AIBU to not take him his ID

[MeredithGrey1]

My DP has his work Christmas party tonight, which is a dinner out at a restaurant, drinks in various pubs and then on to a club. I (obviously) have no issue with any of this and would never try to stop him going out and enjoying his Xmas party.

He’s just texted to say he’s realised he’s left his driving licence (his only form of ID) on his desk at home, and he’s hinting pretty strongly that he wants me to drive it to him. He’s 27 so he’s not had any issue drinking at the restaurant or pubs, it’s just needed for the club as they will ID everyone on the way in and he definitely won’t get in without it and will have to come home early.

AIBU to say I don’t want to get out of bed and go out in the freezing cold to take it to him (would be about a 30 min round trip)? They’re not going to the club until about midnight so he’s still had the majority of the Xmas party. I’m pregnant so he knows I haven’t drunk anything and therefore am able to drive, and we don’t have any children so there really is no reason why I can’t leave the house. I feel a bit guilty as I know he was looking forward to tonight, and he doesn’t go out often, but at the same time I just really don’t want to go out.

@iwastrendingthereforaminute

My DH has had cancer twice and I have nursed him.

Yes because that's remotely comparable to OP's forgetting his ID to go clubbing

Foolish post.

It's the thin end of a wedge though. If you won't do the small stuff it's unlikely that you will do the big stuff. Men aren't stupid. I'm sure they are just as capable as women of thinking that their life partner isn't in their corner if the small stuff doesn't get covered.

If you won't do the small stuff it's unlikely that you will do the big stuff.

I wouldn't get out of bed so I'd leave him if he were ill?

Logic isn't your strong point, is it?

NannyOgg it's not a matter of logic.
How many times have we seen a poster on here that has been on the rough end of their DH's bad behaviour and posters have said things like, "He's not behaving like a friend let alone a husband".
I'm sure I'm not alone in having been in relationships where I have needed my DP to do me a favour and I have been knocked back. It makes you re-evaluate the relationship if that person won't even do something relatively simple for you.

How many people have left their partners because they realise that if push comes to shove over a big thing (like illness) there is no way their DP or DW/DH is going to step up if they won't do the smaller stuff. We are all the first to moan if they bugger off with someone they deem more empathetic/more likely to help out in a crisis. We can't have it both ways.

< confiscates IWasTrending's spade >

Ha ha AF :)

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