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AIBU to not take him his ID

108 replies

MeredithGrey1 · 14/12/2018 23:08

My DP has his work Christmas party tonight, which is a dinner out at a restaurant, drinks in various pubs and then on to a club. I (obviously) have no issue with any of this and would never try to stop him going out and enjoying his Xmas party.

He’s just texted to say he’s realised he’s left his driving licence (his only form of ID) on his desk at home, and he’s hinting pretty strongly that he wants me to drive it to him. He’s 27 so he’s not had any issue drinking at the restaurant or pubs, it’s just needed for the club as they will ID everyone on the way in and he definitely won’t get in without it and will have to come home early.

AIBU to say I don’t want to get out of bed and go out in the freezing cold to take it to him (would be about a 30 min round trip)? They’re not going to the club until about midnight so he’s still had the majority of the Xmas party. I’m pregnant so he knows I haven’t drunk anything and therefore am able to drive, and we don’t have any children so there really is no reason why I can’t leave the house. I feel a bit guilty as I know he was looking forward to tonight, and he doesn’t go out often, but at the same time I just really don’t want to go out.

OP posts:
AJPTaylor · 14/12/2018 23:29

Surely he can get a cab and come get it himself?

SeaViewBliss · 14/12/2018 23:30

When my DD did this, they accepted a photo as long as I text it while she was standing there with them.

timeisnotaline · 14/12/2018 23:32

I don’t know. I wouldn’t but I really couldn’t do that kind of thing when pregnant, I’m too unwell. If you’re actually bursting with health and can sleep in tomorrow and he would be suitably appreciative maybe?

alexalexy · 14/12/2018 23:32

Take it to him

SheSaidNoFuckThat · 14/12/2018 23:33

I'd do it and call in somewhere and get a nice Costa express hot chocolate on the way home

LiquoricePickle · 14/12/2018 23:34

Of course I'd take it to him. He's your partner. Wouldn't he do the same for you?

Chloe84 · 14/12/2018 23:36

What did you decide, OP?

I don't think dh or i would expect this from eachother. I've taken petrol to him in the pissing rain but I wouldn't play fetch for an ID.

OrigamiZoo · 14/12/2018 23:37

I would too, it's his last blow out really.

AGHHHH · 14/12/2018 23:38

I'd do it because I know if it was me I'd be annoyed to miss out, though I wouldn't personally ask if it was me I'd just be miserable and come home ha.

seven201 · 14/12/2018 23:38

Go on, be nice.

AnneLovesGilbert · 14/12/2018 23:39

She’s already in bed! OP, stay there and keep warm.

MrsBungle · 14/12/2018 23:40

I would take it personally. It’s nice to be nice.

highheelsandbobblehats · 14/12/2018 23:42

I'd take it. It's 15 minutes down the road, my DH would appreciate it and it's a nice thing to do. Treat others how you'd like to be treated and all that. One day you might need someone to go out of their way for you.

AnneLovesGilbert · 14/12/2018 23:42

And it’s nice to be organised so you don’t drag sleepy people out of their beds on a winter night.

AnyFucker · 14/12/2018 23:42

Some places ID everyone. I was ID'ed recently. It was a devil of a job persuading the doorman to let us in.

Original poster
MeredithGrey1 · 14/12/2018 23:42

Why would you let his night be ruined. His night would not be “ruined” (and I know he wouldn’t think it was either) they finished work early and have been at the pub since 4pm, not having his ID will make him miss the last couple of hours of a pretty long party. If not having his ID would have stopped him going completely, or meant he could only go to the meal and not the pubs, I’d have taken it, or if he’d just realised sooner, I’d have taken it.

But maybe I am being a bit harsh.. I’ll get up.

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ladydickisathingapparently · 14/12/2018 23:42

I’d do it, my DH would for me. Although I haven’t set foot in a club for at least 10 years.

LagunaBubbles · 14/12/2018 23:43

I would probably do it because I know my DH would do it for me.

Cubrrt · 14/12/2018 23:43

I'd do it for DP but somewhat begrudgingly.

ladydickisathingapparently · 14/12/2018 23:44

Get him to ask if they’d accept a texted photo?

FruminousBandersnatch · 14/12/2018 23:44

I would do this, and I know without having to ask him that DH would do this for me. I think you should do it.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 14/12/2018 23:45

Just do it , really , it's not a huge effort is it?

He's asked you (not even asked , just hinted and hoped you'd pick up on it) . He's not expecting you to go on a bus or walk, but to drive.
Unless its snow drifts and you're ready to pop, why wouldn;t you?

I'm Hmm at all these people who obviously forget nothing . Good for you.

It would mar his night out to leave it to collect .

I drove to pick my DH up from the station after he'd been out with mates. The trains were cancelled , he got money for a taxi but he phoned me (knowing that I am FAR too mean to pay for taxis) .
I bundled the DC into the car ( yes I'd had the 2 DC to myself , overnight , but I still managed ) and we drove to pick him up.

DH gave me the money he'd set aside for the taxi (very wise of him) .

Bank the Favour .

loubluee · 14/12/2018 23:45

I would do it. Tell him he owes you some ‘sleep all nights’ in return once the baby isn’t here!

IWasTrendingThereForAMinute · 14/12/2018 23:45

I would do it in a heartbeat. DH would do it for me and that is why. He has helped me out of scrapes and vice versa. It's what I signed up for.

fizzthecat1 · 14/12/2018 23:46

He can get an Uber surely?

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