Is neighbour being cheeky?

[fortyforty]

I'm constantly constantly taking deliveries for next door. Don't really mind, I'm usually home but have a little baby and does get annoying.

Anyway this morning I've had 3 separate deliveries. Last one really annoyed me as I'm trying to settle baby, wouldn't of answer the door but they say me in the window. It's a big massive desk this time.

Anyway said to the driver I'll take it but mentioned I'm fed up of it and this is the last one I'm taking. Driver pointed over to neighbours door and said there's a note on it saying 'leave any parcels with number 17'

And she's been home since and not bothered to come and collect them, she will wait for my husband to bring them round to her.

I know it's not first world issues but I'm no longer answering the door. I've never minded taking her parcels but to write a note on the door I think is a bit cheeky. Do you agree?

I think taking in the odd parcel is neighbourly but I would never specifically direct my parcels to someone without asking. I also would make sure I was in to collect a bloody desk! I once waited in all day for a bulky delivery from John Lewis (a few duvets and pillows so take up quite a bit of space) inevitably it came when I was on the school run and got delivered to a neighbour I don't know - she was fine with it but I definitely went round ASAP to get it out of her way.

A desk?! I wouldn't take in anything larger than a standard parcel for a neighbour! Once a neighbour knocked on my door and said, "I've ordered a piece of furniture, its coming tomorrow. Im at work so because you're on maternity leave I 'll tell them to drop it into yours?" I remember clutching my new born baby just flabbergasted at her lack of please and expectation. I asked her how big this parcel was going to be? She said, "about the size of a door!!!" I just replied" no thank you" and watched the smile slide down her face. Another neighbour had parcels coming almost daily and never ever came to collect. Poor hubby went over to drop off. After a month I had enough and just told the courier no thank you every time it was theirs! I 'll gladly take in for my other neighbours though.

Sit her stuff outside the door and let her know its there for her to collect because you didn't agree to her using your house as a delivery depot and it's taking up too much room. Next time refuse to take the pakage.

I'd push the note she left on her door through her letterbox, accompanied with another note explaining that you have a number of items she needs to collect tonight (underlined 5 times), otherwise you will be arranging for the relevant courier to collect. I'd also explain that you will not be taking in any more items for her

It's beyond cheeky

Just don't take the parcels in.

I went through a period of time where the postman seemed to assume I was the delivery hub for my local area. I opened the door once and when he asked if I'd take the package I said "No, sorry" and shut the door.

The note on her door is very cheeky and I'd pull her up on it and get her to take it down while suggesting that if she is going to get so much delivered, she arranges it for days she is actually home.

not saying that you should btw, completely inconvenient to have someone ringing the bell when you're trying to settle a baby...plus clutter up your hall... not cool...
just wondering that she's been given the impression it's ok...

for a start, I would go round and remove the sign from her door and post it back through her letterbox.

I'd just go round and say "hi, there's some sort of mix up, you've written the wrong number on the door as I haven't agreed to take your parcels, can you come grab your desk and make sure you change your note to the neighbour who agreed to this. I won't be taking anymore as it disturbs the baby"

I'm pretty much certain she won't come and collect the desk. It's heavy lol. And you know....it.might chip her nails

Like I say, I've only been answering the door as DSS Xmas present has gone missing. E ergone is right that I should of been saying no.

BUT at least this has made me ring the courier who has dss present who have finally tracked it down and it will be delivered tomorrow between 10 and 12. That's the only time I'll be answering the door tomorrow :-)

Open them all, and drop a Christmas card through her letterbox saying 'thank you for all the gifts, so kind'.

Bet she will be over like a shot to pick them up.

If shes clearly in i would go round there and say you saw her note and you wont be taking her deliverys any more and she can come and get the ones at your house now. Tell her how rude it is. You are a grown woman with kids, shes twenty sodding 2!!!! (Im allowed to say that, im 23!!) Shes probably scared of you so the moment you go an point it out she wont argue. You'll feel so good once youve done it! And mention to the posty that you arnt taking any more. I also find that being at home with a baby, i get everyones parcels here but the bird next door in the same position just says no. The difference with me thoigh is that i choose to accept them and there is no directional note (that i know of!)

Stop picking up, and tell couriers it has not been agreed with you, it's not like you have a legal obligation to pick up deliveries for your neighbours just because she is not home.

She is being very cheeky but to be honest you only have yourself to blame if you keep enabling her fuckery by taking things in.

Why on earth did you accept the desk?

After your dss xmas present has been delivered put a note on your door saying 'No Deliveries' and underline the word No fives times.

If the postman doesn't get a response then he should bring it back to the post office and leave a note that it will be there for collection. If a courier doesn't get an answer then I'm sure they also have a policy in place for collection at a depot.

OP from now on refuse parcels for this woman. Let the courier or postman deal with them. Put a note on your door as suggested stating "Postal/Courier deliveries for this address ONLY". Let her come looking for her stuff and hopefully she will see the notice on your door. Cheeky cow!

I'd put all her crap out on the front porch and let her pick it up when she notices.

I agree - put a sign on your door that says 'only accepting deliveries for THIS address'.

Don't take anything round to her address - and be sure that DH doesn't either!

"I'm pretty much certain she won't come and collect the desk. "

Well that's her look out, isn't it?

As pp have said, don’t take it round, leave it for her to collect.

She’s a cf. I’d only ever put a note on my door if I’d asked the neighbour and only in special circumstances.

Haha tbf I was thinking how nice the rustic desk would look in my dining room - there's a picture of it on the front

Totally agree it's my fault for taking it all in. But there is definitely no more!

What's annoyed me is how she literally has no clue that a knock on the door can disturb my extremely grumpy and teething baby.

Put a note through her door saying parcel you unhappily accepted is too large for your hall but it is sitting outside your house for her to collect

You are extremely patient! One knock at the door whilst trying to get baby to sleep and I would’ve been round there yelling like a banshee 😂🙈🤷🏻‍♀️🤯

I would literally put the parcel outside my house to get rained on and just leave it there.

If she has been home since why did you not just go over and ask her to come and take her stuff?
I would put a note through telling her she needs to collect it by x time, also just a reminder we are not the local post office so please stop directing delivery people to here.

Ahh well if my first suggestion is illegal ring the company on the packing and demand they take it back and sort it with her as you don't want to be held responsible for potential damage.