“Bank account for ladies’ nice things”

[MissyCooper]

My friend has two young kids and is married to a guy with a pretty good job. They are by no means loaded but seem to do ok. She works part time in a low paid role so she’s around for the kids. Fair dos.

Last time we were all out together she regaled us with talk of her “account for ladies’ nice things” that her husband has for her. Basically a separate bank account into which he transfers a sum each month so she can buy shoes, handbags etc. We were all supposed to be green with envy. The others made the right noises but I was a bit sick in my mouth.

Another woman I know has a professional job of her own and yet looks forward to payday every month when her well-off fiancé buys her a “payday present” - jewellery, designer handbag etc.

What is this shit??

We're you genuinely, literally sick in your mouth OP or are you just being a bit silly. If the thought of someone's husband being nice enough to buy them a few presents makes you physically sick then you should probably have a think about why you're so unhappy with your own life

Good Point.

I can't see why you have had such a strong reaction to this, OP. I've not read the book / heard the phrase ether, and agree the name of the account therefore sounded a bit twee until it was explained here what it referred to, but the principle that both partners in a couple ought (where there is enough money available) to have some kind of "spending money" for their own 'treats' (whatever form that might take) is pretty sensible as far as I can see. dh and I have had 'pocket money' for ages, so we can spend bits and bobs on ourselves without explaining any of it to the other one. Really not sure why you have such an issue with this.

I don't get why this bothers you or why you find it so strange. It sounds like they're dividing their income so they have equal spending money.

It would be less fair if they didn't.

Is it that OP finds there is virtue in suffering, a noble deed infact? So husband earns more than wife, but a real woman should be proud and grit her teeth spending just her own hard earned cash no matter how little this affords her any luxuries because any suggestion by the husband to buy her something or to offer her money is taking back control and anti feminist.