my son is in state school but looking to possibly move him to private if he can get a scholarship/bursary
we were lucky in Primary - only 100 pupils in the school - doubled up years in most classromms, but the small friendly environment was beneficial - although we noticed a distinct change from a previously nurturing head (ofsted - good) when my daughter, 6 years his senior) was there, to an Ofsted Outstanding new head - definately more driven, more results based, less caring.
Secondary is a whole different ball game. My son is bright. He is in the yop stream for all lessons and he enjoys learning, and the teachers on the whole are nice but fighting a battle each day around achieving anything because of the general behaviour of the kids.
Im not looking to move my son because of the teachers - I think they are doing the best in a fucking awful environment. They try, they try to be funny, to engage, to be nice. But the kids!! The kids are just horrible. They are just mean. They spend their times trying to outdo each other in smart arsed cockiness, picking on people, trying to be cool, trying to prove themselves one way or another, usually at the expense of others. And that seems to be what they are interested in - their social standing.
My son did 3 days at the private school. Its a school where the head takes a particular care to offer places to kids who he feels will fit their 'family' - kids who are kind, who are fair and who are keen to learn. They are not swotty kids, nor are they typical 'we are the best' type kids. Just nice kids. They dont need to prove anything. The classes were fun, and because the teachers were not coralling the hoards, nor so restricted by the curriculum, they could explore subjects in more depth and go off at tangents to discuss and learn when a kid's attention was sparked by something new. And they value the arts which are as important a part of the curriculum. And nobody laughed at each other, made them feel small, made them humiliated.
The biggest difference was that my son fell over in both schools. At the private school the kids came running over to check he was OK, to help him up and pick up his things. At the state school they stood, pointed at laughed at him, and some took the opportunity to tip his bag contents into a puddle.
I do know though that not all state schools, not all private schools. But its the kids Im trying to move him away from. The teachers, on the whole, have all been pretty great.