CF alert - apparently iabu to not share my au pair

[WontShareMyAuPair]

I was approached by a school mum today as she's having issues with holiday childcare yes, I know, she should have sorted it before the last day of term and she asked if our au pair could look after her DC whilst she was working on the days between Xmas and new year.

I said I think au pair has arranged a couple of meet ups with some of her friends during those days but would ask au pair of she'd rather babysit for CF to earn some extra money.

CF was aghast that she would be expected to pay my au pair to babysit her DC as "you guys already pay her for childcare, and you won't be needing her that week".

I just stood there and kind of stuttered a reply that that's not really how au pairs work and mumbled something about a local sport club providing a holiday activities that maybe her DC could go to. CF then flounced off and proceeded to glare at me across the playground.

oh wow! The CFery of some is outstanding!

Agree MyMomsBetterThanYourMom

“Lending” domestic employees to other families, or extending the range of tasks domestic employees are expected to accomplish, without prior negotiation with the employee, is usually a violation of their terms and conditions of employment.

What an absolute user! Awful CF.

I’ve borrowed two au pairs from acquaintances in the past and I worried seeing your post that I had done something wrong. It didn’t go down brilliantly with the employing families but would be on au pairs nights off. I paid them very well for working for me. Much more than their usual pay but that’s because they are not living with me etc.

How horrible to think they can just command someone to work for them. A commodity to be used.

I enjoy raising my own children

Wonder if they enjoy being raised by you.

CF is totally right. The fact that you pay your au pair a (probably modest) wage and provide her food and board means she should be prepared to work day and night for anyone vaguely associated to you who can't be bothered to sort out childcare for themselves. YABVU to not share out the slave labour!

@bekstar wow, that just, wow.

@mymomsbetterthanyomom here, have a delicious sprinkled with some festive cheer.

I have heard nothing else from CF mum directly although she has posted on Facebook asking if anyone will look after her dc during the holidays. I probably would have offered a morning of us having them but now I think it's for the best if I just avoid.

One of my husbands colleagues suggested quite seriously that I could look after her kids as she was going back to work after parental leave.In her words 'it would be so handy as we live along the route of her drive to work".My husband is her boss !.Anyway I told her that I would rather break stones than look after someones kids.I have raised my own and have had enough of that lark.

How did she react schnubbins?

I have raised my own and have had enough of that lark

schnubbins - you and I are cut from the same cloth!

Kids are okay, but I've served my sentence and am now enjoying time off for good behaviour .

As far as I'm concerned - you hatch 'em, you watch 'em!*

• bit of assonance there - hope you like it

KeiTe. she was rather disappointed.She had it all worked out in her head that I was going to look after her darlings.Can't think of anything worse.

Godrestye I have told my sons 18 and 20 yrs who are still at home , that I am not minding any babies so they better wear condoms.I buy them a regular supply!

@schnubbins but if she had it all worked out in her head then obviously you should have agreed. After all, the plan worked perfectly in her head until you decided to ruin it. Therefore her childcare issues become your problem because you're the one who has caused her childcare problems, no?

I think that is the mentality of the childcare CF who asked to commandeer my au pair.

Moons ago a mum started at my work. She kept moaning about finding childcare for her young dc. I offered to help out on the odd day I could as a favour.well that was it!she told work I'd offered to have her DC and to work my shifts round that!was stunned but OK. My own fault but she never sent food/nappies/wipes made it clear that as she had to get DC to me she couldn't afford to pay me and the amount of times she dumped all her other dcs on me was crazy. She refused to lend me her car seats so o had to walk 6 miles to pick up the other dcs from school. On a big birthday of mine I was going away for the week-she looked most put out when I said I couldn't do it-and asked if I could 'just take them with me'!er-no! The last straw was when I ended up in hospital and couldn't do it. She was most put out and has done nothing but slag me off to anyone who would listen-to the point even work got involved and I ended up in trouble! Loads more but i dont wanna out myself.Never again-now I just say I'm busy or we have something on as a fam.