Ex husband - new wife mental health- special needs child ! Help

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Hello.

I really need advice what to do. And what legally I can do.

Myself and ex husband divorced 5 ish years ago. Both moved on. We have one son together who is 11 with special needs. Said son lives with me but stays with his father Friday to Sunday every week and we share the school holidays.

Ex husband married his wife in November after 7 months of knowing each other. From what he has shared relationship is Rocky. My son started to tell me about arguments that he was witnessing when staying over. I raised this to ex husband and he assured me nothing to worry about / wasn’t harmful to our son.

He confide in me she has mental health issues mainly extreme depression and is heavily medicated I think it’s 1000mg daily of a antidepressant. This is what he told me. I checked online the name and dosage of the drug as I was curious and it told me that it’s generally Prescribed for someone with extreme depression and or suicidal behaviours.

I have made it clear as my son is vulnerable I do not wish him to be under anyone else’s care when he is with his father ( I set that rule long before she came on the scene) except for family members on his side.

I found out today that my ex husband went out on Saturday early evening and only returned on Sunday morning leaving my son with his wife without my knowledge or my permission. I know that when he is with Dad he has parental responsibility too but I’m cautious with my son due to his special needs and other issues I have had with ex husbands parenting in the past.

Ex husband left our son overnight with his wife without me knowing and without my son knowing when he was coming back. He then returned to their home and spent the day in bed hungover and alseep. He’s 51 for the record.

Where do I stand ? I’m angry about this. Am I right or wrong to be ? This is only about my son’s wellbeing. Myself and ex have known each other for 20 years and have a friendly atmosphere despite the break up

I feel sympathy for everyone concerned except for your Ex DH.
I don't think it's fair to expect his new wife to be caring for your DS with special needs overnight at this point (they've been together less than a year) while he goes out and gets pissed. They need time to get to know each other better.

You're clearly worried about your DS and I think that's understandable too given his needs. But as PP's have said, taking AD's actually helps people get better, so she may be able to cope just fine.

Have you had much contact with her? Would it help if you had a chat and got to know her a little? You said that things are amicable with your ex?

Sorry, I still got the mg to mcg incorrect in my last post. A normal dose of Sertraline in micrograms would be 50,000 to 200,000mcg. So she wouldn’t be on 1000mg, or 1000mcg. It’s likely that you misread and it was 100mg, which is a perfectly normal dose which many people take (me included).