So shaken up

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I'm in tears as I'm writing this. I feel so shaken and I'm not sure what I did or what happened.

I've just come back after going to town for some bits from the shop. I started to queue for my couple of items, and in front of me was a man andwho I assume was his daughter, probably around 6-7 years old. I stood behind them waiting, and the man kept looking at me with a really ugly look on his face, as if I was shit on his shoe. He then told his daughter to move to the other side, so away from me. She didn't, he looked round at me again, with that same expression, and said to her "move round here before I lose my temper with this woman."

I was very confused and said "Sorry, I don't understand?" and he ignored me, but kept looking back at me like he wanted to hit me. He then paid and left, and I was too shocked to contemplate what had happened.

For context, he was about 50, and a hge burly man. I am in my mid-20s, and about 5'2. I don't understand what I could have done to offend anyone, I was just queing. I left the shop and burst into tears.

It doesn't help that I've had terrible anxiety for the last few weeks anyway, and this incident has got me doubting my sanity. I'm wondering if I did something terrible and I can't remember. I felt very intimidated and threatened and I don't know what to do, whether I should call the shop and tell them but I'm not sure what it would achieve?

recently Good grief.

Hey OP, just to add to the chorus, please don’t worry about it, some people are just awful.

I was walking down the street (no luggage / big hat etc to incite any rage!) and as a very normal looking man in a business suit walked past me he leaned in and called me a cunt. No idea why, not that it should mkr a difference but I’m a white, non tattooed, non religious item wearing relatively ordinary looking woman.

It really shook me up and I’ve thought about it a lot. I can only assume some people enjoy upsetting / intimidating other people. How sad for them

Might this just have been her way of telling them their behaviour was inconsiderate to the person behind, to reinforce the message that it was unacceptable?

Possibly, although it felt like she was directing it at me and was moving them away from me - although I could have interpreted it wrong. I remember feeling bad for the boys as they'd only been nudging each other and giggling a bit and she could have stopped it by getting one of them to swap seats with her so she was in the middle instead of grabbing all their stuff and stomping off to other seats.

It wasn't in the same league as OP's encounter but I just wondered if his dd had been doing something that OP wasn't aware of and he dealt with it by directing his anger at OP. Not that that excuses his behaviour at all.

I have asked my son to move away from people in queues before if they're coughing or sneezing a lot, but I'm a bit of a germophobe. Could something like that be the reason?

His problem, not yours.

Just anger transfer I think from him. You did nothing this is a kind of road rage this man would be angry with anyone that would have stood there not just you. Some men just got to act the big I am with anyone smaller than themselves coward behaviour and a bad example to his child. So not about you he was probably a bully at school and some of them don't grow up to be any better in adulthood to you.

I would assume he has some kind of mental illness and forget about it.

OK OP now calm... Its not you. There are some bizarre folk out there. As a teen a man came up to me in town. He said"Ive been following you everywhere.. To find out why you looked at me"I can honestly say I'd never clocked him and I Was sh#t scared.

The other week I passed 2 women, said excuse me and got a mouthful of abuse about"people who can't use their mouths".

Forget it.. You did nothing wrong

"The other week I passed 2 women, said excuse me and got a mouthful of abuse about"people who can't use their mouths"."

Did you say anything to them, such as "I did use my mouth, that's why I said 'excuse me' or did you let them get away with it/decide there was no point in engaging?

Were you coughing or sneezing? I have a relative who gets very anxious around people who are ill, especially when her kids are there.

Op it's not you and I'm 100 percent sure you don't look Mald, particularly if you're five foot two

You need to accept it's not you, he had mental health problems. As distressing as it is, it would have happened whomever stood behind him.

How did his child react? The fact she didn't move when told would indicate she's used to this.

Male not Mald.

FiveShelties "Some people are just horrible. Some years ago I was returning my supermarket trolley and a 'lady' was going to get a trolley. I said ,'would you like this one' and she glared at me and said 'no I don't you dirty bitch'. I was just slightly taken aback to say the least!"

I'd have found that hilarious and laughed out loud. Its like some mad Monty Python sketch

I'm sure it's not anything you did OP. There's a lot of coiled springs out there. Some bloke once spat right in my face and called me a cunt as I was out jogging. Massively wide pavement so I wasn't even in his way.

This thread has made me glad I'm a hermit and rarely leave the house.

Is it possible you had annoyed him elsewhere in the shop in some way. e. g. Blocking the aisle or something? And that combined with him having a shot day meant he overreacted massively?

No strawberry there is nothing the o p did some people are born to bully and intimidate and some poor sole gets in the way. O p there it wasn't you now put this idiot out of your mind and get on with you day and don't let anyone spoil things.