a normal space until baby woke up and then move into a P&C space? I seem to strangely be in the minority here but YANBU OP in my opinion.

Christ on a bike who knew that a forum on parking could get so nasty. What the hell ia wrong with some of you? Why do you think it’s ok to personally attack a stranger?! How do you know that people aren’t vulnerable on here and comments like that could tip them over the edge?

I’m glad to see Mumsnet put a warning message on here because some of the negativity on Mumsnet these days is getting out of hand and is making people not want to post.

If you think the poster is being unreasonable then just say that but to call her an idiot and suchlike is ridiculous. Shame on you!

OP - I get the rage too when people who do not have a child park in those spaces so I empathise and so f-Ing what if your child was asleep for 4 mins in the car, you were just trying to be a good mum.

This is a parking thread. A PARENT AND CHILD space parking thread. In AIBU.

Did you honestly expect flowers and sympathy?

@sharke - no, if you read my post again you’ll see that I’ve said that I find it perfectly fine for posters to state they feel OP is being unreasonable but the personal attacks are unnecessary and unwarranted.

Christ on a bike who knew that a forum on parking could get so nasty.

^ Welcome to MN. 🙄

Persephone you were stalking. You’ve admitted to pretending to struggle to getting a basket out so you can stare at her then deliberately following her around To make a point. The very definition of stalking and quite frankly a deliberate attempt to harass. You seem proud of your actions and yes I would laugh. You are not the parking police and it was a dickish act.

As for the egg nog? It was a tongue in cheek comment. I might have another one before bedtime. What a devil I am. At least one egg nog doesn’t make me act like a dick.

Persephone I wouldn't have dilly dallied behind you, I would have asked you what your problem was and then told you to mind your business. You have no idea why she parked in that spot and it had nothing whatsoever to do with you. You sound someone who likes to meddle.

"How can you deem yourself disabled, yet not qualify for a blue badge? Surely it’s black and white; you either have a disability or you don’t?"

My son as an adult will have the highest rate PIP and will qualify for a motability car but he won't automatically qualify for a blue badge. He has one at the moment but could lose it in 2 years despite being profoundly disabled, requiring 2:1 support in special school etc.

Persephone, tell you what, why don’t you follow my oldest around too. He’ll mutter and talk to his dog, because he has mental health problems, but can go shopping if he can park close to the premises. He’s not entitled to a blue badge but wouldn’t be able to go out if he had to walk across a busy car park. He’s only started going to shops the last two years, after I gave him the courage to use the p&c spots. He’s 28, but should I tell him to stop, just so you feel justified? He can just go back to hiding in his room.

My late father had a wonderful phrase, useful in all sorts of occasions. I would imitate him reply “how very interesting” in tones of utter disdain 😁
I like the sound of your father.

I’ve answered with, “yes, I’m aware of that, thank you.”

Didsomeonesaybunny - hear, hear.
There seems to be so much bitterness and name-calling on here, especially in more recent times. I think some people spend rather too much time here and take it rather seriously. I would love to meet some of them in person, I wonder if they are as brash and brave in real life? 😉