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Is neighbour being cheeky?

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fortyforty · 17/12/2018 13:13

I'm constantly constantly taking deliveries for next door. Don't really mind, I'm usually home but have a little baby and does get annoying.

Anyway this morning I've had 3 separate deliveries. Last one really annoyed me as I'm trying to settle baby, wouldn't of answer the door but they say me in the window. It's a big massive desk this time.

Anyway said to the driver I'll take it but mentioned I'm fed up of it and this is the last one I'm taking. Driver pointed over to neighbours door and said there's a note on it saying 'leave any parcels with number 17'

And she's been home since and not bothered to come and collect them, she will wait for my husband to bring them round to her.

I know it's not first world issues but I'm no longer answering the door. I've never minded taking her parcels but to write a note on the door I think is a bit cheeky. Do you agree?

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fortyforty · 17/12/2018 14:22

@Mickeysminnie2 I was breastfeeding and could see her through the window.

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fortyforty · 17/12/2018 14:24

Just had another!! Politely declined the parcel.and showed him the deliveries I've already taken today. He was lovely thoighajd said he.totoally understood and couldn't believe the note.

I actually hope I get more I can refuse now! Thanks mumsnetters!

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Mickeysminnie2 · 17/12/2018 14:25

And why does that stop you opening your door and giving a shout over to her?
I will never understand why people accept people's parcels and them become outraged over it.
YOU accepted the parcel. Just say no if you don't want to take it. It isn't rocket science!

WhatchaMaCalllit · 17/12/2018 14:26

I'd want rid of all of the deliveries that aren't for me so if I were you, I'd pop a note through her door saying the following:
"Hi neighbour, I live at number 17. Just to let you know that we have X number of parcels/packages for you. If you do not collect them by 6pm tomorrow evening, I will have no alternative but to donate them to charity ahead of Christmas. They are taking up space in my home and they are yours. Please also ask (underlined about 10 times) me in future if you would like me to accept any further deliveries as I will not be accepting ANY deliveries going forward that have not been ordered by me. Happy Christmas neighboureeeno!"

Oh and she is a massive CF to be doing this at any time but especially in the run up to Christmas!

FishFingersAndCustard11 · 17/12/2018 14:26

What a cheeky cow

Plopchops · 17/12/2018 14:28

Wow some people on here have not taken their Happy Christmas pills...

She took the parcels in out of good will before she knew there was CF note on the neighbours door. It is called being nice!!

I take parcels in all the time, but my neighbours also return the favour when I am out and it is only 1 or 2 a month...they would never put a note on the door though!!

Well done for refusing the last parcel.

SoupDragon · 17/12/2018 14:30

I have absolutely no problem taking in parcels for my neighbours - I'm usually here and it's no trouble (and I get the kids to take them round.) The difference is that they are appreciative, don't assume I'll do it, give me chocolate at Christmas and are apologetic if there have been lots.

No way would I take them in for a cheeky fucker like your neighbour!! People never cease to amaze me.

Sparklesocks · 17/12/2018 14:30

She’s a cheeky wotsit. Stay strong OP and refuse the rest!

stayfit · 17/12/2018 14:31

Just don't take the desk and if she does turn up keep her waiting. I'd leave a note outside saying can't collect parcels for addresses in big font for her to look at. I would make her knock for a good few days before returning her item with a proper telling off.

DartmoorDoughnut · 17/12/2018 14:34

Def drag it outside and leave it there

Ethel36 · 17/12/2018 14:35

Well done OP, keep refusing her parcels. It makes you feel so much better doesn't it?!

AdamNichol · 17/12/2018 14:38

A year ago, we moved onto a new build estate. Our house is the one attached to the show home, so was built and ready before the others, and we were the first to move onto the estate. We were also the first to get the postcode registered. Some of you will know where this is going....

For a while, only our door number was findable on a postcode search. So when all the other houses moved in, they all changed their address details with all of their commercial contacts......to OUR address. Every day we get inundated with post for the whole estate. We've spent the year telling Next (specifically) that they don't have any registered customers at this address and to stop sending mail. For those neighbours we know, we posted it thru with a scribble on the envelope asking them to change the address. Now, there's 100 or more households on the estate, so we have no idea who's who.

Come new year, I will open every bit of mail not for us to check that it's not a demand for money, etc, that will hit credit score; and then bin it.

LittleSF · 17/12/2018 14:39

Is there any chance your other half, when dropping over stuff before, said something like "that's no problem, anytime, more than happy to help"... not excusing the cheekiness at all, just wondering if he's the friendly type who might have said something friendly like that and in her head she translated that friendliness as "my own personal doorman/woman in No. 17"

WilburforceRaven · 17/12/2018 14:43

Look, all the PA suggestions of the baby being sick on the stuff is just silly. Just STOP taking them. Put a note on your door, 'Am NOT taking parcels for No. 17 as was not asked! Will NOT take them.' Then if you can't go over there and tell the CFer that you are not running a delivery service for her, don't appreciate not being asked and they will remain in your possession until she collects them herself.' This is in no way rude or 'confrontational' to tell someone 'NO, I won't do this for you anymore.'

I have no problem at all taking parcels for neighbours but we do it for each other and no one takes the piss.

dustarr73 · 17/12/2018 14:45

I dont take parcels for one set of neighbours.The delivery driver knocked and said its for whatsherface.And i said no.
He was shocked and asked why?.Cause shes a cunt i said.Smiled and closed the door.Jobdone.

DarlingNikita · 17/12/2018 14:45

Just had another!! Politely declined the parcel

Good!

Go over and take the note off the door. Hopefully she'll see and come out, which is your opportunity to tell her clearly that she does not get to designate you as her parcel-drop-off point and ask her politely but firmly to desist.

wednesday32 · 17/12/2018 14:45

Why is she waiting for your husband to bring them to her? If you have been taking them to her house she may not realise you have an issue with this. Simply wait for her to arrive to collect her items and say 'I won't be able to take any future orders in and i have been informed you have a note up instructing deliveries to be sent here. You will need to take this sign down as I was not asked if this was ok and I am not ok with this. If she doesn't collect them by 7pm call her landline or knock at her door and say 'you have some parcels at mine they will need to be removed in the next 30 minutes or l will leave them outside my front door'. She has taken the piss but it is possible you have let her.

WilburforceRaven · 17/12/2018 14:46

I even had Yodel wake me at 6am for one (missed my last 20 mins. of sleep) for the neighbour. He runs a bakery and we know he leaves for work at 3.30am. But he's taken in plenty for us and we all just give and take and certainly no 'Deliver it all to no. X' round here.

cheesywotnots · 17/12/2018 14:55

Send your dh over, he can tell her you wont be taking in any more parcels and please remove the note. Give her a time limit to come and collect what you have, don't help move it. C.f..

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fortyforty · 17/12/2018 15:00

Thank you @Plopchops. I had no idea of the note until delivery number 3 driver informed me of it. Otherwise I'd never of know. If I had, I most definitely wouldn't of accepted them.

@Mickeysminnie2 erm because feeding my baby is my priority and I'm not about to get up and disturb him for the cf next door. Her and her parcels can wait until whenever she decides to collect them.

The post was about the note on the door. Not me accepting the parcels.

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DrinkFeckArseGirls · 17/12/2018 15:16

It'd fling her shit out outside your door. The less carefully the better.

PeachQueen · 17/12/2018 15:21

I would write on her note underneath "Please dont leave at No 17 as No x havent asked if this is OK"

Groovee · 17/12/2018 15:26

That's very CF'ery. I have no issues with taking parcels for my neighbours as I know they do the same for me. But I'd never order lots expecting someone else to take it in.

Holidayshopping · 17/12/2018 15:27

I would go back there now you know she’s in and tell her the stuff is there and please can she take it away. Take the note off the door in a surprised way and say-please don’t direct your parcels to us, you didn’t ask if it would be ok, I have a small baby and every time the door bell goes, it wakes them up and is really annoying!

diddl · 17/12/2018 15:34

So if you've just had another (attempted) delivery even though she's home?

How strange.

What a cheek to not only put that deliveries can go to your house without asking, but to now be home & still letting it happen.

I guess people are just seeing the note & going straight to you?

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