To ask where you keep your parents?

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My dad died a few months ago and we could only face picking his ashes up last week. But where do I put him? Eventually he will be scattered at sea until then he’s in a very ugly brown plastic container (from funeral home) wedged down the side of the fridge. It needs to be somewhere small children can’t access and empty him down the floorboards. So where are your top places to stash a deceased loved one?
(Also is it in bad taste to put a Santa hat on him?)

My ddad is interred at a cemetery with a beautiful view as he requested. I am about to have some of my nan put in to a beautiful ring that I will cherish. When it's my turn I would like to be kept in the house with dh - I don't want to be on my own - and when he goes, we would like to be jumbled in together and our boys can bury us wherever they choose so long as we stay together.

When Dad died, he wanted his ashes in the same casket as Mum's. The undertaker baulked at the idea of digging Mum's ashes up to put in a double casket but luckily the gravedigger was the partner of Dad's housekeeper so they took care of that. When it got buried in the churchyard we all threw in Dad's favourite jelly babies to see him off on his journey with sufficient sweeties.

My DGM is on top of my bookcase until the family can all get together to scatter her after Christmas.

Mum was on a corner of a shelf in dads flat where she could see the TV. Sometimes he would even put the telly on for her when it was something he didn’t watch.

My MIL kept FIL in the bottom of her wardrobe for 2 years until our baby died and DH asked if we could put them together under a rosebush. They are in a large pot and MIL commented to DH that I'd told her there was no room for her that's probably true as she wasn't always very nice to FIL and barely acknowledged our son's death so I don't want her there.

Oh and OP, yes put the santa hat on. Since our baby died my view of death has changed massively, I think you do whatever it is want to do to make things after a loved one dies.

Sorry for your loss

I have no idea where the ashes of both my parents are. My dad died 31 years ago, and my mum 28 years ago today, but once the service was over at the crematorium we left, and never gave the ashes another thought.

My mum's ashes are in my wardrobe - she passed away in March. Dad will also pass away in the foreseeable future and their ashes will then be mixed and scattered.

When the first of my parents died, the other held onto their ashes for a year or so (kept in the wardrobe) before scattering them in a favourite place outdoors. When the other parent died, the undertaker retained the ashes until we were able to scatter them with their spouse.

My DP lived abroad and wanted their ashes scattered together there. My late DF has been under the piano in the plastic tub delivered by the funeral director for the past five years, waiting patiently for my DM to join him. At this stage she neither knows nor cares where his remains are but I’m sticking with the plan they made while they were both in possession of their mental faculties.

Buddhist here. We kept our grand dads ashes by his photograph. A small white flower garland is placed around the photo on most days and my grandmother would light a lamp or candle every evening next to it.

Santa hat sounds lovely.

That just made me snort very loudly! He sounds like he had a similar sense of humour to my dad, who when he is eventually scattered at sea said to do it from the gosport ferry which is about as unromantic as you could get!

My parents are still alive but my children's dad is on the top of our cabinet.. Some of his ashes are buried in the church yard, some his mum has and some were scattered.

We weren't together when he died so his wife was in charge of his ashes. I did ask my children if they wanted to scatter them or anything but I think the plan is to maybe one day have a tattoo and put some ashes in it. That certainly wouldn't be for everyone.

He loved Xmas and his one last wish was to have Xmas day with the children, he kept saying that he would not die until he had that one last Xmas day. Sadly he didn't make his wish and died two weeks before so I find it strangely comforting knowing his ashes are in our living room over Xmas. Love the idea of putting a hat on him.

OP

My dad scattered my Nan around her old house kept a little for himself and a little for my older brother who was her first grandchild and very close to her. the remainder was buried in the grave her dad and husband were burried in most of what was in the container was photos we had given her when she was in a nursing home , that was what she wanted . It was unusual in our community for someone to be cremated and the burial allowed the community to see her off

How lovely! You get to take the ashes home? And decide to scatter them where you like? I don’t think this is allowed where I am. Never heard of it.

On the tv unit

Borridge, yes. Although Undertaker's will keep them for you if you prefer, for as long as you like. If you do that you can visit them, my old boss did this with his late wife. He used to go on her birthday, their anniversary & at Christmas each year.