To find it a bit upsetting that my Dec born dc gets shit presents...

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From relatives. I know it's an expensive time of year but it's the same date every year, hardly shocking.

I put a lot of effort into all my nieces and nephews birthday presents throughout the year and wouldn't dream of wrapping their present up in Christmas paper or spending £3 on a present "because it's Christmas soon". Every birthday so far this has happened!

I'm probably being unreasonable, but I just feel sorry for my dc!

My DH has a December the 27th birthday and we love it. We all use it as a great excuse to carry on the festivities. He has always got great presents and never a ‘double up ‘ with Christmas.

However, I now have three December birthdays:- a DH, a niece and the SIL to be and, with Christmas, it is tooth suckingly expensive.

Still. You have to pay your dues to the party gods and we are all a long time dead.

Don’t have Dec born kids but I most certainly would not combine his birthday with Christmas. I would make his day special as it is his birthday and every other child gets to celebrate their birthdays as a birthday so why not him too? YANBU Perhaps mention it to people who are going to buy or usually buy things for him. He is a little child after all its these little things that cause children to grow up with various issues later on in life that will affect others they end up marrying and then having kids with. It might sound silly but it’s the little things that end up causing larger issues.

What about people thinking to buy things for him in advance in the sales months before his birthday by you giving them examples/ideas of what he is into. Whether ir not sales are on I always think about friends or family when I see something I think someone would like and put it aside for an upcoming birthday. I’m sure telling those who care to buy something would make an effort to be mindful of him,

SimplyPut family have the right idea

My birthday and my husband's are both early may so we always celebrate around the bank holiday which is fab!

Both of our children are very early Jan.. they will be 3 and 1 and I've already been asked if a "joint present" for both Christmas and birthday will do for the older one... 😡

My birthday is on 9th Dec. I've got to say I've always loved having a Christmas birthday. I've never felt that people don't bother. When I was little my mum would put the Christmas decs up when I went to bed on the 8th so when i got up on my birthday they were all up. I'm talking late 80's/early 90's with the ceiling decs and everything! I loved it

The only downside is trying to organise something, like a meal or drinks out, as everyone is either skint or has a Christmas work do the same night

Our 3rd grandchild and 1st Granddaughter is due on Christmas day though I doubt she will be on time. It will still be a pain for her all her life.

However her mom and dad and us will not allow her birthday to not be celebrated. Something will be done. Her birthday presents will be wrapped in birthday wrapping not Christmas wrapping. Wait and see what date she arrives first

I have a family member born on Christmas day. We always had separate presents and a birthday cake but I know they still felt bad about it.

Judging by this thread, I think March should be completely sex free.

Just a note that I always buy my friends DD two gifts and wouldn't dream of wrapping the birthday gift in Christmas paper. You really mustn't ever combine the gifts, that's just wrong.

I have 2 DC’S born in December! I always make sure they have a separate celebration with their friends (party, sleepover, cinema trip etc) also always buy wrapping paper earlier so I can avoid Christmas wrap! YANBU to expect people to make an effort with DC’S Birthdays. Thankfully I’ve not had these issues with family. Wishing your DC a Happy Birthday

DDs 9th Birthday this week. No issues so far , she always has a separate gifts , a party and a fuss made . Nobody’s done a joint present or not bothered so far.
And to I’d never plan a birthday in December , I’m just glad I had a much longed for baby.

My husband's was last week. I always make sure he has different presents, they're wrapped in non-christmas paper and we don't put the tree up till after his birthday.

He says he isn't bothered, but he makes such efforts for our birthdays and it would feel shitty and mean to not do the same for him.

DS will be 13 on Christmas Day - he loves it! He feel like it is a very special thing. I really went out of my way though to always make a fuss of it being his birthday.
Grandparents probably spend more on him than they might at a different time. Some other relatives have done the present in Christmas paper thing though. DS doesn't care as he is very laid back but it really makes me cross!
On the plus side now that he is older more relatives tend to give him money so he ends up with enough to buy something large.

I'm getting a bit emotional now at the thought of my baby being a teenager!

Boxing Day birthday here and my youngest was born during Advent last year and I was sent 1 card to cover; New baby, Christmas, my birthday and New Year.

Going by your user name. I take it that you named him after 'Good old Saint Nick, himself.

My birthday is 2 days before Xmas and if never felt like I got less presents? Iv never had a party but iv always been given lovely presents. To be honest I wouldn't be bothered if people said they could not afford to get me a present as i understand things are tight this time of year . I have Dec and Jan born kids and have never felt they missed out or were given short shrift.

Oh and Xmas cards / birthday cards I couldn't give a fig . I can't believe people get upset over not getting a Xmas, birthday, new year ( never knew such a card existed) card. I hate cards anyways so I'm grateful I don't get many

babyspider No!! Too close to my name!

YANBU. My son's birthday is the 24th Dec. We always make sure birthday presents are wrapped completely in birthday paper and separate from Christmas ones. He's 7 this year and as he understands, we have a summer birthday and he gets his main birthday present then, with smaller ones on his birthday. We did a birthday party for his friends for the first time this year, needed to have it on the i
1st to avoid clashing with everything.

Yep I used to get that too. To give a combined birthday and Christmas present=I'm a tightwad.
Love the idea of the half birthday though.
In jobs where you can't take time off in December if your birthday falls in this month you can't have the day off.
"I'm sorry I was born at an inconvenient time of the year,I'll change it,shall I?"
Good idea OP though.
Love the idea of saving the Christmas wrapping paper for the birthday of that person in the middle of the year!!!!!

One of my kids birthday is a week before Christmas the other is a week after. Both have thier own special days. The only thing that shits me is inlaws dont wrap presents. I think thats the best part is unwrapping but they dont skimp on gifts

My DDs is tomorrow she will be 5 and is already saying "No one cares about my birthday because it is nearly Christmas."

I am up preparing the house for her party because she is at school tomorrow

My DD is 14th Dec & DS on 22nd Dec
It’s a crazy month, but we all love it.

They both get a party or celebration of some kind and I send out invites 7-8 weeks in advance so it’s booked in peoples busy diaries.

They love the house is decorated & full of Christmas lights. Friends & family get them separate gifts - all birthday wrapped.

Tbh if people got them joint gifts & couldn’t be arsed to get a separate gift, I’d have to say something. I wouldn’t do it when I buy for them.

They do get presents all at the same time of the year but now they are getting older (13 & soon to be 8) they get given a bit of money or gift vouchers so I make them save them until spring time & they then get some new stuff to enjoy later.

By Christmas Eve, I’m knackered but still love it. My birthday is Jan 19th and I always plan a girls night out 2 months in advance and everyone’s usually bored of dry January by then

At 39 weeks pregnant I’ve lost count of the number of people who have berated me for my ‘bad planning’, as my baby will apparently hate me for his crap birthday. My response has generally been ‘well hopefully he’ll prefer it to the alternative, which is that he wouldn’t have been born at all’. However judging by some of the responses on here from people with December birthdays, maybe I’m wrong!