To ask where you keep your parents?

[FishFingerseveryday]

My dad died a few months ago and we could only face picking his ashes up last week. But where do I put him? Eventually he will be scattered at sea until then he’s in a very ugly brown plastic container (from funeral home) wedged down the side of the fridge. It needs to be somewhere small children can’t access and empty him down the floorboards. So where are your top places to stash a deceased loved one?
(Also is it in bad taste to put a Santa hat on him?)

Most of my fil was scattered although Mil gave some in Tupperware containers to my husband and his siblings. And she put some in the bottom of a plant pot. I think "our" portion of him is on the top of a bookcase but it would be no big loss to us if he spilt and we lost him.

When my own dad died we made the decision to leave the ashes to be disposed of by the crematorium.

My grandmother lived on the top of the dresser in my aunt's house for many years, being toasted at every family get together until enough of the family could meet at my grandfather's grave to scatter the ashes.

Ah some lovely ideas - I especially love the fairy lights. I’m going to adorn him with lights and Santa hat tonight. I don’t feel so bad now that I will be hanging on to him for a while, nice to know others have relatives stashed in spare rooms and on mantelpieces.

My dad died last Jan and his ashes are in my mums spare bedroom wardrobe. She doesn't know what to do with them .

I had my mums ashes (in the awful ugly container) next to the TV for several weeks. We’d joked about it several times a few years back after watching the Royle Family when Nanna died. She eventually went in with my dad as she wanted (but I have a little container, a camera film case actually, with some in, it comforts me).
The Santa hat is fine, you do what you do at this awful time.

My sorry for your loss.

We kept the urn with my mum's ashes in the cupboard under the stairs for a few days before we could scatter them where we scattered my dad's ashes.

This is the kind of urn we had. I think we might have had to pay for it.

Scattering Ashes Urn, Scatter Tube , Eco-friendly Biodegradable Crermation Urn (Bluebell Forest Large)

I scattered most of my mam's ashes at the garden of remembrance at the cream (where both of her parents were scattered)
But I have a small box still to scatter on Xmas Eve at the coast as it was our favourite place to go.

Aside from those, I have a smallish smoked glass bottle with a stopper that I keep on the windowsill of my dressing room - I loved playing with her make up when I was little and she got me back by borrowing my make up when I got older!

My granny is still in a beautiful porcelain box in my parents' spare room! Nobody liked the idea of scattering her ashes and she didn't have any particular favourite spot and always really liked being with her family. So it's very appropriate. She is surrounded by various knick knacks, little buddhas, beautiful art.

My dad was in my brother’s wardrobe next to his MIL until my mum died 10 years later. They’re both scattered together on a hill overlooking their home town now. Just don’t choose a windy day to scatter them...

If down the side of the fridge feels right then it IS right.

All my family have been cremated and all have gone in the garden of remembrance (sans containers) in the village churchyard where I grew up. Family tradition rather than religious custom.

In fact, we had to go all the way to the bishop to get permission for my mum to go there (beside her parents) because she’d spent the last few years of her life (3 out her total 54) living on the other side of the parish boundary. The current vicar was being a jobsworth (space wasn’t limited because of the no-buried urns policy).

Oh I like the idea of keeping the ashes at home with you. My DM died when I was 8 (32 years ago now) and her ashes were scattered...somewhere I don't know where. I think I'd rather have them with me.
The hang sounds good.

We scattered dad last year. He'd been in a box under some magazines in mum's room for 30 years. I think my brother has mum. We'll not wait so long to scatter her.

My Dad put my Mum’s ashes in their garden ten years ago but I have a teaspoon of her in a blown glass paperweight. Dad died earlier this year and he’s still in a box in my wardrobe. Haven’t yet decided what to do with him.

My family do memorial shelves. Nice box for the ashes, picture, poem or religious item, if they were so inclined. Fortunately, both my parents are still alive, so ours just has a cat at present. My dad has already asked for flashing lights on "his" shelf at Christmas when he goes. Bloody maniac. He wants to do ghostly Morse code.

My mum is in a lovely urn on my mantelpiece.You wouldn't know that's what it was unless you looked inside and obviously I don't let anyone do that. The urn has a lovely inscription that always makes me smile too. I talk to her. She spends 4 months with me, 4 months with my brother and 4 months with my auntie. It was her wish. She wanted to 'stay together' and have a change of scene regularly.

My daughter is in a memory bear urn high up on a bookcase (out of the reach of her sisters). Eventually she will be buried or cremated again with me. I will have to find her a Santa hat now.

What a comforting thread. We are in the process of trying to locate DFIL's ashes. DMIL unfortunately has dementia and no idea where she put them!

My friend has a Santa hat on her mum at the moment, apparently she loved Christmas. She is thinking of taking her to church on Christmas Eve ... they are scattering ashes when it warms up

I want mine thrown into a volcano, thought it was quite appropriate!

Dad is in a box in the loft. He didn't have any idea what I should do when the time came, and neither have I. His favourite places were the pub and his workplace, both of which would be likely to object. He didn't want to be buried as he didn't want me to be tied to this area to tend his grave. As I lived 70 miles away then and was single and job hunting, I could have ended up anywhere. I like having him near me but don't want an urn on display. I'm hoping inspiration will strike one day, but until then, he's staying where he is.

My mum was in an urn from the FD in a box under my dad's desk for 20 years. StepM didn't know she was there but my dad didn't know what to do with her! Eventually SM died, and her ashes were interred in a lovely wooden cask in a woodland cemetery, and an apple tree planted. DF told us later, once away from SM's children who still to this day probably don't know as I'm pretty sure they don't have any reason to visit due to distance, that DF had bought a plot of 3 and so when he died we got matchy wooden casks and all 3 are in the same plot. I like to imagine SM and DM would get on like a house on fire (they never met but would definitely have got on, same sort of sense of humour etc)

Dad scattered. Mum in my wardrobe. She moved house with us. Ridiculously comforting to have her by me.

My DD is in a locked box in a locked cabinet in the living room, to stop her sister from potentially upending her. She has DDog for company. They would of been thick as thieves had they had the chance so I think it's nice that they are 'together'. I have no intention of scattering her, she stays with us. Once DD2 is old enough to reliably not go after her then she will be going back on her shelf.

Not a parent but my horse is kept on my bookshelf ina beautif engraved box and currently has a unicorn xmas decpration ontop.

Funnily enough my dog's ashes are in a biscuit tin