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AIBU?

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To have a word? (Parent and child parking).

325 replies

OptimisticIntrovert · 21/12/2018 13:15

I've just pulled into a parent and child space (with my baby who is sleeping so waiting for him to wake up before i go into the supermarket).

A woman pulled into the space next to me- no kids in the car- and went in to the shop. She's not back yet.

AIBU to accost her when she comes back and tell her that it's not fair?

Most answers wins!

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GreenMeerkat · 23/12/2018 08:41

This topic has been done a lot on MN. I wouldn't challenge someone who used one because a. I am a wuss don't really like confrontation and b. I know people use those spaces to collect children, as I have done before, and been yelled at for it (said person looked quite sheepish when they saw me returning with a pram and two young children, while they returned to the space next to me with their 9 year old).

I've always thought they should put them at the back of the carpark rather than the front. We need them for the extra space, not distance to the shop. That would prevent people parking in them who want to be closer to the doors.

Rayn · 23/12/2018 08:53

For gods sake. No wonder we have a problem with society??
How about not parking there out of sheer politeness?
The problem is that everyone in today's world has a sense of 'entitlement'.
Ok the spaces aren't law abiding but how about just doing the right thing??
So
Many selfish people on here.
Merry Xmas ya filthy animals

DeepanKrispanEven · 23/12/2018 08:54

genius1308, does it occur to your narrow mind that those so-called "entitled old people" may well have medical conditions meaning that they need those spaces considerably more than you do? It really isn't a nightmare getting children out of cars in non parent and child spaces, witness the number of venues that don't offer them where parents seem to survive. If you choose to park somewhere where you have only 30 cm to open the door - and there is virtually always a choice - accept the consequences.

JosieJasper · 23/12/2018 09:14

For me the spaces are always about room for the doors to open, not being close to the shop and that is actually so that my kids can get out of the car without damaging mine or someone else’s. So even if I choose the p&c space, I pick ones towards the back in my local supermarket. Also, different car parks have different ages. I think Tesco is under 5s but Sainsburys is up to 12 so some people may genuinely get confused. I think we have to give people the benefit of the doubt because as many have said, there are plenty of reasons other than just being lazy.

morningconstitutional2017 · 23/12/2018 09:33

I can understand your annoyance but why pick a fight? It won't enhance your day and could make it worse for whatever reason. Let it go.

masterandmargarita · 23/12/2018 09:34

So genuinely interested, do all the rule breakers on this thread break all sorts of other rules or is it just the parent and child parking spaces that get your goat?

hazeyjane · 23/12/2018 09:37

Sometimes I put the toilet roll on the holder the wrong way round

PurpleDaisies · 23/12/2018 09:38

Bloody hell hazel, you should be utterly ashamed of yourself for that. Disgusting behaviour. Those rules are there to protect society.

ncasouting · 23/12/2018 09:38

Inspired by this thread I went to security yesterday in my local Tesco and asked them if I could park in the P&C spaces as I am on 2 crutches. They said no problem.

What rules am I breaking? It’s a reasonable adjustment for my disabilities. (Thanks to whoever said that)

It used to be in Tesco that you got a sticker for your car, but now you don’t. So how are they going to police it anyway?

PurpleDaisies · 23/12/2018 09:38

Hazey not hazel!

hazeyjane · 23/12/2018 09:50

I'm hoping to create anarchy in society.
Toilet paper misdemeanors first....next toppling the government and rioting in the streets

masterandmargarita · 23/12/2018 09:54

What happens in your toilet up to you love, not sure how that relates to society at large

HopeGarden · 23/12/2018 09:56

I get that it’s annoying when you’re trying to find a P&C space with a baby and see someone without a child parking there - but I really don’t like the idea of writing notes and sticking them on windscreens, or having a go as a general rule.

Sure, chances are lots of these childless car parkers are just being thoughtless or selfish. But there’s also going to be people parking there who have a genuine need for a space that’s a bit bigger or a bit closer to the store, and who don’t qualify for a blue badge for whatever reason. And some of those people might not look disabled at a casual glance. So I’d personally rather not say anything than risk upsetting someone who’s got a genuine need for the space.

Agree with a pp that putting the P&C spaces further would cut down on misuse by able bodied people who don’t need the extra space.

hazeyjane · 23/12/2018 10:22

masterandmargarita ironically I have never parked in a p&c space without a child, and unless we couldn't get in a disabled space, we would leave them for parents with younger children.

The thing I object to on this thread are the people who think it is ok to confront/follow round shops/leave notes and have a word with people who park in them. I guess there is no 'rule' against this, so maybe people feel it is ok. To me it is not ok.

Charlottejade89 · 23/12/2018 10:30

I only get annoyed about it when there's no spaces left in the p&c bit and I have to struggle getting the car seat out of my car in a normal space and then see someone with no kids loading their shopping in and driving off. My dd is only 5 months so I usually take the whole car seat out and put it on one of the trolleys with a space on top to put it on rather than instead her and carry her in if she's sleeping and it's quite difficult in a normal sized space

moreginrequired · 23/12/2018 11:05

I do have a little tendency to say “ that’s one heluva big baby hen” to entitled couples I see parking in these spaces...

People are entitled oinks these days, rude and self involved. I have no issue pointing that out ...

PositivelyPERF · 23/12/2018 11:28

I do have a little tendency to say “ that’s one heluva big baby hen”

If you said that to me when I’m out with my 22yr old, that looks ‘normal’ (dick head commenters) I’d put her back in the car and what I would say to you might make you think twice. You remind me the wankers that would make smart comments when I would be going into the shop with my strong ‘looking’, BIG terminally ill husband.

PositivelyPERF · 23/12/2018 11:39

As for people being self involved! Maybe if you looked outside of your little bubble, you’d be aware that people with disabilities may be waiting for a badge, or not able to get one because they don’t fit that particular councils ‘box’ of quite ill enough or such a rare disorder that they don’t have a fucking clue what it is, are actually just as ‘entitled’ to need the extra space or closer to the shop, as some parents.

Rodenhide · 23/12/2018 11:43

Okay, I've seen lots of people park in p&c places who are not obviously with a child. I have never confronted them, nor seen anyone else confront them. I became a parent to multiples a few months ago and it still wouldn't occur to me to do this. It is still not a valuable use of my time.

Spikeyball · 23/12/2018 12:09

"People are entitled oinks these days, rude and self involved."

You are clearly too rude and self involved to realise how offensive your comment could be. I hope someone pulls you up on it soon.

FrancisCrawford · 23/12/2018 12:23

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Samcro · 23/12/2018 12:29

I am so glad that my local ASDA have moved the P&C bays away from the entrance. they re vamped and made more BB bays.
I would only park in a P&C bay if I had my adult child (disabled ) with me and couldn't get a BB bay.
I think P & C bays are handy. but just Handy. not a necessity like BB bays.

SauvignonBlanche · 23/12/2018 12:38

Having been on MN since 2007 (in various guises) I’ve seen far too many of these threads.

I parks in one of these P&C spots with DD when she was 13 (following surgery to her groin) and was convinced, probably by my MN use that some bellend was going to say something.

DD looked fine but was in a lot of pain and was moving very gingerly, she’d have been mortified if anyone said anything so I’d prepared a retort for her, she was almost disappointed that she didn’t need to use it.

Rodenhide · 23/12/2018 12:58

Samcro
Agreed, they are useful but they are not a God-given right, despite what some on Mumsnet seem to think.
Having to take a child with you across a carpark when neither of you have a disability doesn't really mean you need a special space.

WilburforceRaven · 23/12/2018 13:05

I do have a little tendency to say “ that’s one heluva big baby hen”

That would make me laugh! 'That's one helluva big mouth pet' is all you'd get from me.

Fucking hate these stupid spaces and wish retailers would put them at the back.

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