CF alert - apparently iabu to not share my au pair

[WontShareMyAuPair]

I was approached by a school mum today as she's having issues with holiday childcare yes, I know, she should have sorted it before the last day of term and she asked if our au pair could look after her DC whilst she was working on the days between Xmas and new year.

I said I think au pair has arranged a couple of meet ups with some of her friends during those days but would ask au pair of she'd rather babysit for CF to earn some extra money.

CF was aghast that she would be expected to pay my au pair to babysit her DC as "you guys already pay her for childcare, and you won't be needing her that week".

I just stood there and kind of stuttered a reply that that's not really how au pairs work and mumbled something about a local sport club providing a holiday activities that maybe her DC could go to. CF then flounced off and proceeded to glare at me across the playground.

What a cheeky bint!

Batshit! I know a couple who drop their 3 children into his brother's nanny quite frequently for free childcare, well she is getting paid anyway, makes no difference if she cares for two kids or five. they are very well off too, of course these cfs often are.

@sparechange that is shocking! Our au pair technichally works less hours than are written into her contract but no one has ever assumed they can hijack those spare hours for themselves..... Well, until today that is...

She's a complete CF

My friend pays a nanny 4 school days a week. Nanny is one of the school mums with a children in the same classes... 1 off those days she pick my daughter up from school, feeds her and takes her to Brownies with her own child and 1 of the children she nannies for. Neither has never asked me for payment and for that i am so grateful. BUT i never asked and by no means expect it and if she said she couldn't do it anymore or required payment i would 100% have no problem.

i get them both the occasional bottles of wine etc and go out of my way to help where i can as it is very much appreciated

@Deadringer said person should change contract to say 2 children.. additional children will be charged at X amount and have them pay that is outrageous

There really are people who think that anyone who does domestic work is a servant and therefore doesn't need to be paid by friends of the servant's owner, or even asked...

Wow, unbelievable what some people think they can get away with! Well done for not falling for it!

I don't want to pay for Air Task before Christmas. I demand that everybody should lend any employees who work in their home to me so that they can take care of my various family members who need it and also carry out the tasks that I don't want to pay anyone to do.

Your staff should provide their own food and teabags.

you'd love to know the thought processes that went behind this, wonder when she said it out load did it actually strike her as so ludicrous... mind you I do know a very good friend of a friend, who works as a nanny who's employer was so annoyed at the increased requests for pick ups by other mums by her nanny, from school/ dance class/ Saturday drama etc ( and can she mind her for an hour or so ..etc requests) that they changed her car insurance to only cover her driving their own two kids. Just so she could say no she's not insured to look after your kids.

Years ago I had a lovely au pair who had mornings off (DC went to nursery every morning). She was very experienced with horses, so got herself a job with the local riding school, agreed to £40 a week, so less than £10 a morning. After a few weeks, she asked me to help her as the owner hadn't paid her. I assumed maybe something lost in translation. I had a word with the owner, who breezily told me that as I was paying said au pair, she didn't see why she should be paid twice...CF indeed! Au pair did get paid.

I always wonder when you encounter CFs like this - do they think aong the lines of, "being a bit cheeky but shy bairn gets no cake, no harm in asking" kind of thing, or have they actually thought that they are entitled to these things and that the rest of us are being wildly unreasonable by not submitting to their demands?

I had a shirty text from a Mum last year complaining that our au pair had "left behind" her DS after school one day. Most of DS's class walk home by themselves, he was collected as the au pair was at English lessons next to the school so we felt it was safer for him to wait outside of school in case she was delayed (she never was). One of his school friends who lived in our street had taken to walking with them, but we didn't realise that his Mum had actually told him to walk with them. She was outraged that her DS had been left to walk home alone when she considered him too young. I ended up telling several school Mums exactly what had happened as the poor au pair was getting snarky comments and dirty looks at the gate for abandoning a child. I was so glad when they moved in the summer, she was a CF of the highest order.

Entitled bitch! Thinks she's owed free childcare without even asking the person in question.

The CFers never cease to amaze me and yes, none of them is poor/hard up.

She must miss the days when you could own human beings 24/7 and do with them as you wished!

Wow! Just wow.

Wow;.... when I started to read the OP I wondered if the poor woman had perhaps exhausted every avenue of available childcare as she has to work during the holidays and so was asking the OP to help her out by putting her in touch with her au pair..... but it never crossed my mind that she would expect the au pair to look after her kids free of charge.
She should be bloody grateful to the au pair for giving up her free time and reward her in consequence - double pay rather than none at all!
(although the Mathematically-minded will point out that the double of nothing at all is nothing at all.)

I'm in shock at all these CF childcare stories.

We've had au pairs on and off for years and I've never encountered anyone who thought just because they provide childcare to my DC that they were entitled to some of that too!

@lalalalyra your poor au pair! That's awful. And to then get dirty looks from other mums makes it even worse.

I am genuinely shocked at how grasping and mean some people are in RL . Well done OP for calling the CF out!!

My friend pays a nanny 4 school days a week. Nanny is one of the school mums with a children in the same classes... 1 off those days she pick my daughter up from school, feeds her and takes her to Brownies with her own child and 1 of the children she nannies for. Neither has never asked me for payment and for that i am so grateful. BUT i never asked and by no means expect it and if she said she couldn't do it anymore or required payment i would 100% have no problem

I think this is cf'ery. The poster does not so clearly in those the other stories of cf'ery, the cf does not think they are being cheeky fuckers!

I hate to say it @whatwillbewillbe03 but I think you might be straying towards CF territory there yourself. I'd be making extra sure that the woman that employs the nanny doesn't mind. She might be seething. That's quite a big ask every week

Great minds Raggedy

Agreed. You ought to pay her for doing all that whatwillbe. You are taking advantage tbh.

Is she the sort of person to accept a dare?

whatwillbewillbe03 your friend is paying a professional nanny that you are using one day a week for free! I’m not sure the occasional bottle of wine stops you being a CF. Surely the nanny should get a bit extra that day (for an extra DC) and you and your friend pay half each.

The grief I've been given over the past year because I've had my own child and am no longer available is ridiculous!

You selfish bugger!

I'm not surprise people are annoyed with you - having your own life when you should be at their beck and call . . .

That is certainly an excellent seasonal CF. Very high standard of entitlement. I think she should have some sort of prize?